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    Online Journal

    I'm starting this journal as a pastime. I'm in my lower 20s, work full-time, and also a full-time student.

    I have been single for a month. I am active on OKC for a month now. I've used it on and off for the past two years, never been on for more than 6 months at a time.

    I'm looking for a relationship that will last the rest of my life.

    Typically I am very lenient when it comes to looks and dating, but now, I am way way stricter. Ultimately because I find that a lot of filtering is the way to go, for me personally.

    What I learned moving forward from my last relationship: boundaries ! I set more boundaries by not responding to phone calls or texts at certain times of the day. I also decided that I will abstain from sex, so no hooking up, nada.

    There are 3 men who I am talking to, I'll name them after colors : Blue, Green, and Red.

    • Blue is 28, and works in the medical field. He is shorter than me. Okay-looking. We chatted online for about a month. He seemed smart and very articulate, based off the tone of his writing and how he texts. He suggested we meet but we didn't because he didn't follow through. Also it seems his schedule is much busier than mine. About 4 days ago we had a very short conversation on the phone which was very rushed, on his part. Again, sounded very articulate on the phone. He said he's gotten a new job and a schedule and wanted to meet this weekend. I told him I couldn't this weekend and suggested we meet in 2 weeks. He's agreed. So right now he's pending in my calendar. I already spot deal-breakers with this one. My mood toward him is negative.

    • Green is 22, he is a student athlete. We chatted for about 3 weeks. I am not very attracted to his pictures. He's not horrible but compared to other guys, could be better. But I like his height and he may be the type who looks better in person. Also, online profiles do nothing for real life interaction. So I am giving him a chance. He texted me around noon today. I spot no deal-breakers yet. My mood towards him is so-so.

    • Red is 20, he works part-time. I don't like that he's younger than me. But I am attracted to him. We met within the first week of chatting on the site. Met at a local store and then had dinner afterwards. So far we've met 4 times, within 2 weeks. When he first contacted me I thought he was looking for a hookup, because he asked for my # so fast. He said no he wasn't (of course) . He's definitely more of the emotional type. Affectionate and may be very intuitive and may be very good at reading body language. He's the more responsible one in his family. Seems to be taken advantage of by family and in his dating life, from what he's told me. I ended up going to his place late on Friday night (which I'm mad at myself for doing, and will not happen again). Nothing happened of course, I am just mad I didn't stick to my boundary rule. He texted me within 15 mins when I left saying he's glad I came over and bla bla. He said he'd let me know what his schedule was so that we could schedule another meet-up. Then Saturday passed and heard nothing from him, and he texted around midnight this morning, saying he'll let me know his schedule tomorrow. I won't be replying to that text. My mood towards him is positive.









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    Green texted that he's sore then asked if I was a masseuse.

    I said nope, then asked if he just finished practice

    He said no then asked again about massages


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    Only 10 texts in and I'm already annoyed

    He brought up massages THREE times already.

    I'm done, mister Green is nixed. ❌


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    Red just let me know that he's available on Wednesday. But I'm not, so I tell him.

    He replies with "Darn " but nothing else. So I reply "I assume you're not free any other day, right?"

    He replies "Tuesday but idk"

    I haven't replied yet but it doesn't matter because I'm not available on Tuesday either.

    Now I have a bad feeling, so I doubt much will come out of this one too.

    That only leaves Blue which I will probably end up cutting off in a month or so as well.


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    He sent another text with his work schedule, which shows that he works the same schedule, usually.

    However my schedule is fixed so I will probably send him my schedule and then he can pick which days we meet. Unless I already made plans that is.

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    Don't nix him just because of a schedule conflict. He's taking the time to figure out when you're busy. Give it some time. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. You don't want to meet up too much in the beginning!

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    Yea... I am practicing patience and it's hard work..

    So I asked if he wanted my schedule instead and he said "let me take a look"

    So I sent it and he said it might have to be Saturday because of the time he gets off of work

    When someone says "maybe xyz" I don't consider it concrete, so I'll have to ask if definitely Saturday at some point ..

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    Given that this Saturday is still up in the air, I made myself busier with errands & other things..

    Red texted early this morning about the weather, and I replied similarly..

    I didn't ask him if Saturday is definite yet because :

    1) I get the feeling he suggested it to be nice but wants to do something else that day (I could be completely wrong)

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    2) I am trying to sloow down, and practice patience.

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    Saturday is a go, yay!!

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    New guy....I'll call him Purple....
    Purple is okay looking.... I like his height... We initiated contact about a month ago.. Haven't met yet.. He called 2 weeks ago at midnight and I didn't answer... I called the next day and he didn't answer. On Tuesday he texted at 11pm which I replied on Wednesday asking when was he free to talk which he didn't reply to... Then I sent another text today basically to see if he's on the map lol..

    To which he replied "Hey I know the communication has been bad between us. But I'm still interested in getting to know you"

    So, Purple is in for now.

    I asked Blue if we're still meeting up a week from now, and he said yea. We've had no communication since last week.

    I still like Red. Looking forward to seeing him tomorrow. This is the 3rd or 4th time that he's asked to see me ahead of the day that we agreed to, which idk why. It makes me wonder if he's trying to move me around in his schedule so that he can make time for something (or someone else).

    On OKC, I haven't had any messages from anyone I like. One guy who I dated briefly last year sent me a message. We had fun but he's promiscuous though and not in the good way, he's a liar, on the bad side looks-wise, and I just don't like people like that.

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