When I finally met her I messed up so badly..

So I met her on Saturday, I liked her since the first moment I saw her face to face, I cant even express how smooth everything went, it was like if I already knew her. She is beautiful, fun, nice, smart. The chemistry was there. We had a good time. Then she said she had to go I begged her to stay, I had spend 2 days without no sleep and was jet lagged as hell, but I put all my energy in not falling asleep so I could spend the maximun amount of time with her that day- ironically this later back fired on me.

Eventually she left because she had to go to work, I gave her some money so she would come to visit me after work,because she doesn't have a car and taxis are quite expensive. She told me call me. I promised her I would and I did, I spent the whole day looking at my watch anticipating the time for calling her. I slept a lot during the day so I thought I had recover my energy. So I called her as promised she said she would be here in 40 minutes. 40 minutes went by, and no signs of her, 1 hour, 2 hours..and she was nowhere to be found. I began feeling tired again while waiting bored. So I fell asleep. She called and texted me. Her last text was a simple "Im here".

YES I STOOD HER UP.

When I woke up I was like OMFG, I tried calling her and I got a recording saying "number not in service", I texted her back and no answer. Im in agony. I dont know her address, I only know the name of the company where she works and I cant find an address for it. I only have her number that in a matter of hours became out of service.

Wow I cant believe I ruined everything with the woman of my dreams. My only hope is that tomorrow she will come online or contact me, which I doubt it...

Greatest fail in cyber love. Now Im all alone in a foreign country... and the person that was my reason for being in here probably hates me and will never ever talk to me in my life.

I was so hopeful, for nothing.

Should have been up front with her about being tired.

Hm...having flown to a foreign country to meet the man I've fallen in love with online, I have to say...this sounds really odd. There's no way in hell I could have fallen asleep...I hadn't even slept much in 3 days in the utter anticipation of meeting him!

The idea of getting all the way there, and then falling asleep while waiting for him is...unimaginable.

You make time and stay awake for things that are important enough to you. She undoubtedly feels this way, too, and by falling asleep and standing her up, you showed her exactly how important you are to her.

If you were up front about being tired, i would imagine she would have been annoyed yes. But i think it would have at least kept the fire going.

Hm...having flown to a foreign country to meet the man I've fallen in love with online, I have to say...this sounds really odd. There's no way in hell I could have fallen asleep...I hadn't even slept much in 3 days in the utter anticipation of meeting him!

 

The idea of getting all the way there, and then falling asleep while waiting for him is...unimaginable.

 

You make time and stay awake for things that are important enough to you. She undoubtedly feels this way, too, and by falling asleep and standing her up, you showed her exactly how important you are to her.

 

Would you believe, last night i read a story of this 20 something girl... who fell asleep during sex. And she was the one on top!

Hm...having flown to a foreign country to meet the man I've fallen in love with online, I have to say...this sounds really odd. There's no way in hell I could have fallen asleep...I hadn't even slept much in 3 days in the utter anticipation of meeting him!

 

The idea of getting all the way there, and then falling asleep while waiting for him is...unimaginable.

 

You make time and stay awake for things that are important enough to you. She undoubtedly feels this way, too, and by falling asleep and standing her up, you showed her exactly how important you are to her.

 

 

Amen to that! I swear some men..

I don't think its such a bad thing that you fell asleep, I mean jet lag can get to anyone; the problem is you didn't tell her, and now she just thinks you stood her up. Keep trying to contact her, and remember for future reference communication is the key to everything!

So all of a sudden Im the bad guy, just because Im a guy?

Image it was the other way around she calls me and I tell her Im gonna be there in 40 minutes, then she waits for me I dont call her or anything and show up hours later, but I guess since she is a woman she will still be the victim because she flew to the other side of the world and I kept her waiting for me, after she sacrificed so much for meeting me.

Fairy I think you are right I should called her and said "hey im getting tired of waiting on you and im falling asleep remember I still not adjusted to your time zone please come soon!" and she would've also said something along the lines "hey something came up im gonna be there at x time".

I think its 50/50.

