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Thread: ping pong show.....on our honeymoon

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    ping pong show.....on our honeymoon

    I'm going to Thailand on my honeymoon. 10 minutes out of Patong... I'm sure anybody who knows patong knows what its famous for.. Cheap prostitutes, sleazy corners and lady boys....*sigh*. Aside from that the rest of Thailand is a beautiful place and has beautiful resorts which do accommodate for plenty of honeymoon goers...but..

    My fiance keeps bringing up how really wants to go into patong and see everything. Which I get and I do too.. but at the same time, its our honeymoon....why would we go look at lady boys and prostitutes (even just\ for curiosity) on our honeymoon.. I feel like its REALLY not the time to do it..

    Also, one thing he said he really wants to do is go see "the ping pong show"..i'm sure you can all use your imagiantion on what that intales. Although I really don't want to see this especially on our honeymoon im sure curiosity will get the better of me IF it wasn't my honeymoon. I expressed this with my fiance saying simply when he mentioned it.. " i kinda feel weird about it becasue it is our honeymoon" he said "who cares" (as in we can do what we like its our honeymoon) which i get, but i think he completely missed the fact that I was saying that I care.

    The supposedly most romantic time of our lives is going to be rudely twisted and leave a fowl taste in my mouth by seeing these things. It kinda broke my heart a bit that he wants to do these things on our honeymoon.. Am I being uptight and taking the honeymoon thing unrealistically?

    Another thing was, I joked after I had said that, "if a ping pong hits my head I am going to be so disgusted that you can do what you like but I will not be staying there!" He joked back "ohh anything I want?" (keep in mind what patong is known for). It broke my heart a little bit more and felt like he was being a little insensitive to the fact that it is a bit of a concern to me and he knows it. Its not that I think he will cheat on me or anything, I don't believe he would but you never know until the circumstances arise, but the whole point is him just not having any regard for this being our honeymoon. Or do I have a fairy tale in my head? He would like to see (just see) the prostitutes and lady boys and ping pong show etc etc and I imagian romantic music, champaign, bubble baths lots of sex! and anything that can focuses our love for each other

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    I'm sorry, I know this has to be frustrating. I too would be pretty upset I admit.

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    I don't consider myself to be a very uptight person but...yuck. Who wants to spend their honeymoon at some sleazy show? Thailand is a gorgeous country. Surely there's something else he wants to see? I'd be kind of skeeved out generally because prostitution in that area seems incredibly sketchy - is it coerced, consensual, are the girls of age....too many gray areas that would add to my feeling of uneasiness.

    I'd basically just tell him I'm not interested, and if he wants to go to that show, he's going alone.
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    Yeah this is way too ridiculous..I mean if one has to cheat, why would he take his girlfriend over there.. and if one is not a cheater then why would he spoil his honeymoon by doing these things overthere. It seems your boyfriend either does not get too many leaves or does not have enough money...and he thinks that honeymoon is the only chance of him getting there....He must have heard about these things and is very curious....but to me its foolish.

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    Why exactly does he want to see that?

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    Oh, I think you have a BIG problem here...

    Is this guy really into porn (including weird porn) and how is your sex life? Does he push you to do things you don't want to do or pester you for sex like a dog humping your leg?

    What really disturbs me about your post is that he seems to be showing absolutely no concern for your feelings or having this honeymoon be fun and special for YOU and is looking at is more as an opportunity to get his pervert on!

    There are LOTS of objections to those ping pong shows even from a human rights perspective because many of the girls on those shows get injured seriously and it is degrading to all women (and humanity) in general to see so many young people sold into sex slavery as children doing these things for money and survival.

    You may have a big problem with your husband if he goes for more perverted acts and you see sex as something that should happen between loving individuals and where he should be considering your feelings and not just acting out every bit of weird porn he's ever seen in his life. The way he talks to you and his choice of honeymoon locale makes me think that in a few years, he will be asking you to lay down and spread it rather than having any romance or tenderness in your life.

