Hi,
I need your advice. I've been with my boyfriend(31) for 3 years this summer, we live together, and I thought we were happy, until I discovered that me might have cheated on me. Let me explain.
Last Saturday we had a fight, nothing big, but we were kinda pissed at each other til the next day. Sunday he had to go to work, he's a commercial pilot flying national flights. He was supposed to get back home in the evening, but he didn't, because his company changed his flights. He usually sleeps at home every night, but sometimes his company changes schedules last minute so he stays in another city about a night per month. I knew he wasn't lying about that, because I can see his schedule online, he gave me the password to the intranet so I'm always informed when he's flying and when he has time off.
Anyway, he told Sunday quite late that he would sleep in another city, and work the next day in the afternoon, and come back Monday night. I didn't think much of it, just said okay, since we were still kinda pissed at each other. I thought we'll make up when he gets back Monday night, and we did. But from Sunday night til Monday night he didn't even text or call me once and I found that odd, because he usually contacts me several times a day. I thought maybe he's still pissed. But there was some bad feeling inside of me which I could't seem to get rid off. I guess it's the gut feeling.
So when I started his computer to use Spotify (he knows I do that almost every day, even suggested me to do so because his speakers are much better), his already opened email account popped up as usual. Usually I don't look. Monday I just had to. I checked his latest emails and saw that he just sent an email to himself. It only contained a picture- Of him in his pilot uniform, his arm around a girl, the girl's arm around him, both smiling. They don't necessarily look like a couple, could also be a friend picture, but that's not all to it. The picture was clearly taken in the hotel lobby where he's staying (I know this hotel, have stayed with him there once). Just minutes later, the picture was suddenly deleted (but he didn't delete it from the Trash folder). I found this really odd, I have never seen that girl and he hasn't told me about it. I first thought 'Maybe it's just a friend' but I couldn't shake off the bad feeling. When he arrived at home I asked him how the day in the hotel was (to give him a chance to tell me) and if he has done anything special. He said no, he was just in the hotel all day.
Then, this morning when he got ready for work, I did something I never thought I would do- I took his phone an opened his Whatsapp messages to see if I cold figure out who that girl is. And there it was, a conversation with a girl who was definitely the same girl as the girl in the picture (I saw her Whatsapp pic). I read their conversation. She first sent him pictures of the Bachelor party he attended two weeks ago. It was her with him, also her with his friends etc, just normal pics. Then they had some random conversations, nothing really special, although I found it weird that apparently he just meets a girl there and exchanges numbers. In the conversation it was clear that she's British and just here on Holiday for a few weeks. Then, on Tuesday (two days ago) she texted him 'It was lovely seeing you yesterday' and 'I will never look at pilots the same way' (between other random stuff). So now I knew for sure they met, and he hasn't told me. He also sent her a picture of some watermelons saying 'This made me think of you because of the fruit juice haha'. The conversation itself wasn't THAT long. The city they first met in (Bachelor party) is another city than the one he stayed at the hotel. It looked like she spent her last days in that city and flew back to the UK from there.
Now I really don't know what to think. Obviously it wasn't a coincidence that they met. She was in his hotel. I kind of doubt that they met the night before he slept there, because he arrived at the hotel at midnight and the hotel is quite far from the center, it's next to the airport actually. But who knows. The next day he had all day off there and he had to work again in the afternoon, so plenty of time. If he just wanted to meet her in a friendly way, he just could have met her for a coffee somewhere, right? Instead, she was at his hotel as I could clearly see in the picture. Regarding that he wore his pilot uniform, the picture was taken just minutes before he left to the airport to work, so she stayed with him til he had to leave. She was probably there when he showered, shaved and got dressed, and I guess she wouldn't wait in the lobby if she's at the hotel.
My only guess is that he cheated on me. I trusted him a lot, but I just cannot imagine that there is any other explanation than that. Why would he take the number from a girl he met at a Bachelor party? Why would he meet her at his hotel and not tell me about it? Why would she be there when he got showered and dressed and left to the airport? Why would she say 'It was lovely seeing you yesterday' and 'I will never see pilots the same way'. For the record, he has cheated in the past. Not on me as far as I know, but he admitted he cheated on an ex-girlfriend.
I want to confront him tonight in a calm way, but I just cannot imagine that there is any reasonable explanation for that. What do you guys think? What would you do?
Thanks!!
