He has his good days and his bad days. However, after doing alot of research I am realizing he is definitely portraying narcissistic/mental/physically abusive traits.
He is triggered very easily. All I have to do is randomly ask "hey, why did you tell me Im a worthless, pathetic loser, who sleeps with her stepfather (hes been saying this alot bc I told him my stepfather was borderline sexually abusive growing up) and I should kill myself (I confided in him the despair I felt during a serious bout of depression-now when hes angry he says I should go ahead and kill myself bc Im a pathetic loser-it would make my family happy)" and he goes off the deep end and wants to break up-any confrontation and implication that he should apologize for something hes done or said (HE NEVER DOES). Instead of apologizing he'd rather break up.
So my question is-whats the best way to break up with a narcissist? I broke up with him twice in the past and he came crying and apologizing to me after a day-and stalked me-crying and begging me to be back with him LOUDLY outside my apartment door.
I just want a clean break-no animosity. Yet even after a civilized break up he harrassed me for hours by phn texting me horrible insults regarding my appearance, my family-you name it. I DONT WANT TO DEAL WITH THAT AGAIN I JUST WANT HIM OUT OF MY LIFE!!!