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Hi guys, I have this job for 3 1/2 years now. I love my job but I'm starting to hate the company. Aside from the lack of promotion, being underpaid, non-existent bonus, neglecting us technician or discrimination between engineers and technicians that I have endured since I do love my job and that I feel I haven't earned enough experience yet today, I just had enough. The reason is the management have some allegations against me such as that I am moonlighting (working w/ clients in secrets and competing w/ the company and doing those while on duty), conspiring with a co-worker in starting a company which will compete with our current company, and withholding passwords, information, and knowledge and that I almost merit being fired (although they can't since they still need to prove it). I'm actually surprised upon hearing that from my co-worker as those things never crossed my mind since I've start working in this company. It just seems that the top management are so paranoid about their employees and having trust issues. Whatever they or the one started this are thinking, planning, I just don't care as I know myself that I haven't done wrong and I don't need to prove anything. Tomorrow I'll be submitting my resignation letter, I want to leave on good terms but I don't know if the contents of the letter would burn any bridges. Below is my letter, what do you think guys? Its a bit long, thank you for reading.

 

 

Dear Management Team:

 

First of all, from the bottom of my heart, I would like to thank you for this wonderful opportunity that you’ve given me and that is to be part of this company. It is indeed very hard to find a job this days, even much harder to find a job in which you are also passionate about and because of this I consider myself so blessed to have this opportunity. This company didn’t just provided me the growth in terms of career but also and most importantly, in life. For me, this is my dream job, actually I don’t even feel like I’m working at all because I’m having so much fun in what I am doing. In this company is where I discovered my passions in life. This is the kind of job that I would love to do all my life. This is also where I experienced great camaraderie between different individuals, it’s been a pleasure working with bright, talented individuals in which I almost consider them as brothers or family.

 

Ever since I became part of this company, I am thankful for the trust that the management has given me especially in handling complicated tasks/projects. This has been a great challenge to me but there is no one time in which I felt discouraged. I always gave my best shot every time and even though I lack some qualifications or knowledge, I made it sure that it won’t became a hindrance. That is the best I can do to show the management how grateful I am.

 

It is sad that I have no choice but to cut my journey with this company too soon. We all know that in any relationship, including employer-employees, trust is the most important factor. Ever since I became part of this company, it never crossed my mind to do something against the company especially allegations such as moonlighting, conspiring to build a company, and withholding important passwords, knowledge, and information in the company. Those allegations will never serve me to the best of my interests, all I want is to pursue my goals that I have set even before I started my journey in this industry. I always strive for the best, even tried my very best to exceed the company’s expectation on me without expecting any returns nor benefits whether monetary, promotions, nor praise. I didn’t know where those allegations started, who started it, their agenda or purpose. I don’t care anything about whose behind this nor if there are more allegations aside from what I’ve already heard, all I know is I didn’t do anything wrong and I don’t deserve all of this. Because of this, I won’t be able to perform to my best and do my job efficiently and therefore I am now resigning in my post as Technical Specialist. I am willing to render up to 30 days effective starting today to do my best for the last time to train my replacement and turn over my duties and responsibilities. I hope upon leaving the company, I will bring all the joys and memories I’ve had in this company that I will cherish all my life. Once again, thank you very much and I wish you and this company all the best success.

 

Sincerely,

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No, no, no.

 

While the urge to vent and explain yourself is high, this isn't how you do it.

 

A resignation letter:

 

Management Team:

 

Effective immediately, I am tendering my resignation (Jan. 14, 2016). I can be available for 2 weeks to assist in training my replacement, but understand if you deem this unnecessary.

 

Regard,

frozen

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Thanks mhowe, I've read about that that's why I decided to ask here. I'm okay with your suggestion although the minimum notice period in our country as per the law is 30 days, how about the exit interview? I'm sure they will try to make me tell the exact reason there? Should I say it there (it's not documented anymore), or just say that I'm resigning and it's because of personal reasons and I can't tell them.

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No, no, no.

 

While the urge to vent and explain yourself is high, this isn't how you do it.

 

A resignation letter:

 

Management Team:

 

Effective immediately, I am tendering my resignation (Jan. 14, 2016). I can be available for 2 weeks to assist in training my replacement, but understand if you deem this unnecessary.

 

Regard,

frozen

 

This is all you need to know OP.

 

Ignore your urge/emotion and put your feelings to the side! I get it, trust me, EVERYONE would love to go out with the bang, unfortunately that's the worst/last thing you want to do!

