Maroon Posted September 16, 2012 Share Posted September 16, 2012 My ex (the dumper) are broken up for almost a year now. We've been in LC and NC alternately. Recently, we got into a text conversation, and she says, "We're neither friends nor lovers." What? And yet she treats me like a stranger since the break up. Have you guys experienced this or heard this line before? What did you do? Link to comment
Samedy Posted September 16, 2012 Share Posted September 16, 2012 To me, if I heard that, I would interpret it as her saying that she does not want you in her life... I would assume that she wants to not remain in contact or have any communication with you.. Sorry. Link to comment
RedDress Posted September 16, 2012 Share Posted September 16, 2012 Well - I think it means exactly what she said. We're neither friends - well, you aren't friends. You are an ex-boyfriend. That is a different relationship than a friend. nor lovers - well, you aren't lovers. You are former lovers. So... I mean... it depends on the context of the conversation... but she's basically saying that you are not friends (which you aren't) and you aren't lovers (which you aren't) - you are something else. She's saying she thinks of you as an ex-boyfriend, not a friend. Link to comment
Coolstorybro Posted September 16, 2012 Share Posted September 16, 2012 Recently, we got into a text conversation, and she says, "We're neither friends nor lovers." What? And yet she treats me like a stranger since the break up.That's rather self-explanatory. Link to comment
sara-pezzini Posted September 16, 2012 Share Posted September 16, 2012 To me, if I heard that, I would interpret it as her saying that she does not want you in her life... I would assume that she wants to not remain in contact or have any communication with you.. Sorry. i agree with this, it sounds like she doesn't want you in her life which is why she treats you like a stranger as well.... Link to comment
markie6 Posted September 16, 2012 Share Posted September 16, 2012 It's threads like these that make me really wish I had all this internet stuff to help when I was your age. I had to learn by mistake after mistake ..after mistake, and from the mistakes of others. I really hope you are trying to learn , as this place is a huge resource of knowledge and help. I am howver going to be a little more blunt than usual because 1 year after the BU and you're still asking what is going on ? why is she saying this , means you haven't been learning or your confusion is down to inexperience, which I totaly get. All contact, while you are still connected ( even invisibly ..through feelings ) will create confusion. You seem to have made the classic mistake of thinking you can be friends while you still have feelings. Your posts remind me of Tomato's posts ( I am sure others posters remember him) , and I guess he was a similar age and we hate to watch the inexperienced suffer as we did. So use the resources, apply the advice that resonates with you , life is a constant learning experience. We cannot mind read... and that is what your posts always seem to come back to.... what is she thinking or feeling I really think you have to have absolutely NC if you want to heal... and I totaly understand your pain, have been there at your age, and am in pain now. PM me if you need a plan to enable you to move on , I am happy to help Link to comment
contrarymary Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 This post is very telling..... Link to comment
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