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Thread: ping pong show.....on our honeymoon

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    Originally Posted by lavenderdove
    Oh, I think you have a BIG problem here...

    Is this guy really into porn (including weird porn) and how is your sex life? Does he push you to do things you don't want to do or pester you for sex like a dog humping your leg?
    err Loves porn, almost daily. Says our sex life is on a decline becasue we didn't have sex for one day..had it multiple times per day previous to that...and I could take or leave sex but try accommodate all the time. He always asks me to do stuff, almost every day, and says things like "you never do that to me anymore" if I decline, even if I did it the day before.. Funny you should mention the humping your leg...he literally pretends to hump my leg..drives me insane. There is very rarely a "lead" up to sex with romantics..it seems his romantics are to watch porn together which in some cases makes me feel sick to watch. Don't get me wrong I don't mind porn but I really have to be in the right frame of mind. I should add which I am pretty open about when I am anonymous is I was raped as a child between ages 5-13/14 and sex can unintentionally and all of a sudden bring on allot of negative emotions for me. He is aware that I was raped by 2 men consistently through that age bracket...which is another reason why I feel he should be more understanding about me not wanting to go see a sex show - I think I will probably feel extremely sick and disgusted and horrible for the rest of the trip. But perhaps I am being unrealistic in him understanding the connection - or burdening him with my unresolved issues.

    Originally Posted by lavenderdove
    What really disturbs me about your post is that he seems to be showing absolutely no concern for your feelings or having this honeymoon be fun and special for YOU and is looking at is more as an opportunity to get his pervert on!
    This is the main concern for me too. I took his opinion into consideration and he literallaly told me to "shutup I don't want to hear about it" when I tried to explain why I didn't want to go, regardless of if he said "ok" when I said I didn't want to go.

    Originally Posted by lavenderdove
    I mean, you're not even married yet and he's already 'bored' with normal sex with you, even in the context of a romantic honeymoon! .
    He believes becasue we have been together for 6 years that a honeymoon is just a holiday and that it won't be romantic. He said I will be very disappointed if I go over there thinking it is going to be romantic. I'm tired of being the one who always rights little notes, lights candels and runs a bath in hopes he may do it one day again...
    Last edited by Hanz33; 05-22-2012 at 11:29 PM.

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    Originally Posted by Miss Firecracker
    The whole story is making me feel sick. So many beautiful places to visit, and this guy wants to drag you through a slum.
    I blame the environement he spends 6 months of the year in. HE works on an oil rig and allot of guys actually live over in thailand specifcally for the prostitutes and ladyboys. I think they have painted a magical land in his head...I'm sure it is for men.

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    I would consider it very distasteful to be supporting the sex tourism industry/human trafficking at all, even more so on my honeymoon.

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    Originally Posted by Avacel
    Let me ask you, is he someone that can afford to go to Thailand whenever he wants? This could be his only opportunity. I would be upset if I was going to a place I knew I would most likely never return to and I couldn't see or do the things that I was curious about. Now if this is some place that you can go to any time, then he should skip it.
    We have enough money for him to go several times a year if he wanted too. I wouldn't want him to go without me though just becasue of what its known for and most of his mates go over to thailand for the prossies.

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    Originally Posted by Hanz33
    I blame the environement he spends 6 months of the year in. HE works on an oil rig and allot of guys actually live over in thailand specifcally for the prostitutes and ladyboys. I think they have painted a magical land in his head...I'm sure it is for men.
    My man never has mentioned needing that type of entertainment. He took me to Grand Canyon, Muir Woods in California, and Yosemite. He wants a clean life for his family. Are you proud of your fiancÚ? Does he treat you like a lady? You deserve better I think.

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    I just can't explain to him Why it is wrong exactly.. I explained the povity, the rights of the girls, the desperation, the fact that it is our honeymoon. He didn't care less about those things. He couldn't understand why it was wrong to see it on our honeymoon either which I found hard to explain why in particular this was more wrong becasue it was a honeymoon...becasue he believes the honeymoon is nothing more than a holiday. I can't really explain my ideas or expectations of a honeymoon either other than, thats what I was told it should be? and what a great opportunity it would be to show him the love and care I have for him

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    Originally Posted by Miss Firecracker
    My man never has mentioned needing that type of entertainment. He took me to Grand Canyon, Muir Woods in California, and Yosemite. He wants a clean life for his family. Are you proud of your fiancÚ? Does he treat you like a lady? You deserve better I think.
    Most of the time he does treat me like a lady until it comes to not getting sex or if he is angry/ I disagree with him.

    I am proud of what my fiance has achieved in his life and his smarts. He is extremely smart. My respect for him is declining just becasue of his lack of respect for me in general. Maybe its a vicious cycle.

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    [QUOTE=Hanz33;5309344]I just can't explain to him Why it is wrong exactly.. I explained the povity, the rights of the girls, the desperation, the fact that it is our honeymoon. He didn't care less about those things. He couldn't understand why it was wrong to see it on our honeymoon either which I found hard to explain why in particular this was more wrong becasue it was a honeymoon...becasue he believes the honeymoon is nothing more than a holiday. I can't really explain my ideas or expectations of a honeymoon either other than, thats what I was told it should be? and what a great opportunity it would be to show him the love and care I have for him

    Does he know anything about the sex industry at all? Does he know that these girls are kidnapped or sold by their families at a very young age to become sex workers? Does he realize that he would be supporting modern day slavery? He is either completely ignorant or has no conscience.

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    i explained this to him.. he simply said "shutup i don't want to talk about it. I wont go and theres no point in us talking about it becasue when you have an opinion thats what goes. Doesn't matter what I want to do" - something to that effect. - in saying that I think his point of view would be, if everybody is going, his not going to stop it by not going. His opinion is that he simply wants to see it out of curiosity. Which i get that point of view, don't agree but I get it. I don't get his point of view that it is the same as seeing it on a holiday as it is on a honeymoon - but I can't explain that bit to him.

    the thing that disgusts me is when he talked about "walking in there and just getting his chub on" (slang for getting err getting hard) which he would say " settle the f*** down I was joking. God you can't take a joke" - ergh - on our honeymoon with me beside him getting all wound up over a pretty thai girl I could never even start to look like. This made me feel horrible - I would hate to know how I am going to feel in thailand itself - but its booked so can't do anything about it - it cost us 5 grand all up.
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    Originally Posted by Hanz33
    i explained this to him.. he simply said "shutup i don't want to talk about it. I wont go and theres no point in us talking about it becasue when you have an opinion thats what goes. Doesn't matter what I want to do" - something to that effect. - in saying that I think his point of view would be, if everybody is going, his not going to stop it by not going. His opinion is that he simply wants to see it out of curiosity. Which i get that point of view, don't agree but I get it. I don't get his point of view that it is the same as seeing it on a holiday as it is on a honeymoon - but I can't explain that bit to him.
    His thought process is frightening. I hope you reconsider this marriage.

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