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Thread: my boyfriend is mad at me because I am on birth control..

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    my boyfriend is mad at me because I am on birth control..

    We got back together. I went to lunch with him and his friends.
    Things were good but I came later. His friends left eventually.
    My boyfriend, asked me how the doctor went. I told him "It went okay. He is putting me on birth control." I could tell he got uncomfortable I don't know. his face made some weird look. So I asked "What?" he said "Why are you going on birth control?" I said "Because." I didn't want to talk about the reason why in front of other people. He said "Why...? No. Don't." I asked "Why not? It's done. I'm going on it." He said "Babe. Seriously don't it's really bad for you. Why is he putting you on that? Who does he think he is? Birth control is bad for you." I said "I want to be safe. Just in case something happens."
    He replied with "We will talk about it later. I don't think it's a good idea. We will talk about it later."

    The real reason is to regulate my time of the month. But I want to be safe.
    I don't really get why someone would oppose the idea of wanting to be safe? Do you guys out there would you get upset if your girlfriend decided to go on the pill? I have been talking about it with my doc for awhile now. But I am going on it whether he likes it or not. Why wouldn't your boyfriend/partner NOT like it?

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    Does he want a baby anytime soon? How old is he?

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    Where did he get his info that BC is straight out bad for you? Sounds like he needs some education about it.

    Actually, looking at your last threads, make sure you don't go anywhere near him without using some form of BC.

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    I asked my friend about it and he told me he honestly got upset with his girlfriend too last year when she went on the pill. He thought she was doing it to have sex with other guys. :S

    But he realized how stupid he was being. He said he wants kids with her eventually and he thought the pill would make her unable to ever have kids. Ive heard of guys getting upset but that sounds kind of selfish? Condoms aren't a guarantee...

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    Unless he has a medical degree he doesn't really have any legitimate input, IMO. What is he basing this claim on?

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    It kills me that some people will have sex without being educated on it!! Present some education to your boyfriend to ease his fears

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    I can remember I used to act like that too when my ex-girlfriend was talking about going on it, which she wanted to do for her acne. I read some scary things about it, like increased risk of breast and cervical cancer, increased risk of miscarriage and a bunch of other scary things. I was actually willing to put off sex just so she wouldn't go on it. Then again, I was very young and naive.
    My current girlfriend is on the pill, has been since she was young as well for acne and regulating period I guess. I'm fine with it, plus I don't use condoms anymore. She knows what she's doing too cause she's in healthcare and knows about all of that stuff.

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    You BF is being a bit ridiculous about this. BC is NOT bad for you unless you have an underlying medical condition or (is some few an far between cases) it is are on it for many, many, many years you could have difficultly getting pregnant.

    Plus, its not really his place to say what you can and cannot put in your own body.

    IDK, I get the vibe that he is fairly controlling. I mean if he is going to make a big deal out of BC I think it might be a sign of how he would handle other aspects of your relationship.

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    My boyfriend thought that some KINDS of birth control were bad for me, we discussed the different KINDS of birth control that i should and should not go on with their effectiveness and side effects. Something seems weird and I have a feeling it has nothing to do with birth control being bad for you, Chocolate, the smell of gasoline and talking on the phone while driving is bad for you, is he all over you about those things too?

    It sounds like he wants kids some day- soon

    Birth control regulates your ability to get pregnant and regulates your period. The only reason I can see him getting upset even if he DOES want to have a baby soon, the longer you are on birth control, the longer it takes to get pregnant.

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    Originally Posted by Generation
    I can remember I used to act like that too when my ex-girlfriend was talking about going on it, which she wanted to do for her acne. I read some scary things about it, like increased risk of breast and cervical cancer, increased risk of miscarriage and a bunch of other scary things. I was actually willing to put off sex just so she wouldn't go on it. Then again, I was very young and naive.
    My current girlfriend is on the pill, has been since she was young as well for acne and regulating period I guess. I'm fine with it, plus I don't use condoms anymore. She knows what she's doing too cause she's in healthcare and knows about all of that stuff.
    He has mentioned kids but who doesn't mention that stuff? I thought he was joking but After today I think he meant it but he knows I don't want kids anytime soon. Ya I do want kids but not now.

    You read scary stuff on it? I'm going to do my research on it. Because you know I want to be sure. I wouldn't go on something like this without educating myself. But I have no medical issues I'm healthy. Whenever I go to see my doctor I have absolutely no issues going on. He says I'm the perfect candidate for bc. I also mentioned acne but my doctor said I don't have any. Im very conscious about my appearance so another reason why I am going on it despite my healthy lifestyle is to totally rid myself of any pimples that I usually get during my time of the month.

    Wow I had no idea guys get like this.

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