To anyone that is or was dating/married/engaged with someone who is either physically and/or verbally abusive, how did your family and friends deal with it (or their family/friends too)
For me, I was always the one blamed. I found out my "friend" is not inviting me to her wedding. I saw when her boyfriend proposed to her at her birthday last year. I found out through my other friend and she told me she was going to to be the Maid of Honor and when I asked if I was invited....nope, I guess not. My engaged "friend" did not like how I stayed with my ex for so long or just stopped liking me because I was with him. Yep, even when I am not with him now she is still not inviting me.
And it makes sense, I get that people don't want to be involved in that drama or see their friend get treated badly but I always felt abandoned and sometimes I think that's why I went back to my ex so many times. I was constantly told that if I didn't break up with him, they were not going to talk to me anymore etc. but anytime I did leave...nobody was there for me. Nobody was saying "I'm glad you got away from him" etc (except my parents- I think they were the only ones), nobody invited me out with them, they always made plans with each other without me knowing. My ex's sister even blamed me for my ex "going off the deep end" and his family, instead of ever dealing with him, tell me that I'm the "idiot" for going back to him.
Has anyone experienced "victim blaming" (I hope it's the appropriate term for this) from your abusive relationship from someone other than the abuser? Whether it's still ongoing or not and how do you cope?