I am a male mid 20's single and my friend is a female mid 30's in a relationship. I have been friends with this girl at work for the past 2-3 years and recently she has stopped talking to me & started acting cold towards me all of a sudden. At first i figured she must of been going through serious personal issues as i had never seen her act in the manner she had been. I sent her a couple of emails telling her i was a bit worried about her, hoping she was ok and if she needed to talk to let me know.. she never replied. I soon realized she was behaving differently towards me and finally got her to open up a bit, where she said she didn't want to be close friends anymore as people had been talking about us / gossiping. I was a bit surprised as people have said harmless stuff before but I told her she shouldn't let what other people say and think effect her (she at times can be particularly self-conscious) and that id like to know what happened..that's as far as i have taken it and that's about all i feel i can do, she doesn't seem willing to talk about it and it doesn't seem as though that will change.
I know i am in a no-win situation here, in the work environment there is next to nothing i can do. The issues is i don't know how to feel or how to react in this situation or how to reconcile it with myself, since i don't know what actually happened to cause this sudden reaction from my friend - i don't even know how to feel towards her - she is at work and has an absolute right to feel comfortable, if she had said i don't think we can have the same relationship anymore i could of accepted that but by trying to just brush me off and act as though things were normal which was hurtful, that said - i don't know what other people have said to her, maybe people have said something real hurtful, i can't tell all i know is that our friendship is lost and i just have to move on but id appreciate any words of advice. Many thanks.