I have been talking to this guy since Feb 2012. We met at a mutual friends party, hit it off, and started talking everything. At that time, I just broke up with my ex, so I was taking things really slowly, not wanting to get into a relationship. He was the one chasing me (initiating the texts, asking me how my day was, what i ate today) etc, so I grew to like him a lot more. He lives about 1.5h away, but comes to my city often because his friends live here.
We continued to talk up until June 2012 when he started becoming more distant. Even though we still texted everyday, he just didn't seem that into it anymore. He would text me "night night" with a hug/kiss emoticon each night. At one occasion I joked and mentioned that he had been kind of M.I.A lately, and that he must have a new love interest, and he responded with "ive just been really busy with the boys, trying to make the most of summer, thats all"
This Monday, he msged me in the morning saying "i'm heading up your way today " and suggested that we try to meet up, even though he wasnt sure when he would be free because he had to do a bunch of stuff with friends. He ended up msging me at 11pm saying he couldnt get together anymore because he just finished at the gym with his best bud and had a long drive to go.
i know he's been super busy with work lately, but im still getting the feeling that he has lost interest. I mean, if hes not interested, why bother making an attempt to get together this week, then bail? I feel like he's giving me mixed signals. I just dont know if he's sincerely busy this time of year or if hes just stringing me along.
At this point, I know I need to drop the effort put into this. There are other guys who want to get to know me, and Im having a hard time moving on (i know, i got attached ).
I invited him to my housewarming party next month and he is planning on coming.
Should I just not text him anymore, play it cool and see what happens? Or should I have the - "hey i feel like you have been distant lately.. im going to take the hint that you're not really interested anymore, and move on..." talk.
i want to start seeing other guys, but am still hung up on this guy, i dont know what to do!