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    thegirl_00
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    Why does this guy who likes me want to have a threesome with his best friend??

    Ok so do I have a story!. I broke up with my boyfriend of eight months because I felt like I needed to be single. I realllly liked my ex but I just wasn't ready for the commitment. Eventually i want to get back together with him, but im not expecting him to wait around.

    So basically the day we broke up I went to the bar with girlfriends and the hottest guy ever started talking to me. We hit it off and I ended up sleeping at his place but we DIDN'T have sex. Afterwards he continued to talk to me and we hung out again 3 days later... we ended up having sex that night. I told him I don't want a boyfriend (which is completely true), but that he is cute and I don't mind continuing to be friends with him. I figured that would be the last I heard from him considering I already slept with him, but it wasn't - he continued to pursue me and wanted to hang out more and he wanted me to meet his friends. I figured this meant that he liked me and I thought it was kind of cute.

    So last night I went out with him and all his guy friends. I was supposed to have girlfriends come out too but they all bailed last minute. So it was basically me and 6 dudes. Anyways I didn't pay much attention to my "date", because we aren't actually going out and we both agreed that we don't want to act like a couple at all. So basically I was hitting on a bunch of guys all night and he was hitting on other chics and we had a blast! I was actually helping him and his friends pick up girls. P.s I am all about open relationships so this was cool for me.

    At the end of the night I ended up going to his place and one of his guy friends came too. We were all drinking but I got really tired at 3am and went to sleep..... so 6am rolls around and I am in his bed and him AND his friend come into the bed naked wanting a threesome! I turned it down. But then my "date" leaves the bed and just his friend stayed and kept trying to hit on me. What kind of friends are these?? I am so confused!! Why would this guy who likes me purposely leave me in bed with his best friend??

    Anyways I feel extremely used and I haven't heard from my "date" since. I am actually sad about this... he was a lot of fun and I feel completely rejected. I have never been rejected by someone before (probably because I always have a boyfriend), but it feels terrible!!

    Do you think there is any chance he will text me again? What does any of this mean? Please help me make sense of what happened here.

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    Him and his friends just want to get laid.

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    It means that he just wanted to use you for sex and a possible threesome with his friend. He has no intention of being serious with you at all. You pretty much told him that you wanted nothing serious. You also helped him pick up girls and you even slept with him. The way you carried yourself most likely made him assume that you were "wild." That's why him and his friend jumped in the bed naked.

    He may text you, he may not. But I suggest that you don't bother with him anymore.

    What were your actual intentions with this guy?

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    I'm sorry to say this to you, but I don't think he really likes you...much less has ANY respect for you. I have to agree with GreenCupcake, you became an easy target. Your actions made him (and his friend) believe that you were 'game' for just about anything. I would refrain from putting myself in such a position; much worse could've happened to you with a group of horny guys that you don't really know and lots of drinking on your part.

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    He doesn't see you as a person....

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    I kind of just wanted to keep him around and party together and whatever else. I didn't expect this all to end so soon and in such a strange way. I totally got played!! I seriously thought I was the one in control. He kept talking to me about relationships and that I would be awesome to date, but that he respects that I want to be single. He bought me a ticket to go to his sisters wedding fundraiser with him as his date. Which I still have. I totally thought he was obsessed with me and so did my friends. I'm so confused...

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    Quote Originally Posted by thegirl_00 [Register to see the link]
    I kind of just wanted to keep him around and party together and whatever else. I didn't expect this all to end so soon and in such a strange way. I totally got played!! I seriously thought I was the one in control. He kept talking to me about relationships and that I would be awesome to date, but that he respects that I want to be single. He bought me a ticket to go to his sisters wedding fundraiser with him as his date. Which I still have. I totally thought he was obsessed with me and so did my friends. I'm so confused...
    You played yourself. He is treating you how you wanted to be treated. Sex, no relationship etc. etc.

    I think that you have some major growing up to do.

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    I'm not sure where "respect" comes into play when you agreed to have sex with someone you barely know, followed by sleeping in his bed while other guys are hanging around.

    so 6am rolls around and I am in his bed and him AND his friend come into the bed naked wanting a threesome! I turned it down. But then my "date" leaves the bed and just his friend stayed and kept trying to hit on me. What kind of friends are these?? I am so confused!!
    And you're wondering if he'll text you again?

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    Quote Originally Posted by HeartGoesOn [Register to see the link]
    I'm not sure where "respect" comes into play when you agreed to have sex with someone you barely know, followed by sleeping in his bed while other guys are hanging around.



    And you're wondering if he'll text you again?
    Agree with this. You weren't used. He was entitled to assume you'd be open to having sex with him and others in the house given your behavior. What you wrote has nothing to do with being into "open relationships" -which means you're in an exclusive romantic relationship where you're also allowed to be with other people -what you were describing was simply that you were hanging out with the guy you just met and had sex with and shopping around to see what else was out there, just as he was. The only thing wrong with that is that somehow you've decided that that means he "used you for sec which is surprising, to say the least.

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    Sooo he just texted me asking why I think he is an * * * * * * * and why i never want to talk to him again.... What the heck. I am not going to respond. You guys are right. I got played by my own game. At least now I can keep some dignity by not responding. Honestly, I don't regret sleeping with him. I have never done that in my life and whatever... I am single now and having fun.

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