My name is Erin and I'm a 24 year old from Australia.
My boyfriend and I have been officially seeing eachother since about July last year. We have known eachother since March 2011 though.
2011 was not an easy year for me, there were plenty of ups and downs- but heaps of downs. My boyfriend stood by me through most of these times- but he seemed to pay the cost when helping me through my downs, getting frustrated and pained by moods and situations. I know these times wore him down and pushed him away from me- he has said this himself.
To cut to the chase, today I asked him whether he was in love with me. I know I'm in love with him, I can feel it. I've felt it all along. He said no, that he wasn't (not in that blunt a tone) but said he likes me a lot romantically. He also said that he believes in the possibility that he can and will fall in love with me.
However, I've felt devastated by what he said. He shows definite signs that he could be in love- we spend a lot of time together, have a lot of fun, he visits, we give eachother little gifts...it goes on.
Yet, he said this. In a way I don't feel surprised, I mean, he kind of acts in a way that isn't the definition of someone in love. I can tell he cares and likes me a lot. But I can see his restraint and wariness. I don't hold on any blame toward him, I know I've been frustrating at times, I'm trying to get sorted though.
My questions are the following: Can a person fall in love later in a relationship? Is it too late for him to fall in love with me?
I feel corny writing such things. I just find it hard to imagine that a person can fall in love later on in a relationship...I feel these things normally happen in the beginning. I've spoken to friends and they feel it's still possible....but I don't know.
Any feed back would be wonderful.