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    Leaving a toothbrush at his place

    First, I'm curious as to your opinions about borrowing your significant other's toothbrush. I used to think it was really gross. First time my boyfriend offered to lend me his toothbrush, I said outright it was gross, but decided to anyway. Now, it doesn't bother me at all. I always borrow his toothbrush when staying at his place.

    Anyway, something makes me think I should just get a toothbrush and leave it there, but I don't know how to go about it. We've never talked about living together or even marriage, and I've always been afraid to bring it up. Leaving something as trivial as a toothbrush sounds like a big leap already. We've been together for more than two years, but I think he's just not ready for that big leap yet. I don't leave ANYTHING at his place, not even a book. The only things we have at each other's places are stuff we've given to one another, not the kind of stuff that you leave when you start treating the place like your home.

    Any thoughts?

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    Using someone else's tooth brush is GROSS. That is a way to get all kinds of diseases.

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    I don't like sharing toothbrushes either. I agree with Vic - it's kinda gross. You should get your own.

    I know that some guys make a big deal about leaving stuff over but c'mon - it's a toothbrush! It's hygienic. Just get an extra one and leave one there, I'm sure he won't care.

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    When I think about it, I find it strange as well, but not uncommon! I guess I just got used to it and forget about my initial reaction, which was... EWW GROSS. :P

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    I just think of all the things you can catch
    the common cold
    the flu
    Hep A
    mono
    etc etc etc.....

    increased chance of dental caries.......

    just YUCK. Carry one in your purse.

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    Nope, not sanitary at all... Brushing your teeth makes the gums bleed (even microsopic amounts), so you don't want that from a health perspective and possibilty transmitting diseases like colds, flus, infections and HIV.

    You can guy plastic containers to hold toothbrushes at drug stores and just put one in your purse and carry it wtih you.... simple solution, solves the problem.

    but on a side note, if you've been with someone 2 years and he won't let you leave even a toothbrush at his place, are you sure he isn't also still dating other women? After 2 years, he should at least let you have things like a toothbrush at his place unless he has something to hide or doesn't want you to think the relationship is permanent (and is leaving his options open to bring other women into his place).

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    Quote Originally Posted by lavenderdove [Register to see the link]
    but on a side note, if you've been with someone 2 years and he won't let you leave even a toothbrush at his place, are you sure he isn't also still dating other women? After 2 years, he should at least let you have things like a toothbrush at his place unless he has something to hide or doesn't want you to think the relationship is permanent (and is leaving his options open to bring other women into his place).
    It's not that he won't let me leave things there. It's that it's never been brought up.

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    Well, that's not good either if you've been together for 2 years and haven't talked about things like that... unless you don't care whether the relationship is going anywhere or not. if you don't care and are happy with the arrangement, then just carry a toothbrush in your purse. But if you are really attached to him and maybe thinking about a future, best to talk to him about that now before you get in any deeper. Just because he hangs out with your and has sex with you doesn't always mean he's taking you or the relationship seriously. I've known people who've even lived together but not had conversations about what was going on or where the relationship was going, to have the person be totally surprised when they ask about it and discover the other person isn't that serious or is just looking for someone who is 'good enough for now' but not thinking about any real future with the person.

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    Lemonie, it's such a simple thing that it's even not a problem And of course it has a very simple solution. I will advice you from my own experience. When I go to a guy's house, I always take the toothbrush with me. It's such a small thing, that it can fit even to the smallest bag. So it doesn't matter if you know that you will stay there or you will not, just take your toothbrush in your bag and carry it everywhere. And don't forget to bring it home when you finish using it. Don't leave ANY stuff at his house which would be a sign of "marking your territory" as long as he didn't asked you to move in to live.

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    deffenatly not a big deal, taking a tooth brush to some ones house doesnt mean your going to get married with them lol. just buy one and leabe it there . it should not bother him

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