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    Originally Posted by Victoria66
    But being controlled by a movie is not a healthy way to have a life. A movie has no feelings ,a movie cannot be betrayed.
    You do have a point. [U][B]But by the same token Other people can hurt me, leave me, use me. But not that movie...not those characters. No matter what, those characters are always by my side. That movie and its characters don't judge me, tease me, make me feel bad. Those characters are there. Forever and always.

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    But those characters are not with you ,they are not real people. Again you are projecting human emotion on to something that's inanimate. The characters are not real ,they do no not uphold you ,they don't comfort you ,they are just not real.

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    Originally Posted by Victoria66
    hey do no not uphold you ,they don't comfort you
    Yes, they do...they uphold & comfort me in their own way.

    Originally Posted by Victoria66
    They are just not real.
    I know you won't agree...but to me, they are.

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    Ok, but that is a severe problem. That means you can't tell the difference between reality and fantasy. That is a severe severe problem.

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    Originally Posted by TulipWriter
    You do have a point. [U][B]But by the same token Other people can hurt me, leave me, use me. But not that movie...not those characters. No matter what, those characters are always by my side. That movie and its characters don't judge me, tease me, make me feel bad. Those characters are there. Forever and always.
    You need to learn how to make yourself happy. It's not about other people hurting you, it's about you doing what you want to and taking the risk that other people may not be in agreement with you but that is ok because it isn't their life. I don't know your relationship status (I'm assuming single based on what you said about your friend visiting) but I highly encourage you to learn to be alone and ok with that. I have a lot of friends who can't be happy without their boyfriends/girlfriends approval. They are happy occasionally while they ride the high of approval, but then a slight change in their relationship status and they are crushed. Learn to love yourself. Nothing will teach you this expect for yourself excepting who you are. Try out some new hobbies (whatever seems interesting to you) and find ways to entertain yourself (local adult sports leagues, going out with friends, making art etc).

    It sounds to me like you went to school, probably expecting to have an amazing experience, and instead it was really overwhelming to be away from the comfort of your home and family. So you turned to your family, and they gave you a comfort item: that movie. So now you are living your life to the standards of that movie bc that is how you define joy. The movie is like a baby blanket or a pacifier. It is a comfort item that you turn to when you are stressed. You need to let that go the same way a baby is forced to quit depending on their pacifier for comfort. Find comfort in yourself instead of a movie.

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    Originally Posted by Victoria66
    Ok, but that is a severe problem. That means you can't tell the difference between reality and fantasy. That is a severe severe problem.
    lol nonono ~ yes, I'm well aware it's just a movie! And that the characters are just actors, and that I can't communicate with them! What I meant was, in my heart, I feel those characters truly do comfort me and that, again, in my heart & soul, they are a part of me.

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    They aren't real. Perhaps what they represent, is real. How they are depicted - Realistic. But they are only fictional characters in a movie.

    They can't judge or tease you because they don't exist, you cannot interact with them. I suppose that makes "them" safe. Is that the appeal to you?

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    Originally Posted by Cheetarah
    They aren't real. Perhaps what they represent, is real. How they are depicted - Realistic. But they are only fictional characters in a movie.

    They can't judge or tease you because they don't exist, you cannot interact with them. I suppose that makes "them" safe. Is that the appeal to you?
    It's a number of factors. The atmosphere of the movie, the storyline, the way the characters live.

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    Okay ,but ever since you've been posting you've been posting about movies and how they apply to your life. And how real they are to you ect etc... You really need to address that aspect of your life or you're never going to be happy.

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    Originally Posted by Victoria66
    You really need to address that aspect of your life or you're never going to be happy.
    But I am addressing it. And what do you mean I will never be happy otherwise?

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