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Is it reason to get angry, when your being called a liar and accused of stuff when it isn't true.

 

Conversation was about sex, i went about 2 or 3 years not enjoying sex at all. I would have to get drunk to bring myself to do it for a year. I didn't come and a lot of the time couldn't even get it up because i had no interest in it and it was something i really didn't want to do. There was one girl i did have some good sex with when it came to it, mainly due to the ego side of giving her 6-7 orgasms because i just wouldn't come. It was still something i didn't want to do but it was something to do for the girl. Even masturbation i couldn't really get hard for.

 

I then met my current partner (6 months) and sex was great, i was giving her multiple orgasms while keeping myself hard the whole time and coming too, and then being able to and wanting to go again half hour later once refreshed. My sex life with this girl was so much more enjoyable and i couldn't wait to get her into bed and i thought about it all the time.

 

Today i said this too her, how i felt about our sex life and she instantly tells me i'm lying. She said that she has seen a forum post on a previous forum i used saying about my inability to come but that i was enjoying sex with this girl i met (the ego boosting one).

 

She kept making repeated remarks about how i'm a liar but its none of her business and that its just very suspicious that i would lie about this.

 

I told her that i was having sex a lot and i disliked it, just because i had it 3 or 4 times that i liked doesn't mean that i enjoyed it as a whole.

 

This just caused her to go into a massive argument about how i'm a liar and she doesn't want to be lied to and i need an attitude overhaul. I told her it's before i even knew she existed that this happened, so for her to comment on whether im lying and take an interest at all and start an argument over it is over the top. She doesn't know, just because she went into my computer history and found forum posts from years ago and read them all. She is constantly bringing up things about "you took a girl from the gym on a date before" if im at the gym etc based on forum posts she read on that waiting for a response from me.

 

Why is it my duty to answer to her accusations that im a liar over whether i disliked sex before her? Why do i have to sit through her start an argument over it?

 

Am i in the wrong?

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Getting angry in general is poor self control. Learn to just ignore and let go........build an invisible wall around you that disables people to effect your mood and emotion.

 

ESPECIALLY when you are being called a liar. Lot of people will think you are lying/get defensive when they sense anger from a person that's being accused.

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Relationship Rule 101 - don't discuss your sexual partners and sexual experience from your past with your current part and certainly don't make comparison even if you think it's complimentary. It will bite you in azz 99.9999% of the time.

 

As for being called a liar when you aren't, just get over it. Seriously. It happens more than you realize, just that strangers, co-workers, even friends are liable to keep their mouth shut and not actually say it to your face. Whether someone believes you or not depends a lot on their own perspective and life experience, which often has little to do with you directly.

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Can you reassure her that the sex with her is great? Why is she reading forums to keep a pulse on the relationship/sex? Why would she believe you're not as pleased as it seems when you are together?

I then met my current partner (6 months) and sex was great. Why is it my duty to answer to her accusations that im a liar over whether i disliked sex before her?
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Relationship Rule 101 - don't discuss your sexual partners and sexual experience from your past with your current part and certainly don't make comparison even if you think it's complimentary. It will bite you in azz 99.9999% of the time.

 

As for being called a liar when you aren't, just get over it. Seriously. It happens more than you realize, just that strangers, co-workers, even friends are liable to keep their mouth shut and not actually say it to your face. Whether someone believes you or not depends a lot on their own perspective and life experience, which often has little to do with you directly.

 

Great post

 

NOTHING good can come of talking about sexual experiences from the past. Only pain.

 

The ONLY thing that should be shared (in time) is:

- STD

- Nudes/Porn participation

- high level of partners

 

Rest, I don't want to know......

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I can't believe I'm the first to say this....she's acting like a psycho. Going through old forums of yours? Starting an argument because you told her you like the sex? How ridiculous. And what you said previously to other women is none of her business, I'd have been mad about that alone. But the rest of it? Arguing with her over whether you're lying about liking the sex? He|| no..crazy bit*h.

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I can't believe I'm the first to say this....she's acting like a psycho. Going through old forums of yours? Starting an argument because you told her you like the sex? How ridiculous. And what you said previously to other women is none of her business, I'd have been mad about that alone. But the rest of it? Arguing with her over whether you're lying about liking the sex? He|| no..crazy bit*h.

