I am here to vent and get some opinions about my situation.
I have been dating a guy for 7 months. We have had our ups and downs mostly because he just moved here and has 2 jobs, works 7 days a week but doesnt make good money but wants a family and kids right now. I have told him we need to take things slow and work towards getting a place together, and work on getting him a better job as he cant even handle the bills he has now and is living with his cousin for $400/mo. I have stayed by his side, then he started getting into financial problems and i have helped him out of those but he continues to do it. His cousin left for a month and he had the burden of coming up woth $1000 for the rent for the month. He got really stressed out over that. He has had problems at his job because of his excessive cell phone use and tardiness. So he started to really stress. Then one night he caused me some heartache by playing mind games and ignoring me and hitting on a girl RIGHT in front of me. I cut off contact with him for a couple days and he BEGGED for another chance and told me he couldnt do this alone and loves me so much and it wasnt him and that he was just overwhelmed. He also said that he was hurt because I keep telling him he needs to get his stuff together and his parents always told him that and he didnt think i would do it, that he expected me to hold him up and be there for support. From the beginning he "fell in love with me" for 7 months he has always told me how much he loves me and always talked about family and how much he wants kids. He said that i was the love of his life, that he couldnt ever be with anyone else. He was in a 10 year relationship and he told me that he loves me more than he could have ever imagined loving her. He always said he would always treat me good and never leave or hurt me. On and on......basically nothing but pure love words and promises. He was always blowing my phone up, we talked daily. If he didnt hear from me he would send txt after txt or call. I always responded unless i was super busy or sleeping of course. I talked to him Thursday and he said lets get a place and get this going I love you with all my heart and I wanna just be together. I said ok, so we planned to spend the weekend together and get online, look for jobs for him and places to live. I finally let my guard down and gave in. I have been hurt and kinda had a big wall up so as not to get hurt, but after 7 months of this, i said its time for me to take a leap! So i did....well....All of a sudden Friday day I barely hear from him.....I ask him whats up, he says nothing im just stressed and busy at work. So i meet up at his house Friday he comes over and spends the night. He tells me he cant spend the weekend with me because he offered to watch a co-workers dog so she could go see her BF in another town. I was hurt! we had planned this weekend together for 3 weeks, but made it official the night before as to the plans....I was gonna cook him a nice home cooked meal...job/house hunt and just have a relaxing romantic weekend. I didnt hear from him all day saturday or saturday night.
I said fine...and left it aty that and went to a friends bbq. Well he showed up, so i left. i wasnt very happy with him. He then showed up at my house, then got frustrated with me and left. He yelled at me Sunday saying that i kicked him while he was down by getting on him about needing to get it together. Anyway, i havent talked to him since so yesterday I sent him a txt and told him that i hoped he understands but that the silence is odd and i understand something was up, but that i deserved an explanation after all i have done because i am confused and i need some sort of closure so I can move on. I asked him to please nto ignore me and hear me out. His response was "again, i am not ignoring you , I was busy..sorry" So i replied and said, so are you going to call so we can talk this out? He said "I will just not right now, i need to think and clear my head." I didnt respond and havent heard from him since. I am just kinda lost, confused, heart borken and dont even know what to do or what is going on........anyway...i feel like i should just let him go....but its really weighing on me..the silence is just lame. I mean from all these i love you's and cant live without you, to NOTHING?!?! Should I just let go?
PS- sorry for the long post i was just trying to get it all in there so you can give some advice. Thanks in advance!