Msfaith Posted February 14, 2013 Share Posted February 14, 2013 I've been a seeing a guy for 2 months or so. We were talking 6 months prior when I was overseas When we first started hanging out face to face as friends we opened up to each other and he told me he has an ex in another country and referred to her as "the one he will always love but cant be with because of the distance" i was taken back a bit by it i must admit, but since then we've gotten a lot stronger and told each other how much we both care for each other. But just today his ex was in a car accident, and fighting for her life and he is now booking a flight accross the other side of the world to see her I feel so selfish cos I know she is fighting for her life. But what do you think this means? Will I lose him to her if she survives and if she doesn't will I still lose him...please please help, I'm lost Link to comment
april15 Posted February 14, 2013 Share Posted February 14, 2013 I don't think you ever had him to lose. He will always have that place in his heart for her. Do you really want to share that space? Link to comment
LoveHim Posted February 14, 2013 Share Posted February 14, 2013 I agree, I don't think you have ever truly had his whole heart. He may care for you but he still has a flame for this other woman. You deserve a man that loves you and only you, you should come second to no one. Link to comment
oldenoughtoknow Posted February 14, 2013 Share Posted February 14, 2013 It does look like a fork is coming up in the road. Whether she eventually lives or dies, it's up to him as to whether he will be willing to move for her, come back to you and pine for her, or finally forget about her. If he can't bring himself to the third option, I wouldn't put up with the second any longer. Link to comment
Msfaith Posted February 14, 2013 Author Share Posted February 14, 2013 No I don't want to share that place it's just hard, cos it seems like we just can't catch a break.. Thanks you for responding Link to comment
Msfaith Posted February 14, 2013 Author Share Posted February 14, 2013 Yea you're right. I've never been in this position before its just hard... thank you for your advice Link to comment
Edmund Exley Posted February 14, 2013 Share Posted February 14, 2013 Nobody knows what he will do. Only you can decide what you should do as far as waiting to see whats next with him Link to comment
april15 Posted February 15, 2013 Share Posted February 15, 2013 MsFaith, I am sorry you are going through such a tough time and feeling like a that cruise ship adrift in the gulf. You are in a tough spot but as Edmund said, you have no idea what he will do, or even why he strung you along when his heart belonged to another. You can only control what you do. Look carefully at this relationship and this guy. You have a chance to get some distance and perspective, you deserve someone who will give their whole heart to you. Are you ever going to get that with this man, even if she passes? Link to comment
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