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Ok, so I am nearing 18 and have gone to an all boys school since yr 7 and have not really had much experience with girls (unless you count tutoring). These questions have bugged me and sometimes have plagued me since I was 14 but highschool and video games got in the way. Now that I have left and graduated year 12 these questions have come back and kind of haunted me, so I would really appreciate some answers, preferably from both male and females.

 

Does penis length matter?( I know, alot of men have asked this, but I need to ask as well...although I heard that as long as you are average you are fine, but I also heard from friends that something like 30% of women care?) I am 5-5.5 inches...is that normal?

 

Does penis girth matter?(Contrary to length, I have heard that girth matters alot, something to do with the nerve endings being pressured and touched more or something.) I am around 4 inches in this department...is that normal?

 

What is the average penis size including length and girth? I have looked this up prior, but I could always use more sources of information...

 

How would I make up for it if it turns out my size is not...up to par...? Oral sex? Foreplay? A huge dildo? Sex techniques?

 

Do penis enhancements work?

 

How long should pure intercourse last? I heard for most men it was between 2-5 minutes?

 

How long should sex including foreplay last? I heard that most women want between 30mins-1 hour.

 

How to last longer? Any techniques?

 

Where do I find and what kind of sex techniques are there? In case, I don't measure up...

 

How much sex do girls want, and how often?

 

I have phimosis...how do I deal with that? I heard you need to get circumcised, but because the tip of my !**@! is too sensitive when I touch it, would it cause

massive pain and discomfort...or make me cum to quickly? I also heard of steroid creams, and that they help. I always thought that it would correct itself between the age of 20-25 but apparently it was meant to be gone between the ages of 15-18...

 

How to give oral to a girl? In case....

 

How long should masturbation last? I tend to be between 5-20 minutes...

 

How many times should I be doing it per day?

 

How many times is 'normal?' I usually do it twice or thrice a day...

 

I started to think about having sex since I first heard about when I was 7...is that normal? I didn't start masturbating until I was 14 or 15 though...

 

When I first started masturbating and watching porn, it would get hard super quick and fast, and it would often hurt until I was done. However over a period of 2-3

years, although I am mentally excited and feel horny physically, my !**@! doesn't get hard very fast...or very hard...I often have to rub it until it gets a hard and

even then, until I am near orgasm it isn't as hard as before...what happened and how do I fix this?

 

From a rather nervous and awkward individual...Thanks in advance.

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Guys and girls all masturbate, some masturbate more then others, there is really no standard. Supposedly guys do it more then girls but I don't quite agree.

 

Some girls do really care about size, others don't. I don't know of any percentage but I do know that what matters the most to me is foreplay. Oral, fingering and dildos can all make a huge difference. I am currently sleeping with a guy who is a bit on the small side but its ok because he makes such a big effert (no pun intended) before intercourse.

 

I think the oral skills are something you need to learn through experience, just try a lot of movement, focus on the clit and listen to feedback. After you have gained oral and fingering skills, try combining them!

 

If a girl can't except you for your size then she's prob more into sex then a relationship with you. Find someone who wants a relationship and make the foreplay impossible to forget.

 

For dildos save those until after you have had sex with someone enough to feel comfertable together, then take her to the store and let her pick one out, or online if there isn't a store. Dildos make great birthday gifts (at least for me) if she's into them.

 

Just curiuse, is there a girl you are thinking about sleeping with now or are you just worried about already knowing when you find that girl?

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Does penis length matter?

 

Not really, unless you're exceptionally small or large, which you're not.

 

I am 5-5.5 inches...is that normal?

 

Pretty much average.

 

Does penis girth matter? I am around 4 inches in this department...is that normal?

 

Again, pretty much average.

 

What is the average penis size including length and girth? I have looked this up prior, but I could always use more sources of information...

 

The precise average really doesn't matter. Quit sweating it. You're of a perfectly normal size, and you'll be fine. Nobody cares about a quarter-inch here or there (except uptight guys!).

 

How would I make up for it if it turns out my size is not...up to par...?

 

You don't have this problem, so next...

 

Do penis enhancements work?

 

Generally, no.

 

How long should pure intercourse last? I heard for most men it was between 2-5 minutes?

 

It varies a lot, depending on a lot of factors. I would guess five to ten, typically (I always forget to start the stopwatch), but don't start thinking it's "wrong" for it to last less or more time than that.

 

How long should sex including foreplay last?

 

As long as you both want it to.

 

How much sex do girls want, and how often?

 

It depends on the girl.

 

How long should masturbation last?

 

Again, as long as you want it to.

 

How many times should I be doing it per day?

 

As often as you want to. At your age I would say two or even three times a day is pretty normal.

 

I started to think about having sex since I first heard about when I was 7...is that normal?

 

Yes.

 

When I first started masturbating and watching porn, it would get hard super quick and fast, and it would often hurt until I was done. However over a period of 2-3

years, although I am mentally excited and feel horny physically, my !**@! doesn't get hard very fast...or very hard...I often have to rub it until it gets a hard and

even then, until I am near orgasm it isn't as hard as before...what happened and how do I fix this?

