What did/do you want to do for your 20th Anniversary ?

I know a lot of people wait until their 25th anniversary to do something big. But then what comes to mind is my stepfather's first wife died either three days before their 25th anniversary or three days after. But either way I don't think they got to celebrate it because she passed away. So there is no time like the present to celebrate.

What did you do on your 20th anniversary or what would you like to do on your 20th anniversary?

You and your husband should do a romantic weekend away (just the two of you) at a nice hotel. Or, go on a trip just the both of you. Or a nice romantic dinner.

My parents arranged a big family holiday in Italy. It was actually pretty cool - my Mum has a big family and we basically took over a small resort.

You and your husband should do a romantic weekend away (just the two of you) at a nice hotel. Or, go on a trip just the both of you. Or a nice romantic dinner.

I was thinking maybe a family party but then I got to thinking more.... I would have to invite my in-laws and that might be scary. My mother-in-law just seems go a little crazy whenever there are family parties. She talks over top of my mother. She literally shoves me out-of-the-way and tries to be the hostess. She chases my friends down the driveway to say goodbye to them. I don't want to stomach another one of those events.

It would be nice to get away just the two of us but but I don't know I'm trying to really look for something original. Maybe I'm looking for the impossible though.

I'm not really one for huge family get togethers so I think I'd like to go on a long weekend away to the place where we Honeymooned which isn't too far away from us and is beautiful.

Depends on whether you are big on family events or want a more romantic occasion.

For me, i'd prefer to take the 'romantic trip of a lifetime' on our 20th, to Fiji or Hawaii or Tuscany or some far flung place where just the two of us could have a second honeymoon together and wander and explore and relax.

But if you are 'group' oriented, you could re-take your vows in front of family and have a huge family celebration and spend the money on that big catered party rather than a romantic vacation.

I am kind of torn between family and romantic. We could go spend a weekend where we went for our honeymoon it's about eight hours from here.

We already redid our vows on our 11th anniversary so our son could do his sacraments so we don't really need to do that again.

The more I think about it the more I'm pretty partial to the go back to where we spent our honeymoon idea. We could spend a nice weekend doing that.

If anybody has any more ideas throw them out there.

How abouts taking a romantic trip of a lifetime to Fiji, Hawaii, or somewhere you guys haven't been before, like lavenderdove suggested. Good way to celebrate a milestone

My parents were adamant about no party...and my youngest sis was still in college. My bro and I told her to ask if they would come for a visit. He and I traveled there and changed their dinner reservations to larger table...and surprised them. We each gave a.toast to what their commitment meant to us. It was a wonderful night.

I know you can't arrange that but I wanted to share!

How abouts taking a romantic trip of a lifetime to Fiji, Hawaii, or somewhere you guys haven't been before, like lavenderdove suggested. Good way to celebrate a milestone

 

We don't have a week to go or anything. The most we could probably squeeze out would be three days.

My parents were adamant about no party...and my youngest sis was still in college. My bro and I told her to ask if they would come for a visit. He and I traveled there and changed their dinner reservations to larger table...and surprised them. We each gave a.toast to what their commitment meant to us. It was a wonderful night.

 

I know you can't arrange that but I wanted to share!

That sounds lovely!

Our 20th? We'd go back to were it all started for us I suspect - New York.

Our 20th was spent at a quiet wilderness lake, just the two of us for several days, and it was great. No kids, no phone, no schedules. I recommend focusing on just the 2 of you, like you did at the beginning. Talk about memories if you want, and each of your hopes and expectations for the next 5 years. Privately renew or review vows if you want. After 20 years, has your perspective of these vows changed for either of you?

Our 20th was spent at a quiet wilderness lake, just the two of us for several days, and it was great. No kids, no phone, no schedules. I recommend focusing on just the 2 of you, like you did at the beginning. Talk about memories if you want, and each of your hopes and expectations for the next 5 years. Privately renew or review vows if you want. After 20 years, has your perspective of these vows changed for either of you?

I would like us to just be the two of us for that trip. But if my mom can't take my son that's a no can do.

I don't think our vows have changed so much as we feel stronger in them. As to our future that is kind of up in the air. It will depend upon if our son is able to be independent.

We never used to do anything at all for any anniversary, ever. On our 25th we went on a 2 week cruise.

We decided! We booked a 3 day weekend. We are going back to where we went for our honeymoon.

Vic, would you be interested in going somewhere for a week or more? I suspect you're nervous about leaving your son... but maybe you guys can save up vacation time and go later in the year, and have a nice night out on your actual anniversary?

I'd go on a trip, maybe that Hawaii cruise we've been talking about, if we don't get to do it before that point, or an Alaskan cruise. Hopefully by then we'd have older teenagers who wouldn't destroy the house lol

Yeah the trouble is Sherry my mom won't commit to squat unless it is that week. I could spit out golden geese and she wouldn't commit unless she knows for sure what is happening in her life at the time .

I responded while you were responding I think. Glad you get a three day weekend to celebrate!

I responded while you were responding I think. Glad you get a three day weekend to celebrate!

Yeah we responded at the same time! Ha.

We decided! We booked a 3 day weekend. We are going back to where we went for our honeymoon.

 

Wonderful! Have a great time, and congratulations on the anniversary!

Wonderful! Have a great time, and congratulations on the anniversary!

 

We are going to go the first weekend in May because our anniversary is the in the middle of the week.