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Thread: I screwed up and need advice please

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    I know it was messed up...and what you're saying is totally right. I've never been as sorry as I am that I did that and I miss her like crazy. I obviously screwed up huge...I guess what I'm ultimately asking is if what I did was unforgivable and/or how do I make it right?

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    I'm sorry kicks, but I really think you blew it.
    There is no way to apologise for what you did. When a girl starts dating a new guy the last thing she wants to hear about is the ex and her feelings.
    Did you really care about bumping into the ex, or did you get cold feet?

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    When I told her not to come I really thought I was doing a smart thing for us and avoiding confrontation. I now know I was selfishly doing it for me and my bad living situation. I wish I could take it back, but can't. That's why I want to make this right more than anything. I was afraid I screwed this up for good and looks like I did.

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    Have you told her that was the real reason?

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    I've tried but since she's not answering any calls or texts I haven't been able to.

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    As a female who has done a long distance relationship and is frankly in a pickle too (in a similar situation) here is my 2 cents: ((and I know its been a few weeks since you posted here so...))

    She is hurt - deeply. She thought you had something great and when you told her Never Mind, she started to think(but to her it was more like realize) she wasn't really that important to you, maybe she was just a good time.

    Blowing up her phone won't help. But I believe in one good well written, honest letter/email this is your best choice. It is the only thing you can do at this point to try to get her to understand. If it works then she'll be open to talking again (in time) and if it doesn't then try to enjoy the few moments you had together.

    Did you offer to go back to NY and see her? I know you said you'd pay her back. Why didn't you just stay at a hotel?

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