 

Maybe you are masturbating a bit too often. Leave it until you can't help getting hard.

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How to give oral to a girl? In case....

 

Don't think of it as an "in case", oral is great for (most) girls and guys whether you have intercourse as well or not!

 

Jennifer's advice is good. I'd just add, be gentle...those are pretty sensitive parts on a girl. Start really gently and maybe work up to being a bit more vigorous if she seems to enjoy that, rather than the other way round.

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Does penis length matter?( I know, alot of men have asked this, but I need to ask as well...although I heard that as long as you are average you are fine, but I also heard from friends that something like 30% of women care?) I am 5-5.5 inches...is that normal?

 

It does to some women. But your average, so it should be ok.

 

Does penis girth matter?(Contrary to length, I have heard that girth matters alot, something to do with the nerve endings being pressured and touched more or something.) I am around 4 inches in this department...is that normal?

 

That does seem to matter.

 

I'm around that girth size and it seems to be rather thin.

 

Do penis enhancements work?

 

If they did, I would have already gained 3 inches to give myself 7".

 

 

 

 

How many times is 'normal?' I usually do it twice or thrice a day...

 

Seems pretty normal, since that is how much I do it. LOL

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Jonny, if we are both on the thin side and it does matter, how much has it affected your sex life?

 

I'm still a virgin like you, so I don't know.

 

But...most women seem to be big fans of girth. Even when they say size doesn;'t matter on this forum, some will add that they like girth,

 

I guess we are just screwed when it comes to that.

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But...most women seem to be big fans of girth. Even when they say size doesn;'t matter on this forum, some will add that they like girth

 

Don't worry about it. Being very slightly thin is so not going to be an issue.

 

People have ideals, but they accept reality, and reality can be really good.

 

You probably find some movie star or singer or whatever incredibly attractive, right? But you'll still be happy to have a girlfriend who is not quite as physically stunning as that star...one important reason being, because you'll actually like her.

 

Women are no different in that respect.

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Don't worry about it. Being very slightly thin is so not going to be an issue.

 

When your also short in length, 4', it sure could be a problem.

 

People have ideals, but they accept reality, and reality can be really good.

 

Not when they have more options..I.E women.

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Do you have a history with this? I don't think it would be a woman's normal response to a slightly smaller than average penis.

 

No it is not from personal experience.

 

It's just that when I see them talking about it on forums, some will say something along the lines of....a small guy should find a girl that isn't into sex as much. As if a small guy can't do anything during actual penetration.

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It's just that when I see them talking about it on forums, some will say something along the lines of....a small guy should find a girl that isn't into sex as much. As if a small guy can't do anything during actual penetration.

 

It's not a universal attitude, I promise you. And remember women differ too, physically.

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It's not a universal attitude, I promise you. And remember women differ too, physically.

 

I know women's vaginas vary in size, but it's not like they wear a shirt that says they have a small vagina, so tiny guys are welcome.

 

I've seen plenty of women post about being dissapointed with the size of the guy. One can only hope they do outwardly express it.

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I know women's vaginas vary in size, but it's not like they wear a shirt that says they have a small vagina, so tiny guys are welcome.

 

I wouldn't call you "tiny", from what you've said.

 

I've seen plenty of women post about being dissapointed with the size of the guy.

 

Forum posts aren't very representative of the population in general.

 

Think of it this way. A lot of guys - supposedly, the typical guy - prefer larger breasts to smaller, right? Yet you see plenty of women who are nearly flat-chested in what seem to be perfectly happy relationships. "The norm" is kind of meaningless when it comes down to individual, one-to-one connections.

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I wouldn't call you "tiny", from what you've said.

 

4 inches in length and 4 inches girth seems to be rather tiny.

 

Think of it this way. A lot of guys - supposedly, the typical guy - prefer larger breasts to smaller, right? Yet you see plenty of women who are nearly flat-chested in what seem to be perfectly happy relationships. "The norm" is kind of meaningless when it comes down to individual, one-to-one connections.

 

Boobs are just to look at and babies to feed off of.

 

Sure, the big ones look great, but they don't really have any function sexually.

 

Also, even if the guy wants big boobs, she could also have a great booty or face.

 

It's not the same thing.

 

It's horrifying to even possibly have someone dissapointed in your manhood.

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4 inches in length and 4 inches girth seems to be rather tiny.

 

It's horrifying to even possibly have someone dissapointed in your manhood.

 

It's not tiny. It's just a bit smaller than average.

 

The horror is coming from you, not from women. (Who, I promise, don't take tape measures to bed.)

 

Boobs are just to look at and babies to feed off of. They don't really have any function sexually.

 

Really??????

 

Sure, they don't play any role in reproduction, but I assume you are not seeing sex as purely about that.

 

Also, even if the guy wants big boobs, she could also have a great booty or face.

 

Sure. And there are doubtless great things about you too.

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It's not tiny. It's just a bit smaller than average.