 

That's been said many times in his previous posts about their relationship, but it seems that he doesn't want to hear it.....and continues on posting more crazy stuff....and sticking around with her for more craziness....so I'm guessing that in the end he is thoroughly enjoying all this drama.

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That's been said many times in his previous posts about their relationship, but it seems that he doesn't want to hear it.....and continues on posting more crazy stuff....and sticking around with her for more craziness....so I'm guessing that in the end he is thoroughly enjoying all this drama.

 

YUP! Drama junkie!

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I can see her inquiring about the inconsistency. *maybe*

 

But I personally don't tolerate someone challenging my integrity and calling me a liar. Let alone over and over.

If she doesn't trust you then she shouldn't be with you. Nor should you want to be with her.

 

That coupled with invading your privacy isn't enough for you to question whether or not you should continue with this person??

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I can't believe I'm the first to say this....she's acting like a psycho. Going through old forums of yours? Starting an argument because you told her you like the sex? How ridiculous. And what you said previously to other women is none of her business, I'd have been mad about that alone. But the rest of it? Arguing with her over whether you're lying about liking the sex? He|| no..crazy bit*h.

 

She may be crazy, but he loves it so what does that make him? It takes 2 to tango.

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Good grief!!! Why are you still with this woman? How many threads do you need to create on your problems with her?

 

Get some therapy and end the relationship! It is sick and unhealthy!

 

The other factor to consider is that psychologically he may not be able to enjoy sex as much without all of the unhealthy drama.

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Those referring to past posts i dont have a computer, or reasonable internet/wifi on my phone at work (i live at work) so i can only go on this site when im in the office. I post my threads when i have a little downtime but never get to go back to check replies as the workload piles up again.

I check now and again but by then, all the posts saying to leave her and ne and her are back to being normal again for the rest of the day.

 

An argument we had on wednesday that i still cannot get over, i said to her that her drug abuse and addiction past makea me uncomfortable that she hasnt seperated herself from any of it. I saw a message to her friend she left her phone saying she misses drugs and cannot wait to move to london. This friend is a major enabler and a total full blown addict. She then moved to london and lives with this friend.

 

Me bringing up this concern to her, she flipped out saying that i have upset her becauae she isnt who i want to be and its disgusting i can even say this to her and it is pushing her away. In the end i had to apologise to her for upsetting her while she left my issue completely alone, well she said "i dont want it and dont appreciate being asked this question."

 

Tell me im crazy and shouldnt have apologised for upsetting her with a concern i had?? Thats something thats been playing on my mind a lot.

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She is nuts. I'm sure you have been and you will continue to be called worse names, if you stick with her.

You are not being appreciated, and you keep giving without receiving much in return. How long are you willing to do this?

 

Called worse? You dont even know! In the last two days shes called me a coward repeatedly, a cheater, unloyal, unfaithful, an autistic coward.

 

Today in the last hour (yes an argument over me complimenting her)

 

"Youre disgusting. Dont hold your breath you absolute dreg of a human being."

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Called worse? You dont even know! In the last two days shes called me a coward repeatedly, a cheater, unloyal, unfaithful, an autistic coward.

 

Today in the last hour (yes an argument over me complimenting her)

 

"Youre disgusting. Dont hold your breath you absolute dreg of a human being."

So . .why are you still with her??

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Why won't you address why you stay in this obviously sick relationship?

 

My only guess is 1)the sex is so great that it's worth the garbage you have to put up with or 2)you love drama.

 

If it's either of those reasons, why complain? Either way you're getting what you want from this horrible woman.

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Called worse? You dont even know! In the last two days shes called me a coward repeatedly, a cheater, unloyal, unfaithful, an autistic coward.

 

Today in the last hour (yes an argument over me complimenting her)

 

"Youre disgusting. Dont hold your breath you absolute dreg of a human being."

 

Are you kidding me??? If I knew you, I would personally lock you somewhere so you can never interact with that idiot again! You sound like such a nice, decent guy, so let me ask you this: why on earth are you putting up with this cr@p? She is being beyond abusive, and completely not fit to be anyone's girlfriend, or friend, or anything for that matter. Why do you think you deserve something like this? What she's doing is not normal, and once she's done with you the psychological damage she's caused you will be very difficult to repair.

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I check now and again but by then, all the posts saying to leave her and ne and her are back to being normal again for the rest of the day.

 

Don't you want a relationship in which there is peace for longer than a day or couple of days?

Be honest with yourself—do you think this is a good relationship?

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