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    Question Kissing cousins? Is it ok?

    Hey everyone,

    This is something I've always heard mixed opinions on. I'm curious what the truth is.

    I've heard that it's technically ok for cousins to date/marry; that there really isn't anything morally/physically wrong with it. (Another saying I've heard: "Second & up, it's ok to f**k." lol, as in second cousin-or-above, it's ok to date/marry/ahem, the word in the saying.) ...but is it true? Or is it actually morally and physically wrong to get together with a cousin? (First, second, or otherwise?)

    I've heard that if cousins marry and have a child, the child will be deformed; "have bugged-out eyes." (I don't know if this is true, it's just one of the things I've heard about getting together with a cousin!)

    If anyone knows what the truth is (not the many rumors/sayings I've heard) please reply. Thanks!

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    I have a friend who's mother was born to kissing cousins. His mother is slightly whacky. But she managed to get married and had 2 kids (he was one of them) and he turned out perfectly normal.

    But yeah, I wouldn't get with a cousin!

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    From what I understand, a child produced from two first-cousins has about the same risk of birth defects/disorders/mutations as a child born of a woman 40 years of age and older.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Autumnrose [Register to see the link]

    I've heard that if cousins marry and have a child, the child will be deformed;
    I think that this is really more a case where there are generations of cousins intermarrying.

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    There is some increased risk when 2 cousins marry and have children. I wouldn't say that it's HORRIBLY increased but it's definitely more than 2 people who aren't blood related.

    I've made out with my cousin. He's older by 4-5 years. It's not something that I talk about. We used to "fondle" each other when we were young and then made out when I was older and went on a "date".

    I kid you not. Not something I tell many people. My family doesn't know. Now I haven't seen him in so many years and I'm not in contact. I don't really care. It doesn't matter to me if I ever see him again.

    I personally wouldn't do it again.

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    There is enough genetic diversity for cousins to have children together, but the stigma seems to be social and cultural. Some cultures allow cousins to marry and/or encourage it.

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    Interesting...my question doesn't seem to be answered clearly, though. Thanks for responses!

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    What question do you want answered, specifically?

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    If you're asking about morals, I don't think it's MORALLY wrong to get with a cousin.

    Then again, I define "morals" by the simple question: DOES THIS HURT SOMEONE?

    You boning or marrying your cousin, outside of some possibly family upset (then again, families usually freak at many things), well, it's not hurting anyone, so it's not immoral.

    However, societal customs and society's idea of what is "okay" is usually not in line with what is moral. Cheating and having mistresses is more acceptable in our society than marrying your cousin, which I think is just ridiculous. So if you get with a cousin, expect some backlash and possible family strife.

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    Quote Originally Posted by agent [Register to see the link]
    I think that this is really more a case where there are generations of cousins intermarrying.
    I think this is exactly correct.

    Quote Originally Posted by Autumnrose [Register to see the link]
    Interesting...my question doesn't seem to be answered clearly, though. Thanks for responses!
    Morally? Up to you, really. Fudgie is right; the question to ask is "does this hurt somebody".

    As for legally, the answer is it varies. I looked it up once. In the U.S., cousin marriage is illegal in about half the states. Outside the U.S., it's legal in most of the world, and even encouraged in some cultures. I think it's legal in the U.K., given that Victoria and Albert were first cousins.

    Second cousins are legal everywhere.

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