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    Lonely With Her: Ramblings of a madman.

    My thread was close in the dating forum so at the request of some im starting this journal.



    This could be a quick and short journal post.. it feels like now, she does not contact me whatsoever unless we hang out. Is that someone needing space? I dont know.. maybe.
    (12:42 am after i hadnt heard from her, she had the day off)
    Me: whats up?
    Her: Not much..
    Me: You okay? You gotta get up early?
    Her: 11ish.. not super early i guess
    Me: But youre okay? Seem a little distant lately?
    Her: Yea Im fine... just kinda late and im sleepy.
    Me: Okay just wanted to make sure. J
    Me: Just dont really hear from ya when i dont see ya is all.

    Naturally, havent heard anything from her since. She avoided the question about being distant. Ive stayed over her place enough to know she checks her phone right when she wakes up. She just chose not to respond.

    I honestly am starting to feel like she doesnt care. Im thinking about bringing up my concerns and basically talking about what im feeling now. The last couple of days just have a painful gut feeling that something isnt right.

    Am I going to maybe risk everything, speak my mind, see where shes at, tell her what i need in a relationship. Or just continue like this..

    ... i dont know.
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    Originally Posted by Coldarmy13
    Naturally, havent heard anything from her since. She avoided the question about being distant. Ive stayed over her place enough to know she checks her phone right when she wakes up. She just chose not to respond.
    I wouldn't bring up any concern. She is a coward and avoiding answering a simple question. Save yourself the torture and continuous pain and break up with her. No reason for discussion. She is probably thinking of doing it herself, hense the lack of communication but she is to big of a coward to do it so instead just ignores you.

    Do yourself a favour and just tell her its over.

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    Wow, after such a great weekend, this feels like a big cool down! This happened after the "you are only after sex" talk, right?


    I honestly am starting to feel like she doesnt care. Im thinking about bringing up my concerns and basically talking about what im feeling now. The last couple of days just have a painful gut feeling that something isnt right.
    ^^ I agree...I think it is time for another talk...ugggh. This relationship is too new for all this concern. You both should be really all in and having fun with each other and she is not all in.

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    Why would she agree to be a couple not even two weeks ago. It doesn't make sense to me at all.

    I can't imagine getting anywhere whenever it is I can see her and talk to her. I like her so much.. So much. It's going to be so hard.

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    She's at work. I think I'm going to ask to see her tonight.

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    She said probably not tonight that she had to get up earlier tomorrow.

    I said that I wouldn't have to stay long that I just wanted to talk to her.

    She said how about tomorrow and then asked what I wanted to talk about.

    I said I guess I wanted to talk about me. Must've gone back to work, no reply.

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    I think her "not answers" are answers enough.

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    I can't worry about walking on egg shells anymore. I have to tell her exactly how I feel. I have to know what she wants out of this relationship.

    I expect her to not react favorably. I can't get any more emotionally involved without knowing. It has to be a two way street. It has to also be about what I want and not just trying so hard to accommodate her.
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    Originally Posted by Coldarmy13
    I can't worry about walking on egg shells anymore. I have to tell her exactly how I feel. I have to know what she wants out of this relationship.

    I expect her to not react favorably. I can't get any more emotionally involved without knowing. It has to be a two way street. It has to also be about what I want and not just trying so hard to accommodate her.
    Totally agree! You cannot get more attached. I know its hard to bring up. I am sooo glad that my guy is not contacting me anymore now because I was also walking on eggshells. I didn't want to say anything to him that would make him feel like I wanted a commitment or to ask him what we were. I would hate to be in 6 months with all these feelings for him and have him do what he is doing now, going dark with no explanation to why even after I asked him out right. I know he is sick, but it doesn't take much to let someone know something, anything when asked. I would never do that to someone.

    So what Im saying is it is so much better to know early in the relationship and not wait until you are all in.


    Good luck and keep us posted!

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    Waiting to hear if she concedes to me stopping by tonight, knowing I'd like to talk. I sent a message saying that it would mean a bunch if I could. Just a drink and a chat and I said to not worry. If not, it'll have to wait until tomorrow which will make for a long and miserable day for me.

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