No good at fingering girls, does this make me look inexperienced?

I am pretty inexperienced but I feel more confident in bed than I used to. I'm in my late twenties and only had sex around 8 or 9 times. I feel fairly confident at the actual 'sex' part now but I've never been able to get my head around fingering despite having read up on it online.

I recently tried to rub a girls clitoris but sort of made a fool out of myself as I was doing it completely wrong and she was getting nothing out of it.

Would this make me look really wierd and inexperienced? Am I better off just not fingering them at all and getting them wet in other ways?

I am pretty inexperienced but I feel more confident in bed than I used to. I'm in my late twenties and only had sex around 8 or 9 times. I feel fairly confident at the actual 'sex' part now but I've never been able to get my head around fingering despite having read up on it online.

 

I recently tried to rub a girls clitoris but sort of made a fool out of myself as I was doing it completely wrong and she was getting nothing out of it.

 

Would this make me look really wierd and inexperienced? Am I better off just not fingering them at all and getting them wet in other ways?

It varies from woman to woman.

Ask her to take your hand and show you what she likes. You aren't a mind reader.

Did she tell you that you were doing it completely wrong without even giving you directions in what would help her to become arouse and get off? If that is the case then she's doing it just as "wrong" as you may have been doing it wrong. How long have you and this girl been knowing one another?

Like ReInventingMyself says... you're not a mind reader.

First, we are talking about sex. Sex and "girls" is creepy. Unless you want to be called boy and now we are talking about sex between a boy and a girl. Still creepy.

So, when wanting to give a woman pleasure manually, chances are you will need to use a combination of penetration and stimulation of the clitoris. The latter changes during stages of arousal, and how you touch it needs to change as well. Studying a discussion of women's biology would help you.

Arm yourself with knowledge.

No oral yet either?

getting them wet in other ways?

Well honestly not every girl likes to be fingered. I don't really prefer it, most partners I've had are too rough and I don't love that. The best tip I can give when it comes to fingering is don't do it like they do it in porn, be easy, don't go rapid fire, most girls don't like that. I had a guy actually make me bleed once, terrible experience.

I think most woman prefer oral because it stimulates the clit and that is where most woman are able to reach orgasm from. Communication is key in the bedroom though, ask your partner what they like, take their cues. Sex is something that should be adaptable to the person your with, no one size fits all (no pun intended) lol

Oral mate, the best thing ever, girls love it.

I am pretty inexperienced but I feel more confident in bed than I used to. I'm in my late twenties and only had sex around 8 or 9 times. I feel fairly confident at the actual 'sex' part now but I've never been able to get my head around fingering despite having read up on it online.

 

I recently tried to rub a girls clitoris but sort of made a fool out of myself as I was doing it completely wrong and she was getting nothing out of it.

 

Would this make me look really wierd and inexperienced? Am I better off just not fingering them at all and getting them wet in other ways?

You're inexperienced... It's painfully obvious... You can't hide it, so just play it... Most women love showing a guy the ropes if he's willing to learn. I'd even go as far to say that often it's preferred, as long as you aren't weird about it...

We've all missed the mark starting out, or otherwise... And it's slightly different with every woman...

So f**k what you do or don't know... Listening gets you farther than the majority...

And f**k it... Just admit you're inexperienced and have fun learning...

I agree with much of the advise you have been given. My wife of 30 years does not like fingering. Every woman I have enjoyed fingering, all were very tender and required much care when touching the clit.

As mentioned above two things to try. Read and look at some adadomy pictures, keeping in mind they are all pretty much the same with some slight differences.

I went the route of learning and perfecting oral technics since many women have trouble with the big O with intercourse only. I also suffered with PE and in order to make it fun oral became my obsession in learning different ways to do it. My wife really enjoys my obsession and when I try something new. I still read and learn new things after 40+ years.

Relax , read, and learn oral , you will never worry about how to finger again. Cheers

If you aren't opposed to watching porn, I suggest you watch more girl on girl videos. You'll learn a lot. And that's a homework assignment you can enjoy....

Every woman is different too. What feels bad to one might feel great to another. Not to say you won't get more of a feel for it overall as you get more experience, but don't be too hasty to brand yourself as "bad at fingering" because of one woman's comment.

i feel like most guys who think they're bad at this area are ones who kind of force it instead of being in tune with the girls level of arousal.

What I mean is that you should do enough foreplay, kissing, touching, etc where you allow her to get aroused a bit before you start shoving your finger in her. If she's dry and you're pushing it inside her, it's not going to be pleasant for her and will hurt. Use what you already have. Saliva. Lick your finger. Better yet, push you finger in her mouth and have her lick it before you slip it inside her. That will help tremendously.

More than anything, also know that the attention should be on her clit. Most girls won't be able to orgasm just frlm penetrative sex/fingers. So play with her clit and then slowly work your finger in once she's aroused and wet to finish her off.

The way this thread is titled is a useful clue to the solution.

Bad at [sex act], how will this make me look?

Try this thought pattern:

Bad at [sex act], please help me improve so I can please my partner.

Do you see the difference? For anyone of any experience level, to be good at sex one has to be focused on one's partner. Focus on yourself, and it shows in your actions. Forget yourself, and you become almost animal, the way we touch becomes intuitive.