 

It's one inch below average in length and obviously below it in girth. That doesn't seem like "just a bit".

 

The horror is coming from you, not from women. (Who, I promise, don't take tape measures to bed.)

 

They have two eyes tho. And if they are expecting more, they are probably gonna get dissapointed, or god forbid they laugh.

 

 

Really??????

 

Sure, they don't play any role in reproduction, but I assume you are not seeing sex as purely about that.

 

No, I don't see sex as just a means for making babies. I was just saying they don't really have a function sexually, other than to be played with.

 

 

Sure. And there are doubtless great things about you too.

 

No....not really.

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It's one inch below average in length and obviously below it in girth. That doesn't seem like "just a bit".

 

In round figures, from what you say you're about 80% of average length and 100% average thickness. Exact figures differ, of course, but read this to get some overview: link removed

 

if they are expecting more, they are probably gonna get dissapointed, or god forbid they laugh

 

That's your if, and your fearful fantasy. If it becomes real life, cope with it then, but it probably won't.

 

No, I don't see sex as just a means for making babies. I was just saying they don't really have a function sexually, other than to be played with.

 

Nor does your penis, really. Many many, if not most, women don't orgasm through intercourse alone.

 

No....not really.

 

I think your confidence issues are not really, or just, about what's between your legs, are they?

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In round figures, from what you say you're about 80% of average length and 100% average thickness. Exact figures differ, of course, but read this to get some overview: link removed

 

Seems to be 5 to 6 inches that is average in what i read on it.

 

 

Nor does your penis, really. Many many, if not most, women don't orgasm through intercourse alone.

 

It is true that most don't orgasm from intercourse alone, but it's still a part of it.

 

And the penis sure is a part of sex. It's more than just a toy during sex.

 

 

I think your confidence issues are not really, or just, about what's between your legs, are they?

 

It's not just that, but this is what this thread is about.

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Johnny, essexman is correct. I am talking as a women who enjoys larger guys but currently find myself happy with a guy who is smaller then you.

 

If all you do is have intercourse, the sex will suck. Then again if a guy with 7 inch only had intercourse, it would suck too. Even speaking as a women that can orgasm from penetration, it is not all about that. The foreplay is way more important to me and most women I have talked to, then the actual sex. If I had to choose bw foreplay and intercourse I would choose foreplay.

 

Now if you just so happen to crawl into bed with a women who says your too small, you should:

A. Ask for tips on improving foreplay

B. find a women who can be both sexualy and emotionally compatible.

 

Something else, I was recently in a relationship with a guy who I consider to be big. The size was nice but after a month or so, the sex became boring as ****! Not bc he wasn't good in bed, but bc he's the snugly, kissing guy who likes to do the same thing every time; and I'm the girl who enjoys handcuffs, spankings and toys.

 

Regardless of size and talent, some girls will love getting in bed with you and others will not. It's a part of finding out if your compatible. Believe me, I'd rather have a small guy who gets kinky then a large guy that wants to kiss me for an hour before our clothes even come off.

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If all you do is have intercourse, the sex will suck. Then again if a guy with 7 inch only had intercourse, it would suck too. Even speaking as a women that can orgasm from penetration, it is not all about that. The foreplay is way more important to me and most women I have talked to, then the actual sex. If I had to choose bw foreplay and intercourse I would choose foreplay.

 

Of course foreplay is important. Anyone who isn't willing to do that doesn't care about pleasing the other person. They are only in it for themselves.

 

Now if you just so happen to crawl into bed with a women who says your too small, you should:

A. Ask for tips on improving foreplay

B. find a women who can be both sexualy and emotionally compatible.

 

If a woman told me I was small, that would probably be enough to make me cry.

 

How could you even recover from that?

 

I say that because option "A" wouldn't be there since she would be out the door.

 

No way would I want to touch anyone that acts that way.

 

Something else, I was recently in a relationship with a guy who I consider to be big. The size was nice but after a month or so, the sex became boring as ****! Not bc he wasn't good in bed, but bc he's the snugly, kissing guy who likes to do the same thing every time; and I'm the girl who enjoys handcuffs, spankings and toys.

 

Regardless of size and talent, some girls will love getting in bed with you and others will not. It's a part of finding out if your compatible. Believe me, I'd rather have a small guy who gets kinky then a large guy that wants to kiss me for an hour before our clothes even come off.

 

But what if all things were equal and the big guy is kinky too?

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If a woman told me I was small, that would probably be enough to make me cry.

 

How could you even recover from that?

 

I say that because option a: wouldn't be there since she would be out the door.

 

No way would I want to touch anyone that acts that way.

 

There seems to be a lot of speculation going on about the disastrous fallout from something that hasn't actually happened.

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There is nothing wrong with discussing what if's. Espically if they could happen one day.

 

True. But, what if? You've already answered the question: if a woman was so immature and unlikeable as to say hurtful things about your penis, you'd rightly want nothing more to do with her. What else is there to debate about it? You have what you have. Make the most out of it, which can be plenty.

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