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    carrie8484
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    has an ex ever come back after saying never?

    Guys Im curious
    Has your ex ever come back after saying the following

    ''I'm not in love with you anymore''
    ''I do not see us ever being together''
    ''I see you as only a friend and that will never change''
    ''We will never get back together''

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    Yes my ex has said these things to me, so of course I do not think he will come back, but a previous ex has come back after saying similar and I just want to know if others have experienced the return of the ''never'' ex??

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    No not yet,,,but my ex said the same things to me,,,,its what they feel at the moment,,it might change in a couple of weeks,months or even days

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    Anything is possible i guess, and i'm sure it has already happened to some people but id say it's very unlikely so don't expect it.
    At least your ex was upfront and honest about it. mine keeps saying things like "feelings are still there" "You mean a lot to me" etc, but acts nothing like it and just gives me false hopes.

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    I said i'd never get back with my ex and did. Matter of time, was there infidelity involved and whether both parties have moved on IMO.

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    I was the dumpee and told her these things and she was very upset about it...her wanting to remain friends, or in her life somehow.

    Personally in my case where there were lies and infidelity (found after after BU)...I don't see myself coming back in any form...I am not bitter or angry about it, but I just don't see the point in investing time in something that is not there anymore. If she reaches out fine, but I am not going to be the one to do so...maybe a happy birthday to be the bigger person...but I don't need someone like that in my life.

    I think it is different for everybody and everyone has their own way of dealing with it. But Like hausser said...it all depends on the time and the circumstances.

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    Depends on the circumstances, I suppose. People do say things that, at the time, they truly believe, and they change their minds later. My ex once told me "I'm not the one for you -- you know it, and I know it" -- and we ended up getting "back together" -- sort of -- for awhile. It didn't last, though. Feelings DO change, but...I'd be wary of someone who said he didn't love me anymore or we were only friends and that was all we'd ever be who later "changed his mind" and wanted me back. I know everyone's different, but if I love someone, I love them, and if I don't, I don't. I can't imagine a situation for me in which, if the love was REALLY gone, that it would come back and I'd try to get back with the person.

    Your best bet is to take his word for it and live your life as if he were gone and that you're not getting back with him. If he changes his mind at some point and wants to try again, you can decide then what you want to do. Just don't pin your hopes on it. Try to move forward without him even though it may be really hard.

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    this story brings me back in year 2000...when one my exes almost flew from Germany to USA to visit me ,almost bought his ticket .....he told me these words in 1997....and i refuzed to see him in the end because i was scared of being hurt......so yes it happens

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    But what if he says " I love you so much but its generally not working out" cos I don't respect his wishes of sleepovers and holidays .. but he knew what he got himself in for in this relationship. I'm Filipino. 20. Female. and my parents wishes was for none of these until I finish University which is 1 more year. And I let him know that 1 more year. Lets plan something to look forward to... I just want to respect my parents.

    We been together 2 years. He's been waiting for that. Things have already happened. He feels as though and i quote " We have nothing, no purpose, no goals, nothing to look forward to" ..

    and he just says he cant wait another year, no more.



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    Yes, this happened to me quite recently with my ex fiancee. He ended our relationship over three years ago and though we've stayed in minimal contact, he recently sent me a message that said, "I think I made an enormous mistake--I think you're the one I'm supposed to spend my life with." There was a time I would have given anything to read those words or hear him say that or anything remotely close to that, but now three years have passed, and I am so totally over that relationship. It surprises the hell out of me that I can say (or write) that---but, it is true. Let me add that it isn't "time" that helped me heal from that relationship but understanding of what the relationship and we the two in the relationship lacked at that time.

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    Yes, that happened to me almost a year after a breakup only he was not so nice about how he worded the things you outlined and there was another woman. When he contacted me, I had well and truly moved on, and after that breakup, I doubt I would ever have gone back to him anyway. I don't regret that decision either, just wish I ended the relationship a lot sooner.

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