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Thread: Guy Is Going to Vegas for Bachelor Party

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    Guy Is Going to Vegas for Bachelor Party

    So the guy I've been seeing for about 8 weeks left for his friend's bachelor party Wednesday to Vegas. He and a bunch of his friends drove there. He texted me during the trip. The "festivities" they'd planned began Thursday and run thru Sunday. I know they're doing a bunch of stuff aside from the "typical Vegas bar scene" like going to a concert, sightseeing, catching up with old friends.

    On Thursday I texted him, "have a great time. Looking forward to hearing about it" as we do have a date set for Tuesday when he comes back. He replied something along the lines of, "thanks. Monday is going to be rough haha." Since then, I haven't heard from him. I know he's with friends, but I can't help but feel my little insecurities take over. And that bothers me because at first, I had no problem not talking to him for a few days, but then my imagination took over. He hasn't given me a reason to doubt him, but we are not exclusive yet so he is entitled to do as he pleases. I feel like an update text isn't too hard to do. I'm keeping busy, but still. In the luls of the day, I feel uneasy about it. I'm refraining from texting him. I guess I'll just wait to see what happens... Thoughts? Am I being unreasonable for expecting a small message?

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    Since you 2 have already made a date to meet and talk all about it, he's probably just saving it for that day. Seems redundant to discuss it twice. Even if he did check in, it'd most likely be a casual greeting cutting to the chase saying "having a great time" anyway. Not missing much.

    Just relax and go with the flow. He'll be there soon enough

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    You're right. It's just, I've been to Vegas myself and I know why its called "Sin City". That's why my imagination just went a little wild on me.

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    You need to chill!

    You've been dating two months and are not exclusive. He is enjoying time with his friends.

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    Your text to him on Thursday was PERFECT.

    He's probably enjoying himself right now, maybe even appreciative that the girl he's been seeing isn't acting crazy jealous. You did good.

    I don't blame you a bit for kind of wondering what's going to happen, but in my opinion let's keep that to ourselves for now. If you're really itching to talk to him you could text a 'just wanted to say hi and hope you're having fun."

    I don't think you're being unreasonable for expecting a small message, but I think he believes your last message confirmed that you wouldn't be talking to him until he got back. I think that's a good thing because it doesn't give him any kind of pressure.

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    Well, two months with the new girl versus a weekend with close friends he's known far longer? Nope, he's not going to text you, because right now you aren't on his radar beyond what he said--that he'll brief you when he's back in town. In his mind it's all good, you've communicated and you're chill about it, so he's got no real reason to text you. And no, guys and more than a few gals won't text more than once. I wouldn't if I were in his position. And what goes on in Vegas stays in Vegas since you two aren't exclusive and no promises were made. He'll contact you when he's back in town and has touched down from a weekend with his boys.

    In the meantime head on out to do something with your friends rather than wonder what he's doing. You should be having your own fun right now instead of worrying what he's up to.

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    I think your text to him was perfect. now try to go out and have fun with your friends and forget about this guy for the next few days.

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    If you are not exclusive I think you need to rein in your expectations. He is in Vegas with friends, no need to be providing update texts... it seems premature at this point. I think you are wise to leave things as they are and enjoy seeing him upon his return.

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    See how it goes. It only takes 5 seconds to shoot out a text, especially if you like someone.

    If you hear nothing until he's ready to hook up Tuesday, I'd be a bit annoyed too.

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    He might be inclined to send a text-brief, but might be thinking, "Nah, I don't want to come off too eager. We aren't even in a relationship yet! I'd better play it cool." You never know . . .

    Look, grand scheme of things, this is just a days-long blip in the radar of your relationship to come. I don't think you should send him another text. Just see how it goes when he gets back.

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