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I also would like to add that before the end of the year, they are threatening us that there are some employees that will be fired due to dishonesty, and today I learned about this non-sense and just laughing about them for thinking such things. Also due to some circumstances, my job here is not in line with my goals anymore. Although the management didn't told me about this yet (a trusted co-worker of mine successfully made the junior manager spit this out), I bet on the exit interview they will raise this to me. How should I respond? I'm thinking to act surprised but tell them it doesn't matter since I didn't do anything wrong.

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Thanks mhowe, I've read about that that's why I decided to ask here. I'm okay with your suggestion although the minimum notice period in our country as per the law is 30 days, how about the exit interview? I'm sure they will try to make me tell the exact reason there? Should I say it there (it's not documented anymore), or just say that I'm resigning and it's because of personal reasons and I can't tell them.

 

Ok, then you make it 30 days. Some people will ask you to stay, others will show you the door.

 

Exit interview ---"zip it".

Why are you leaving --- "I have decided that my career opportunities are better elsewhere".

 

RESIST all need to vent, spew or otherwise degrade your experience. They cannot "make you" tell them anything, including where you are going. It's none of their business. You don't tell them "I can't tell you". You simply say you are leaving. Period. End of discussion.

 

Is it something here? No.

 

Resist the urge to give details.

 

Remember, in business as in life ----- discretion is the key.

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I also would like to add that before the end of the year, they are threatening us that there are some employees that will be fired due to dishonesty, and today I learned about this non-sense and just laughing about them for thinking such things. Also due to some circumstances, my job here is not in line with my goals anymore. Although the management didn't told me about this yet (a trusted co-worker of mine successfully made the junior manager spit this out), I bet on the exit interview they will raise this to me. How should I respond? I'm thinking to act surprised but tell them it doesn't matter since I didn't do anything wrong.

 

It doesn't matter. Whatever they "raise" to you --- you simply say "No, that has nothing to do with it. As I said, my opportunities lie elsewhere."

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thank you very much mhowe, now I'm feeling more comfortable in doing it tomorrow... I've revised your suggestion, will this be ok?

 

Management Team:

 

Effective immediately, I am tendering my resignation (Jan. 15, 2016). I can be available for up to 30 days to assist in training my replacement and to turn over my duties and responsibilities, but understand if you deem this unnecessary. I would like to thank you for the opportunity of being part of this company.

 

Regards,

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No, no, no.

 

While the urge to vent and explain yourself is high, this isn't how you do it.

 

A resignation letter:

 

Management Team:

 

Effective immediately, I am tendering my resignation (Jan. 14, 2016). I can be available for 2 weeks to assist in training my replacement, but understand if you deem this unnecessary.

 

Regard,

frozen

 

I think mhowe's letter is the right way to go. Don't bother with the vents. Just get straight to the point. Give them 30 days notice and that's that.

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I think the urge to do this is natural and completely normal.

 

Problem is, things are the way they are FOR A REASON. They are a result of what has lead up to this point.

 

Telling a company what's wrong or to fix something is assuming they will change. And companies/people don't change, if they did, things wouldn't be the way they are.

 

I also think that OP gives this company WAY too much credit, which will ONLY build their ego even further and they will not only repeat the mistakes, they will make them WORSE!

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In this instance I think the whole killing them with kindness is far better. I would not quit now while there are allegations against you, because then they are free to say, "You see, she was guilty and that's why she left." Nope, I would nicely put on a hurt act, go to HR or your bosses, and ask for proof of the allegations. Play the whole, "I have been loyal to this company for four years and now this. I want to know exactly who said what and where this came from." And if no proof can be given or they then backpedal tell them great, but in order for you to stay you need to see something in writing about all allegations being lifted and that these were not true. (Keep in mind this may all be from a jealous coworker etc. so you really do want to try and find out who said what and where or if it's even true that anyone in management has said any such thing. Or did it all just come from the coworker?)

 

Get that piece of paper in hand, so they can't blacklist you in the future. Smile and be all cheers for a few more weeks then turn in your resignation simply thanking them for the time they've employed you, how wonderful it's been, and it is with sad regret you are going to say goodbye as you feel you need to expand your career options. Say nothing but that at the exit interview, smile sweetly and when they bring up the whole allegations make sure you have the piece of paper exonerating you and tell the person, "Nonsense, that silly matter was cleared up weeks ago. It has nothing to do with this." Do not budge off of that and DO NOT confide in a single coworker that's the reason.

