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    whatsthedeal
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    Texted the EX.. Feel so dumb

    Well.. We broke up in February.. and im still wrestling with the fact.. Its sooo ridiculous.

    I guess we all have our ups and downs.. Sometimes i go for days striving from the fact that im able to go out with my friends, and have a good time, and text boys and dress pretty... But then out of nowhere i hit a huge low, as if it has happenned yesterday.. AGAIN.. Then i go and do something stupid like texting him..

    Last week, i texted him that it was my birthday and i was suprised that I hadnt heard of him, and if he could stop ignoring me already.. Then he replied and he said he wasnt trying to be an A55hole but that he just didnt want to fight with me. I told him that i wouldnt give us a reason to fight with him, and that being friends was better then being ennemies.. He just said that it wasnt just me.. and that.. ya okay, we could be friends or okay..

    I left it to that.. Today i texted him just a hi.. and he didnt respond, so i said Okay then! Take Care!

    I feel like such a loser right now.. omg... im so embarrassed. I feel so unimportant.

    I saw my friend have a fight wiht her bf this weekend, where she got mad and he responded by telling her the next day he hadnt eaten all day and he loved her.. Its crushed me because my babe never fought for me that way.. I know its a good thing its over if he never did. But its sucks because I love him. Im really sad and feel oh-so small. I dont know why its so important to me for things to come from him.. Its so sad.

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    Just leave him alone. Contacting him will do you no good. And trying to be friends with someone you want to get back together with is a recipe for disaster. Work on yourself and getting on with your life.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Eocsor [Register to see the link]
    Just leave him alone. Contacting him will do you no good. And trying to be friends with someone you want to get back together with is a recipe for disaster. Work on yourself and getting on with your life.
    I agree with this poster.

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    its not easy, I too have failed and either texted or called my ex. each time just ended up getting hurt again.

    Yes like you it does suck that the person you love doesnt feel the same or show any interest and to accept that is not easy, and you want them to show some interest to make you feel better and wanted. I thin kthe same as you.

    hang in there and just try keep yourself busy. you say you can goes days feeling fine, thats brilliant-just try to keep yourself busy and when the thought comes around about contacting him...DONT...just think how * * * * ty he has made you feel and think if he was worth anything then he would still be with you, or making some form of effort to reconcil things.

    keep your chin up

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    Thanks guys.. He just wrote back..``ok``....

    I know it wont work.. Its ridiculous right? I can`t wait to grow a backbone! Its ridiculous...

    Ya i know it wont set me too off track.... ITS SO STUPID though... I just still want him in my arms

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    The thing that might help is to not have or hold any expectations of him. I know you're bummed you didn't hear right back from him, but you kind of fed into what he was getting at last week and that was that he didn't want to fight with you. As frustrating and hurt as you were, your text back to him when you hadn't heard from his is putting expectations on him that every time he hears from you, you are somewhat expecting to hear from him immediately. Maybe he didn't have his phone, or was taking a shower, or at work or class. Ya know what I'm saying? You're trying too hard, and you're trying to force something (friendship) that needs to grow from a seed, and not the tree of 'we had been in a relationship' before. He obviously knows you enough to know that maybe you're not ready to handle a friendship, and/or sees you still do have feelings for him. So you need to cut yourself a break and just concentrate on moving past it all before you concentrate on a friendship. It's not easy remaining friends with an ex, it isn't. At least not until you've healed enough, and even then you think you have and realize you haven't. It's wanting them in your life because they mean something to you BUT the context of them being in your life 'now' is as a friend,and nothing more, and although there are expectations being friends are to abide by and decencies, etc. within friendships BUT, just because he is your ex doesn't put him in a position to have to be your friend and treat you better just because you two dated. Look at his other friendships and compare. And if you see he goes beyond for you than them, then you know he cares about you a lot because you two dated. If he does the same as them, then you know he sees and cares for you as a friend. But if he does less for you than them, then you know he's doing this to appease to you or so that if it means you'll back off a bit, and ease your mind, then he's doing it for those reasons alone.

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    should i say something to his OKay.. or just not write back ever again..

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    Don't write back ever again.

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    dont reply!!!! nothing to reply to!

    jonesy

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    Like why would he even reply `okay``.. * * *

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