    I would point blank REFUSE to go to Thailand on your honeymoon, and have a long talk about how important romance and caring is, as well as the importance of fidelity and that you can and WILL divorce if he strays from marriage (unless you do agree with the idea of open marriage and allowing him sexual license or like doing the more perverted things in your sex life).

    He is WAY off the mark if he thinks your honeymoon should be about a trip thru sexual perversion land... i think you might have a very wide gap in value systems of what is fun and important when it comes to sex, and perhaps you should even consider NOT marrying this guy because this might be a HUGE warning of what is to come in your life, with him totally ignoring your wishes and being crass about it, based on the evidence that he is not caring whether your honeymoon is fun or special for you and just sees it as an opportunity to get his freak on. For all you know, when you arrive, he may say since you're there, why not have a threesome with and buy a Thai girl since it is legal there?

    I mean, you're not even married yet and he's already 'bored' with normal sex with you, even in the context of a romantic honeymoon! I think you need a LONG talk with him and to set him straight about how outrageous and unpleasant you think that whole business is, and if he won't come around and agree to a NORMAL honeymoon and understand that you WILL leave him if he does even think about expecting this kind of thing from you in future, then I think you might seriously consider not marrying him because he is showing signs of being not only very inconsiderate and disrespectful of your feelings, but also of having perversion tendencies which he might not be able to control once you do marry and he might start seeing hookers down the line when he gets bored.

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    btw, this kind of thing is not a joking matter... you KNOW how you feel about it, so please don't try to convince yourself to pretend it is OK and tiptoe around it with him when it really grosses you out... they not only do ping pongs, but put all kinds of gross and dangerous things into themselves and do ask men from the audience to participate and he could be the one who eagerly rushes up to join the show.

    Actually, i am sitting here feeling quite sad for you, because i think many young girls who want to get married and have a family WILL put aside all their concerns and better judgment thinking marriage will 'fix' men who are disrespectful of them and their feelings and into various perversions will change and stop that once they marry. They won't, and it gets worse as time goes on and these kinds of men start to get bored with the marriage. I would set him straight about what your feelings and expectations and values are BEFORE you get married, and if he is disrespectful of that or ignores you or tries to bully or guilt you into it, then don't marry him. It's better to stop this before it gets worse and kids get involved and an ugly divorce ensues because he is chasing other women or hookers in his quest for excitement.

    I personally would find it degrading to be forced to go from the high of an emotional wedding pledging to honor and love another for life, to a couple days later sitting in a sex show while teenage sex slaves pick up ping pong balls and razor blades with their vaginas! If he thinks that is OK or fun, i think you have a big problem you need to address with him!

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    I ditto Lavenderdove's posts. I was actually quite horrified reading that your fiance wants to go to these kinds of places. These "ping pong" shows are just downright degrading and dangerous for women. Is this what your boyfriend really thinks of women? A honeymoon is supposed to be the time when the couple is all lovey dovey with each other..not the time to get acquainted with the sex "tourism" of Thailand. The fact that he is so unconcerned about your feelings is pretty disturbing. I have to wonder what the rest of your relationship is like because this aspect of him is pretty disturbing.

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    Maybe don't go to Thailand if you absolutely do not want to do these things on your honeymoon? Honestly the lady boys/prossies/ping pong shows are kind of unavoidable there. I'd be wary tbh. Even if you got what you wanted (fiancÚ agrees to not going to the ping pong shows etc) then you will still encounter these things even if you aren't looking over there and, well, I can't see things ending well.

    Tl;dr: Don't go to Thailand. It won't be a romantic fantasy IMO.

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    I agree that everything that he says he wants to do on your trip is distasteful.

    With that said, my advice would be: Stop joking with him about it, and stop sending mixed messages. Be assertive and don't be afriad to tell him you think it is distasteful and gross and disrespectful and you absolutely DO NOT want to go.
    My fiance keeps bringing up how really wants to go into patong and see everything. Which I get and I do too..
    I joked after I had said that, "if a ping pong hits my head I am going to be so disgusted that you can do what you like but I will not be staying there!"
    ^Those are mixed messages. You need to let him know, without a doubt, that you hate the idea and that you do not want to go, or to see it under any circumstances.

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