gvision Posted November 26, 2015 Share Posted November 26, 2015 I met up with an ex from 5 years ago and in the heat of the moment we had unprotected sex. Now here are the facts: - She is 27, I'm 29. - She just started birth control, but is only on day 4. But apparently birth control doesn't kick in till day 7 - She has a regular 28 day cycle and we had Sex on day 10, so technically this could be 2 days before ovulation. - I pulled out 100% in time, and masturbated the last 5 seconds to finish in my hand Should I be worried? I'm worried. The last thing I want is a baby. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted November 26, 2015 Share Posted November 26, 2015 Yes, you certainly should be worried anytime you have unprotected sex. You're both equally responsible for the use of birth control. I wish you the best, but if you're in the clear, take the lesson with you. Link to comment
Clinton Posted November 26, 2015 Share Posted November 26, 2015 Well, withdrawal is one of the least effective methods of all time soooooo... Plus the chance of hiv, ghonnorea, syphilis, chlamydia etc etc. Wrap it up next time. Link to comment
Feast Posted November 26, 2015 Share Posted November 26, 2015 It's very unlikely but you can't rule out pregnancy completely. You pulled out but precum can contain sperm on rare occasion. Look it up, no doctors here really. Your are just going to get barraged about understanding consequences, STDs, being adult, etc. I used to worry about this like you are now, it'll be ok., just be more careful going forward. Must have been an awkward conversation getting all the particulars of her cycle. Be careful asking about doing a pregnancy test too early, it won't work now anyway too soon plus you'll freak her out. Link to comment
gvision Posted November 27, 2015 Author Share Posted November 27, 2015 It's very unlikely but you can't rule out pregnancy completely. You pulled out but precum can contain sperm on rare occasion. Look it up, no doctors here really. Your are just going to get barraged about understanding consequences, STDs, being adult, etc. I used to worry about this like you are now, it'll be ok., just be more careful going forward. Must have been an awkward conversation getting all the particulars of her cycle. Be careful asking about doing a pregnancy test too early, it won't work now anyway too soon plus you'll freak her out. All this happened less than 24 hours ago so I could ask her to take Plan B but she will probably think I'm being weird. She doesn't seem to be worried about it... Link to comment
melancholy123 Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 She should be concerned! I think you should suggest the Plan B pill if there's still time to get it and take it. Yes let this be a lesson to you for the next time. Link to comment
Dottieflanogon Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 You should be nervous : you had unprotected sex. Plan B may be advisable for her, it is effective for up to 72 hrs after. Yes there are side effects, with which she will have to contend due to the decision the two of you made.Go and get tested immediately and then wait a few months and get tested again. Use this as a learning experience. Link to comment
Feast Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 She will think your weird for asking most likely. I'm not familiar with plan B, when it should be used or not. My gut says your OK without going there based on the circumstances, but I'm no doctor. Maybe you can go talk to one tomorrow morning and get a doctors opinion. This brings up all kinds of ethical questions, she may feel uncomfortable taking it, most likely she'll think it's unnecessary. I find that girls I've dated aren't all that worried about it, oddly enough. This reminds me of when I was your age, I was always freaked out about getting my GF pregnant even though I was being careful, condoms have a failure rate too. My GF would just roll her eyes, you bought another pregnancy test, really! Back then there was no plan B. Link to comment
greta96 Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 I think the chances of her getting pregnant are pretty high, in the situation you described. I do think you have reasons to worry. You should be even more worried if you know she wants you back. I also suggest plan B, if it's not too late for that. Link to comment
Stay_home Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 You might have pulled out but there's also pre-ejac prior to the full load that you have to worry about too. Link to comment
WithLove Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 Chances are slim, but still definitely there. It's alarming that she's not concerned, to be honest. You can't make her take Plan B. All you can do is offer to take her to get it. If she does, great! If she doesn't, you better pray your pre-swimmers didn't make it. Either way, you should get yourself tested for STDs. Link to comment
mhowe Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 All this happened less than 24 hours ago so I could ask her to take Plan B but she will probably think I'm being weird. She doesn't seem to be worried about it... She may be ready to be pregnant. Hence her getting "caught up" in the heat of a wanted pregnancy. Link to comment
Feast Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 She may be ready to be pregnant. Hence her getting "caught up" in the heat of a wanted pregnancy. Definitely a rule to live with as a guy, use condom until engaged / married. Trusting GF is properly taking the pill or other birth control is generally a bad decision. Link to comment
TMifune Posted November 27, 2015 Share Posted November 27, 2015 Who's idea was the meetup? Who initiated the sex? When was her last relationship? It's not unheard of for women who are already pregnant and in a crappy situation to lookup an old boyfriend and "things just happen". Next thing you know they're telling you the kid is yours. I'd be suspicious as hell if an ex showed up and was willing to have unprotected sex on the spot. I think most women know exactly what they're doing when it comes to taking pregnancy risks. Link to comment
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