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Thread: Gf is going to weekend festival with guy friends. Doesn't want me to go.

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    Gf is going to weekend festival with guy friends. Doesn't want me to go.

    Long story short, I was invited to go to a long weekend festival. Then I was uninvited by my gf. She told me it is not fair to her friends who are sharing the hotel with her. They had planned this trip before my gf and I ever met. Her friends that are going are guys and they are not taking their girlfriends to this festival.

    She claims she wants me to go, but I can't because it will upset them. This has left me upset. How upset would this get other people? I trust that she is not fooling around with them, but I am hurt that I am not being included and my feelings are second to her friends. Am I making a big deal out of this?

    We have been dating for 3 months, she and her friends are in their mid 20s. I'm 35.

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    It was planned before you MET! None of them are bringing their gf's. Time to put on your big boy pants and tell her to enjoy herself.

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    I disagree. Something feels off here.

    Are you guys official? If you are her boyfriend why would it upset them if you attend as well?

    Travel plans are made to be changed. Why aren't the girlfriends going as well if it is one big happy family?

    Or maybe that is a sign of the age difference between the two of you. She is still at the couchsurfing stage while you are more at the stage where everyone can afford their own room.

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    Couldn't you get your own hotel room? Why is your presence upsetting to them? Have you met them before?

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    Thank you both for the quick replies.
    Yes we are official and tell each other that we love each other all the time. I think the other girlfriends aren't going because of lack of interest in the festival.
    Part of me says to put my big boys pants on and let them be. The other part tells me this might be a future sign of commitment issues and care of my feelings.

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    Yes I have met the friends. And the idea of me staying elsewhere at the festival is ok with my gf. But that is definitely not ok with me. I would rather not go, than get my own room and my gf still sleep in the room with the other boys.

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    I think she is hiding something she doesn't want to disclose to you. If you were invited first and she uninvited you there is something she is not honest to you about. I am sure she won't tell you either... anyways....unless all of her guy friends are 100% gay I think you have something valid to worry about.

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    What if she shared a room with you, but still shared the cost with them? Is it the cost of the room that upsets them or something else?

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    All 3 claim to best friends. One of the guys thinks I will be in the way and tagging along to everything they do. It all is upsetting me more and more to be honest. Maybe they think I'm old and lame, who knows.

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    Originally Posted by mhowe
    It was planned before you MET! None of them are bringing their gf's. Time to put on your big boy pants and tell her to enjoy herself.
    This I would agree with, if it was all girls who don't bring any of their boyfriends

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