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    Difference between porn and real sex

    Aside from the obvious things that women clearly would not want done to them, what are the differences between porn and sex in real life?


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    Pretty much everything.

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    Porn is sex from a male fantasy view where he doesn't have to do anything and gets all the pleasure. A lot of porn is really derogatory to women. The attitude is like you are so disgusting for having sex with me that she isn't even a person.

    Maybe the producers/directors have deep seated mommy anger issues.

    It is just people putting body parts together with no feeling to it or care about the other person.

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    Quote Originally Posted by vinceval [Register to see the link]
    Aside from the obvious things that women clearly would not want done to them, what are the differences between porn and sex in real life?
    Porn
    - Not a lot of work
    - Creates a fantasy
    - Instant
    -UNREALISTIC at times
    - Hilarious at times

    Real SEX
    - Touching another person's body
    - Can be emotional/unemotional
    - Knowing you might be giving pleasure to the other person
    - Takes a long time because one person might need a lot of foreplay or to get up
    - Person doesn't last too long when it comes to sexual drive

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    I have a different perspective, than the last poster.

    The best sex that I've had, probably could have been filmed and would have been some really hot porn. If I'm with someone I trust (and why would I have sex with someone I didn't trust?) then the two of us can do anything together. Nothing feels degrading, and trust me, we both get pleasure. Even if it's a circumstance where I am pleasuring him, and he's just enjoying it, why is that degrading to me? It feels good, to give someone pleasure, it's very satisfying.

    The difference between porn and real sex, to me, is that with porn, you don't have a couple with feelings. ( I mean, who knows, maybe the actors care about each other but I doubt it, it's a job to them) The hottest sex I've had, has been with a man who I feel a very strong chemistry for. I like him as a friend. And while I wasn't in love with him, I care about him very much.

    Those feelings, that chemistry, added to the sexual attraction, and I think it's those factors that allow complete freedom in the bedroom. Just my humble opinion, thanks for letting me chime in.

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    I agree with Mines. There are a few things I would never do but a lot of what some women (my own husband) feels degrades women I feel comfortable enough with my husband to do. But the difference in porn and real sex to me is the situation really. I don't do soft core porn and I LOATH those fantasy types were like man comes to door as fixer man dresses scantly, woman just lets him in... I'm more amateur porn I suppose. Comparing that to real sex you don't have a woman whose just going to let you have her way and her not have an orgasm - a good woman will demand she gets her cookie before you get yours!

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    For the most part pornography is recording a sexual act regardless of being in a relationship or not, being paid for it or not.

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    Okay, I'm the girl in ALWAYS tries to have sex like a porn star. I'm uninhibited, I come pretty quckly, I'm make noises of pleasure (NOT faking it, REAL) I love different positions, and I DID have sex with the Gas Company guy who came to our door when I was much younger (this was before AIDS, and the sex was HOT!). So yeah, real life sex is not always like the real thing, but we should try to make it that way. And why is a women enjoying sex so degrading? I can't fugure than one out.

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    It's been a long, long time since I watched porn. I love sex, I love watching convincing sex, but what I saw in porn wasn't convincing at all. Yes, they were actually having intercourse, but the situations were ridiculously contrived and the actors (male and female) appeared to be idiots. The women always appeared to be faking any pleasure they were having, and faking it badly, which was a huge turn off.

    What I like is regular movies with well-done sex scenes. Mainstream movies are not entirely about sex, so they put a lot of effort into convincing storylines that porn doesn't. More important, the women can generally act. Despite the sex being simulated, the faked pleasure in these scenes is often convincing, more convincing than porn stars pretending to enjoy actual sex.

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    Better faked in porn than faked at home. So many women fake it and that is a darn shame.

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