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Thread: Living at home causing strain on the relationship

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    Originally Posted by itsallgrand
    Not a popular view but, not established enough to pay ones own way and roof and food, not established enough to be having sex.
    I said, not popular!

    But condoms break, birth control fails, and things like both living at home but lady is pregnant does happen.

    Why not just wait til you are both in better positions and able to be on your own? And if that is a long way off on her end, get a new girlfriend. I am dead serious.
    I completely agree and would go one step further. If you can't afford a baby, don't have sex. If you both agree that if she gets pregnant, that you would abort, then make sure you can afford that too.

    I don't know why people can't focus on getting themselves together financially so they can be independent instead of, frankly, wasting money on hotels for a few minutes of gratification.

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    I think you need to chill out and focus on what you need to do financially and worry less about intimacy. What options do you really have? None. So tough it out. It is temporary after all and either this relationship is good enough to ride this out or not.

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    Originally Posted by throwawa
    Absolutely Kendahke, That's the way I've been treating this situation completely. It's not my place, and I'm not going to rock the boat.
    She isn't moving in with me. I have a job, I just needed to save for a deposit on a new place. But because I'm saving it means the hotel room plan is no longer affordable.

    I guess I'm just looking for advice, has anyone gone through this situation before? And did it work out? How did you deal with it?
    I dunno, maybe I'm just venting...
    Yes. I've gone through it before. And I just didn't have sex unless I could afford to either get a hotel room or move out on my own. And once I moved out on my own, I didn't allow anyone to live rent free with me and become my dependent--because trust me, that is the next thing that's going to come out of her mouth once you tell her you've got the money together for your own place. Watch and see how fast it comes out of her mouth. But as I said, do not let her move in unless she's got gainful, steady employment--and even then, give it a good year before you bend your mind in that direction. You have to get on your feet first.

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    I am in the exact same situation! I moved back home from LA and have been with my parents for a year. I am 25. My BF was living at home while he went to school (since it was very close and didn't make sense to pay for a place if he could stay for free) and then this summer his parents moved to the next state over and for his job, me, and friends he wanted to stay here. So my parents are letting him live in the basement which is like an apartment, rent free (though he's offered to pay numerous times, my parents won't take his money). He is 25 as well.

    My mom could care less if we slept together, but my father is very strident in his views, very military, old fashioned and there's no sleeping together while we are in his house. It's been difficult, as we are both very sexual with each other and while he was living with his parents we had sex all the time as they didn't mind anything. So over the past six months we have had to get creative...a lot of oral sex after my parents have gone to bed...when my parents go out of town (which is rather often) we have sex. Cars, other rooms, you name it. It isn't easy, but you have to think outside the box. It's really frustrating, but until we both save enough money for our own place, this is our situation.

    It sucks - I lived on my own for about 6 years till I moved back and without a job I didn't have a choice but to stay with my parents. When I had my own place in LA, my BF visited me and I loved that freedom, walking around naked, snuggling, doing whatever we wanted whenever we felt like it.

    It's really a big incentive to get going, but the job market is ridiculous right now and FT steady, decent jobs are not as easy to come by.

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    Go camping.

    Sex in the car.

    Strange public places.

    And while you're trying not to get arrested doing this start looking for a cheap apartment for one or both of you to live in.

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    Five year old thread..

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    Originally Posted by boltnrun
    Five year old thread..
    Jeez can people stop pulling these threads from the dinosaur ages? I just saw the post above mine being from yesterday. Honestly you should get a forum ban for reviving a necrothread.

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