Husband wants to get back together I've moved on

So okay to make a long story short I've been married for 2 years, but I've been separated for a year and we only lived together for like 7 months of our marriage .We Lived together so short of a period because he deployed at the 6 month mark which was around the time I found out 1 day after losing my baby that he was cheating, had a woman in our home while I was gone found naked photos of them and pics of him walking around in his underwear from a tablet he bought in the house and packed in his deployment stuff . I found it while I was cleaning up and adding things to his bag. He left , we talked and agreed on marriage therapy. However he continued to be in contact with this woman, she knew we were married and she knew who I was by the way but they continued the relationship while he was deployed and when he came back OMG so many lies they have told together to cover up the affair I'm not gonna even add it all in. But we went on vacation after he came back to his home town , he would leave me at both of our moms to go visit women and I found out about it while I was there and I called an old friend and vented to him and he came and got me and took me to my dads house and hour away in Atlanta because my husband started acting a fool being defensive because he got caught. But after his vacation time was up he came and got me and we went back to home, I found out I was pregnant again and again we decided to work it out and that's when I found out yet again he was still dealing with the woman he bought into our home and another woman he was dealing with had access to our money through a debt card he gave her. And that was the last straw I packed up my things and I left! Haven't seen him since! I couldn't take it anymore because never in my life had I been treated so low by a man and I was becoming someone I wasn't , I even broke his nose at one point. His mom didn't help either because from the day I met her she gossiped to my face about a few family members that I have that live near her , I was stunned because she had no shame! I didn't say anything to her but I told my husband that she was wrong for that... But she would scold him for allowing me to put him out , and one time he hit me with an object the last time we discovered I was pregnant because he was mad I was leaving him because of his continued cheating ! She called the police on me, I was so mad because like I'm pregnant ur son is in the wrong he created this and you are not being a very good mother, Christian , or wife siding with him as if he is in the right! I know she can take up for her kid and stand with him right or wrong, but I just have zero respect for his family and it makes me all the more grateful for my family and the folks that raised me because when I'm in the wrong they make sure and made sure I knew I was wrong ! My parents never played that game with me, I come from a very good family that was built on morals and values! Anyway back to the present , I left and he was ordered to pay me seperation from the army. I left when around the time the lease was up, he packed up everything and moved in with the girl who he had in our home. I know this because our military friends told me, and even sent me pictures of their house and the inside of it. A lot of his friends disowned him. But through his time of living with her , he has always called and texted me wanting to work things out! So, we talk from time to time but just through texts and part of the reason why I still communicate somewhat is because I feel guilty if I don't because he still sends me money we haven't filed for divorce yet because I honestly don't have lawyer money. He gets out in 3 months so I'll be able to file pro Se, I also want to add that I was told I could dodge lawyer fees by putting an add in the paper to imply I don't know where he is but I don't want to lie. Anywho my friend who I told you about earlier in this long story lol my friend who came and got me . I've been knowing him for 11 years, and we have fallen completely in love! He's my everything, he's never cheated on me, he's never put me down, he always helps me, treats me like a queen , as a matter of a fact he calls me queen he doesn't even call me by my name! he wants to marry me, I could look like crap and he loves me still, matter of a fact that's when he's all over me! Lol he's so amazing and I love him. He knows everything about my estranged husband and I so I haven't lied to him, he also knows my plan for pro Se. And I also know I'm not wrong for being with someone else, because the word of God says if a spouse cheats and the other one chooses to leave they can and they can go on to be with someone else without punishment. But I still have my estranged husband hitting me up asking to fix our marriage, but the damage has been done completely . I haven't told him I have a serious pre marital relationship going on because I don't want to drive him over the edge. He's been saying he wants to kill himself and how he feels guilty for all he's done, and that he's been ashamed to face me that's why he never showed up when we were supposed to see each other during Seperation. He also said he has been accused of sexual harassment by another soldiers wife (she lied, he only escorted her to her car he has witnesses) who was at a night club with a group of guys he was with so he feels god is punishing him for what he did, because his career was on the line for a while because of that. he also confessed to every lie he has told and finally confessed to moving in with that woman/having sex partners .... But it doesn't move me!!!! We NEVER went to therapy like he promised, he never stopped the cheating, I dislike his family and how he was raised... I'm completely turned of! Although him wanting to work it out may just be another facade like all the rest of the times he's begged me back but I feel bad for him and all but even if he's serious this time !!! >>> I don't want to go back I did all that I could , and cried every tear I could cry! I love my life now, I'm stronger, and I'm happier with who I'm with and I feel like the man I'm with is the one ! He loves me unconditionally and shows me every single day. So how do I tell my estranged husband all of this without feeling guilty , I hate breaking hearts. Granted he broke mines and spit on it, but still. Any advice ?

Sorry if I made typos and sorry the story wasn't so short , just know I left out a lot of hurtful details and prior events that took place.

Yikes, this guy is just toxic and whatever you do, please do NOT go back! Like you say, you have moved on and that's all he needs to know. Be strong and don't fall for any begging or pleading etc. Only way to go about its to tell the truth - "sorry, it's just not working for me anymore, I have moved on, and it's better we go our separate ways".

Thank you and I'm not ever going back, I can't even look him in the face let alone build anything with him after all he's done. I've been pondering for a long time how to say it, guess that's how I have to put it.

Do NOT under any circumstances go back with your ex. He is trouble and you know that better than anyone.. Best wishes to you!

Just because he wants it doesn't mean you have to do so. Draw your own boundaries, tell him to get lost it's done, and move on.

I see zero reason for you to go back to him, but of course he wants you back. He needs to know he has you waiting on a shelf while he continues to cheat on you. Come on, the guy has some other agenda for wanting you back. It certainly isn't love or like he's going to be faithful. He couldn't even manage that at the beginning of your relationship, so unless he's had a year or more of therapy on the topic and made major lifestyle changes all this is really is, "Please take me back. I really enjoyed yanking you around and hurting you and I miss doing that."

Plus if you paid bills or kept the house for him, then yeah I'm sure he doesn't like doing those things.

Delete, go NC, never look back. Conmen everywhere want you to give them your checkbook too and I'm sure you don't just hand that over 'cause they might ask. Same with this guy.

And you are not responsible for his suicidal thoughts. If he's serious about that tell him to get into therapy and if he threatens call 911 and have them come get him and see that he gets the help he needs. You're not a mental health professional and either he will get the help or it'll turn out to be a manipulation and he won't likely try that again.

Dont tell him anymore than he actually needs to know. Tell him it didn't work out with him and you have moved on. Leave it at that. Get your divorce asap. Dont look back.

Are you still pregnant?