Good first message that girls will reply to?

I would like some tips on how to send a great first message. that catch's a girls eye. I don't wanna sound generic. On ething i have always wondered is, do you tell about yourself in the first message or let her ask about you?

Also, what sort of stuff should you NOT say? Like what comes off creepy?

Would appreciate any tips that would help me.

I always like it when someone makes a joke and asks me questions about myself. Its important that you don't ask them something that is already on their profile! That can be annoying because it seems like you havent bothered to read it!

I like odd questions, like what I'd want to take on a desert island or what kind of super power I'd like to have... But anything is fine. And its nice if you can mention something you have in common from her profile.

I would say something quick about yourself, something interesting that isnt already on your profile!

Good luck

Just be yourself. having a script or rehearsed lines makes for boring conversation. just ask basic questions until you both find something that you have in common then just run with it. make sure you are listening to what she says and try and respond with more questions. nothing too personal, but not her favourite colour. places she has travelled to or where she would most like to go. don't talk about ex's too much. sounds like you aren't over them. but don't be flirty or ask about breasts or sex. honestly, i get so sick of how pathetic guys are today about just talking to a girl. but it also depends on what type of site you are on and what you are looking for. but even if its a sex site, be respectful and remember that the person you are talking to is a person, not a * * * * * . you'd be surprised at how many guys forget that they are not talking to a porn star. remember, be yourself and if you are naturally funny, use it. nothing more attractive than a guy who makes you laugh.

I always like it when someone makes a joke and asks me questions about myself. Its important that you don't ask them something that is already on their profile! That can be annoying because it seems like you havent bothered to read it!

I like odd questions, like what I'd want to take on a desert island or what kind of super power I'd like to have... But anything is fine. And its nice if you can mention something you have in common from her profile.

I would say something quick about yourself, something interesting that isnt already on your profile!

Good luck

 

what about asking what some of her favorite songs by a favorite band?

 

how many messages do you think is a good idea to bring up the topic of meeting??? some girls like it soon, some don't and find it creepy

as long as it isn't only a conversation about whats your favourite food, colour, bla bla bla...its like being in high school.

as for meeting...if the conversation online is going well and is easy, you could ask for her number. i wouldn't if you had just been chatting for 10mins. mind you i have had some people say they can't stand chatting online and prefer at least to chat on the phone. but that may be a little too much too soon for some (i.e. handing their personal number over to a complete stranger) so have Skype as an option. then she or you can delete them if they are freaks. i have had 4 hour convo online and met him the next day for a drink. i also spent weeks chatting and never met. it just depends on a case by case.

try something like this :

"sorry im late, was feeding the lions.yes,im crazy about this african kittens,so cute.

im such a big show-off,love the life thrilling experiences,like going to a starbucks friday morning and get my thing done in 2 minutes.

wanna try together ? say friday at xxxx ?"

Yep music, bands and movies are all good! Safe subjects that help you get to know a person. Suggesting to meet can be tricky, I recently posted about how I think guys ask for phone numbers too quick... I agree with the people above, take it slow and maybe swap personal emails or skype first and see how that goes... when guys ask to meet up immediately I get a bit nervous thinking they're only after one thing!

I think you just have to gauge the conversation to decide when's the best time to suggest meeting up. Good luck!

Your best bet is good pictures. Seriously. Based off my own experiences, and experiments I've read posted by other guys, pictures are the #1 thing you can do to improve your success rate. Same message, different pics will get different results.

I'd *highly* recommend getting off the dating sites though, and meeting ladies in the real world.

I want them to tell me about themselves, to gain an insight into their way of thinking and personality. Having said that, you can't ask things like that directly and nor should one. However there are a couple of ways of going about it through questioning by asking things like:

- what is something that you are proud of and why?

- if your life was to be filmed, which actor should play you and why ? or if you were to be an actor/movie character who would you be and why?

- what is your favourite song and why?

Those are examples - My way of thinking is to ask the open question and then see what you are told.

Having said that, I would be interested from a girl's perspective as to what you think of this type of an approach. Is it too personal to begin with?

I like being asked questions like that, so long as they aren't things that I've already said on my profile. I wouldn't ask too many in the first email though... maybe one or two, but too many starts to make it feel like an interview and the reply ends up like an essay... or maybe that's just me? lol!

I would like some tips on how to send a great first message. that catch's a girls eye. I don't wanna sound generic. On ething i have always wondered is, do you tell about yourself in the first message or let her ask about you?

 

Also, what sort of stuff should you NOT say? Like what comes off creepy?

 

 

Would appreciate any tips that would help me.

Not to go off topic, but it's a whole lot easier to intrigue a girl by calling her via telephone vs trying to 'catch her eye' with a text message. Just sayin.