Don't give up hope. If it is meant to be it will be. Who knows what might happen.

Amen to that! I swear some men..

Well I mean, she also said she'd be there in 40 minutes and it took hours. Why are we all ganging up on the OP when she seemed kind of shady as well?

OP, I'd say try to keep contacting her to explain yourself. I hope it works out.

Well I mean, she also said she'd be there in 40 minutes and it took hours. Why are we all ganging up on the OP when she seemed kind of shady as well?

 

OP, I'd say try to keep contacting her to explain yourself. I hope it works out.

I agree. If someone who was interested in meeting up with me took over 2 hours when they stated they'd be here in 40 min. I'd assume that I was the one that got stood up and carried on with my day. I think she was more shady than he was.

OP, whatever will be will be. Keep trying but I wouldn't waste all your energy on her.

Okay I take it back about some men..I didnt know she had you waiting for hours. Guess its a sore spot for those who have been stood up..Hopefully you two will get together again..

I guess Some Men do deserve another chance.

It sounds to me like you two hit it off pretty well to begin. She knows how much you have done for her. She will surely understand. And, hopefully... Also explain why she was late herself. Keep hope. It's not all over. Remember to ask her next time you see her, for her address. You two have known each ther for a while... I think it's time you two decide where things will go, and hopefully, you will never lose contact with her again. Best wishes, always...

Wait - she showed up a few hours late, and you think you blew her off?

Okay... I'm no longer sure what your feelings are for this girl, nor what her feelings are for you. I think it's time for you to make a decision... and ask her to make one also. (if you haven't done that already). If you two continue how you've been so far... then I think it's time to move on. Don't waste your time on someone who is not ready for some commitment.

You flew all the way to see her and she made you wait 2 hours? That is just rude. I don't get your logic that you stood her up at all. Who waits 2 full hours for someone beyond when they said they'd be there?

And frankly, if that is all it takes to end your relationship, it wasn't worth having in the first place.

Any update or word on how this went? I'm assuming good since he hasn't been back! =D

Hi whysoalone , actually ......... how to say it?

Next day after my first post, I saw her. Next thing she does is get angry at me because I was reading a magazine (not porn, just science).

After that she was chatting on her blackberry with someone else, and I assume he is MUCH better than me. You should have seen her face of happiness, she was even laughing. This crap lasted for 1 hour.

Thats when I said "TIME FOR YOU TO GO HOME"

She got angry and began yelling "you want me to leave? so I leave" And cursed me in her native language, she said some word I couldnt find in the dictionary, she told me I was never going to find it because is a bad word. And she was right I never found it. That was so rude from her because she speaks perfect english (even better than me) and I think if she wanted to curse me she could do it in english without a problem.

I gave her some money because I know she lives far, and she threw it on my face.

And left.

Then she deleted me from facebook.

Never heard back from her.

I love her country.

Tomorrow Im going back to my continent and this story its over.

"if that is all it takes to end your relationship, it wasn't worth having in the first place." this resumes my experience.

Good riddance to bad rubbish! Sounds like she's rude and disrespectful, you deserve so much better. Such a shame you wasted your time, emotions and energy [not to mention money] to go and meet her. Times like this I wish there was a trust fund for refunds when you get ripped off like this. Chalk it up to a bad experience and move on. All the best!

That's incredibly * * * * . Some women are not worth it. You travel all that way for nothing? LOL. I was dating a girl online once, I went over to the other side of Aus for her, needless to say I thought we had a great time. The day after I got back, she left me.. Via text mind you.

Well , on the jerk point of view: I had some mind blowing sex, I drank all day at the beach, I went clubbing..

And when an old friend found out about my motives to travel abroad she wanted to have sex with me like a ............................... Tho I refused that offer, for personal motives, but all in all, that online girl didnt even want to meet me in person to begin with, so I think I got the most I could out of that situation.

Oh yeah, she was good looking.

Would definitively continue online dating later on in the future Now I just want peace.

I also want to adjust to my current time zone because its killing me to sleep 2-4 hours...