 

If you can, look them in the eye and ask for a referral letter even. Make sure you gather in writing as much positive proof and ammo as you can. That way if they try to blackball or blacklist you to competitors you can act the wounded, "What? But they themselves cleared me of those allegations, it was a silly misunderstanding. I even have the letter where they admit that, here it is." But only do that if it comes up. Also send them any and all good referrals you get from coworkers, the company, former clients etc.

 

Trust me, you'll come out looking like a rose, you won't burn any bridges for those who see you're a class act that handled it well, and nobody will be able to point and say, "She left under a cloud of suspicion."

 

And if they then insist on slandering your name you have a pretty good case to take to an attorney. And while you're at it, I'd go consult with one now who handles employee/employer issues anyways just to get their opinion.

 

Right or wrong, allegations against you can lead to you being blacklisted. You want those allegations cleared before you leave most likely, but I do not know the laws in your country or state so this is where consulting an attorney would really help who specializes in such things. Or your union if you have one.

 

This is just what I would do, but you may have something else in mind. This is just my two cents on the matter and how I'd play it if I were in a similar position, knowing now what I didn't know way back when I did have something like that come up. An attorney might advise differently, because I am not that and am not giving legal advise here so get that checked out.

 

False allegations against someone in the workplace are a very serious matter and should be treated as such with a cool, level head is all.

 

The revenge part comes in when they find out other people won't work for them as long for as low a pay or do as good a job. By then hopefully you'll be successfully employed elsewhere and you can be blissfully happy.

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I also would like to add that before the end of the year, they are threatening us that there are some employees that will be fired due to dishonesty, and today I learned about this non-sense and just laughing about them for thinking such things. Also due to some circumstances, my job here is not in line with my goals anymore. Although the management didn't told me about this yet (a trusted co-worker of mine successfully made the junior manager spit this out), I bet on the exit interview they will raise this to me. How should I respond? I'm thinking to act surprised but tell them it doesn't matter since I didn't do anything wrong.

 

So tell us again, what makes this company so great again? As per your resignation letter? hehe

 

This is what you do. Smile and say "I'm sorry to hear about this and good luck". It's no longer your concern or worry, you are leaving in 2 weeks (just don't state that of course)

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So tell us again, what makes this company so great again? As per your resignation letter? hehe

 

This is what you do. Smile and say "I'm sorry to hear about this and good luck".

 

 

Yeah you're right... dunno what I've been thinking, maybe it's just that I really love this job...

 

BTW guys, a network of mine (a former client) gave me a lead that they are hiring...

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@ParisPaulette: I'm also thinking about this that they might think that I'm guilty but although the government here in country sucks, the labor department is strict in protecting the employees in terms of tenure. They don't have any evidences and they are already known for bullying previous or old employees so even bad mouthing me won't do much... Besides I'm looking to work overseas now in which case as long as I meet the skills requirement, they won't give a damn about any personal problems between me and this company.

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Yeah you're right... dunno what I've been thinking, maybe it's just that I really love this job...

 

I know what you are thinking. You are all over the place/emotional and in NO state of mind to make any drastic decisions.

 

Wait till things cool off a bit/are back to normal.

 

WE ALL deal with this, trust me. I've been there!!!

 

BTW guys, a network of mine (a former client) gave me a lead that they are hiring...

 

Wait, you do have a job lined up already right? Please don't tell me you are quitting without a job.

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Yes, that's my question as well. Do you have another job already or are you quitting without a job?

 

Never quit until you have a new position.

 

Short and sweet on the resignation letter. I think you got that now.

 

Exit interview goes in trash, if they even give you one.

 

I don't know about your country, but as soon as you tender resignation, the company can accept it on the spot immediately.

Are you sure they can't do that? Don't know your situation and if you can handle losing the money.

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Yes, that's my question as well. Do you have another job already or are you quitting without a job?

 

Never quit until you have a new position.

 

Short and sweet on the resignation letter. I think you got that now.

 

Exit interview goes in trash, if they even give you one.

 

I don't know about your country, but as soon as you tender resignation, the company can accept it on the spot immediately.

Are you sure they can't do that? Don't know your situation and if you can handle losing the money.

 

I don't think they can do that, there are still projects ahead and I don't have a replacement yet.

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