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Thread: Am i some kinda freak for not swallowing?!?!

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    Am i some kinda freak for not swallowing?!?!

    Hi! I am 26 and my boyfriend and i recently split after 8 years and we have a 5 yr old son together. Our relationship in the beginning was on and off but has been steady for the past 4 or 5 years until now.. We have had many arguments but they always seem to come back to the fact that i don't swallow or take it in the mouth. I have tried it before in the past and really don't like it at all!!! Just the thought of it makes my stomach wretch and i cant even watch it in a porn without gagging and having to look away. Its always been a constant stigma between us, yet he knew this about me when we first got together. Now in all fairness, i have tried swallowing with him many times. I always have the same reaction. Gagging and/or throwing up.

    What i hate the most about all this is how he makes me feel for not doing it. He says that swallowing is the ONLY way for me to prove to him, beyond a shadow of doubt that i would do anything for him. That doing the one thing that i hate most will show my undying love and devotion for him. Now don't get me wrong, i understand the symbolism behind it, but surely there are other ways for me show that i love him and would be willing to do anything for him.

    Well according to him, there isn't!! He thinks I'm just being selfish and inconsiderate. Especially considering that all his female friends are pro-swallowing and i feel like I'm the only one who's not!

    On one hand i feel like a failure for not being able to give him really the only thing he's ever asked for. On the other hand i cant help but be infuriated by the fact that in saying that, he makes it seem like everything else i've done for him meant nothing!!

    Am i really such a horrible person?

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    No, he sounds like his priorities are massively messed up, especially considering that you have a son together.

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    Agreed. I read your post in awe a little bit, being a 20-something male myself I don't expect any of my female partners to do something like that if they're not comfortable (especially considering the reaction it gives you).

    I don't want to say anything about him, as I don't know him but I can say that you are not a horrible person, of course not. I think you know you're not a bad person but are looking for reassurance, so here it is. That's a petty issue he needs to get over, seeing how you sacrificed yourself for 9+ months for his baby, remained by his side, have sex with him (I'm assuming) etc.

    He needs to get his priorities straight like agent said. Good luck.

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    I'm a guy, and I think a girl swallowing is disgusting. You're perfectly normal for not wanting to swallow semen.

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    he watches too much porn

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    Originally Posted by BrianH46
    he watches too much porn
    Bingo. Porn distorts your view of sexuality.

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    It's an "Each to their own" issue. Some girls love anal, some don't. Some guys love giving oral. Some don't like giving it at all. It's just a preference that's all. He sounds like he's on a power-trip more than anything else.

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    If you said you had a huge problem with giving a blowjob, I could SOMEWHAT understand if he was upset about it. Personally I have the same feeling as ^ and have never had any inclination of asking a girl to swallow.

    Your boyfriend has every right to want this though. It's your call on whether you want to give it to him. It doesn't make you a horrible person but there lies your boundary.

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    I bet he wrinkles his nose in disgust at the suggestion of tasting his own bodily fluid. YET, he believes someone else should ingest it. Madness. If anyone ever asked me to do that, I'd say--right after you.

    I think the most repulsive part of the suggestion would be the sense of entitlement in his tone...like it were somewhere in the constitution...

    Please DO NOT do anything you find disgusting. That doesn't make you a horrible person.

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    No you're not a horrible person. If you refused to suck it at all I could see him complaining, but the fact that you won't swallow doesn't really have anything to do with his physical pleasure.. it just suggests that he gets some sadistic mental pleasure out of seeing you doing something which is gross to you.. which is very disturbing.

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