Gymcandyman Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 Me and my ex gf have been broken up for a little over 2 months ,I took her for granted ,was selfish, she didn't think I really cared about her The things she didn't like about me I was addicted to gambling I took steroids had mood swings because of it Was abit lazy and got comftable In the past months I've been really thinking about the mistakes I've made ive banned myself from the bookies , quit the steroids , I've become a lot happier person and I'm changing for myself not just for her I'm starting become a real man growing up We've been in limited contact , she asked to meet me the other day for a catch up, we went gym together and we went to get some food, I proceeded to flirt with her make her laugh touch her as much as I could I told her how Im sorting myself out got a job realised the mistakes of the break up ,Last time she said she sees me as just a friend but I know she's just saying that so she don't get hurt again so am I wasting my time I just want to show how I've changed and I've improved get them lost feelings back taking things slow to gain her trust showing I won't let her down ever again is there a chance that I will get her back this way ?? Some good advice is needed Link to comment
Hollyj Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 Are going to any 12 step programs? Link to comment
Gymcandyman Posted August 13, 2015 Author Share Posted August 13, 2015 No I have banned myself from the gambling shops haven't been in there since the BU Link to comment
Hollyj Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 I commend you for the start, but two months is nothing. If you were really serious about treating your addictions, as well as the problems that contribute to them, you would seek a program. Link to comment
Gymcandyman Posted August 13, 2015 Author Share Posted August 13, 2015 Lol i don't need to seek any help I wasn't that bad I ain't bothered about Gambling it was just a phaze I was in lol Link to comment
Hollyj Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 "I was addicted to gambling ." Your words. Sounds like a bit of denial. Link to comment
Gymcandyman Posted August 13, 2015 Author Share Posted August 13, 2015 lol wow I've banned myself that means I cannot go into the betting shop again how do I need more help than that , I came and here to get advice about my relationship not a lecture lol Link to comment
Hollyj Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 Yup. You're getting defensive, because there is a problem. The truth stings. Many people ban themselves, then find themselves back where the were, because they did not take the necessary steps. You cannot get your relationship back, until you deal with your "gambling addiction" and steroid issues. Link to comment
RainyCoast Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 banning yourself from the betting shop isn't the same as addressing the inner conflict from which the addiction spawned. it takes a lot more than two months to deal with that effectively. two months is nothing. it takes more than that for a lot of people to even hit the acceptance phase of a break-up, let alone recover from addictive impulses. add to that you resorted to a mood altering substance to merely achieve fitness goals and it should click in just to what extremes you're willing to go to have your needs met, and just how eager you are to decrease the needed personal investment in terms of time, dedication and self-control in various endeavours. spare the both of you the consequences of this and focus on recovery. when you've gone through several cycles of the usual life with it's stress, temptation and perpetual demand for hard work without resorting to a substance or activity that promises to meet you half-way but is destructive instead, then consider giving dating a fair shot. Link to comment
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