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    Can friends kiss each other on the cheek?

    Im curious as to whether friends of the opposite sex are allowed to kiss each other on the cheek. One of my friends thinks that it's usually the girl that does it to the guy so it's ok. One of my friends says it means they like you and have feelings for you. This friend also says it depends on the situation. Did it happen when you greet or say good bye to each other? Or out of the blue? Have you been friends for a long time or recently met them?

    Isn't there some societal norm about being friends with the opposite sex and what you're allowed or not allowed to do?

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    its cultural. In america its not the norm in society. In most european countries it is.

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    It all depends on your comfort level and those around you. I some cultures it is more common than a handshake to kiss someone on the cheek. I think that you need to just make sure if you feel it is okay to confirm that with whom ever you are friends with. Another thing to take into consideration is how your significant other/ other friends may feel. Always just be honest with people about it and figure out where they stand.
    I think generally speaking it is more acceptable for a girl to kiss a guy on the cheek, but like I said, it's all based on your personal comfortability and perception.

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    It's cultural, yep.

    If the person doing it is used to doing that to all their fiends, then it's just a friendly gesture and shouldn't be viewed as anything more.

    If a person ONLY does it to one opposite sex friend and won't do it to others, then yeah, it probably means something else.

    I personally don't kiss any of my friends (regardless of gender) on the cheek but if other people do it because it's in their culture, I'm fine with it.

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    Ok if it's not the norm here in America then is it a dead giveaway that they have feelings for you?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Reminiscence [Register to see the link]
    Ok if it's not the norm here in America then is it a dead giveaway that they have feelings for you?
    No, because different people are raised differently here in America. I do know 1-2 people (girls) who do the kiss on the check thing with their friends, both same and opposite sex.

    I think the key is to find out if they do it with their other friends too.

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    I think for some people, kissing someone on the cheek during the GREETING or saying goodbye might be acceptable, particularly if the person is also doing it to same sex friends, but just kissing an opposite sex friend on the check randomly is a no no. But mostly in America it depends on how well you know them.

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    I do this. Where I grew up, it's kinda insulting if you don't. So, yes, I kiss my guy friends during greetings - but I also kiss their wives or girlfriends (if I know them) and grandmas. So, it's never been an issue or been misinterpreted (I don't think) Basically, if I know you, you are getting a kiss.

    But I should really point out (at least where I am from), it's not really a lips on cheek thing. It's more of a cheek on cheek thing with a kissy-noise. Maybe some side-lip on cheek.

    I don't know that I'd ever really interpret a kiss on the cheek as an "I like you" thing. Unless... you know... they never do that or are fidgety or are over-touching you.

    I agree that you should just figure out if they do that to basically everyone or just one person. That will tell you everything.

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    I'm the same as RedDress, cheek to cheek and a kissy noise. It's actually quite funny when you think about it. There's so many different cultures here in Dubai that it's quite awkward when one person is used to 2-3 kisses on the cheeks (right, left, right) and then others are only used to one. I kiss all guys on the cheek to say hello and goodbye and sometimes it's common to do it as a "thank you" gesture. If the person in question only ever kisses the cheek of one person, and nobody else in the friend circle, then I would say there was probably some feelings behind that (unless they are BFF's )

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    I kiss female friends on the cheek as a greeting if I know them well enough to be pleased to see them. Just a quick peck, different to how I would greet a girlfriend. Guys get a good firm manly handshake.

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