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Thread: Well, I pushed him too far.

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    LoveHurts89
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    Well, I pushed him too far.

    Some of you may have read my recent threads. My partner broke up with me 9 weeks ago, and I've been trying to get him back. I'm not strong enough for no contact. Today, I told him he needs to admit he still wants us, he's just scared of commitment but doesn't need to be etc. He text saying not to text again as he can't listen to it, if I turn up at his work he'll block and delete my number. Said we're selling the bed when he's back off holiday, and I need to get over it. He said if I send one more text today he'll be ruthless and harsh but doesn't want to be.

    So, to sum it up, me wanting him so badly has pushed him away completely.


    F**k my life.

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    The worst feeling in the world is when you want someone who doesn't want you, I'm going through it right now. I can promise you, it's gonna be ok. Be better to yourself than you're being, delete his #, delete all texts and emails, get out of the house, and please go find something else to do that you enjoy. HE IS NOT WORTH IT.

    When my wife found out I was moving back to the area, she was so shocked because she thought she had destroyed me to a point I couldn't live in the same state as her. I told her "What, am I supposed to give up on the business I spent the last 3 years building because YOU don't love me anymore? Please, you are simply not that important." It hit her like a freight train that she no longer "owned" me.

    He doesn't own you, you are free, you have a better life ahead, I promise.

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    Thank you so much for your inspiring words. I was at a family gathering when I received his text and got really upset. My aunt said it's upsetting her seeing me chase him and keep setting myself up for falls. So from this moment, I'm going to be strong. I may feel like I'm worthless, I may feel like I've list everything, but why should I feel like that over one guy? There are 7 billion people in this world, why should I let just one of them make me feel that I'm not worthy enough for this world.

    This website really helps, having somewhere to vent, and hearing such fantastic support and advice.

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    oh god thats horrible. You MUST go NC. The best thing that could happen from it is he could have space and realize he wants to be with you. That is NOT going to happen if u keep contatcing him.
    And even if it turns out he doesnt want to be with you NC or not, at least you kept your pride and it may give YOU the time and space to realize hes not for you after all.
    I know how much it hurts. My own heartbreak is very raw right now but when I dont call him it gives me a feeling of control and it feels good....

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    Quote Originally Posted by LoveHurts89 [Register to see the link]
    Thank you so much for your inspiring words. I was at a family gathering when I received his text and got really upset. My aunt said it's upsetting her seeing me chase him and keep setting myself up for falls. So from this moment, I'm going to be strong. I may feel like I'm worthless, I may feel like I've list everything, but why should I feel like that over one guy? There are 7 billion people in this world, why should I let just one of them make me feel that I'm not worthy enough for this world.

    This website really helps, having somewhere to vent, and hearing such fantastic support and advice.
    Dignity, get it back. And hey, you're single again, oh behave. I'll be legally single pretty soon, THANK MERCIFUL GOD. I didn't realize it at the time, but my wife did me a favor, I'M FREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE.

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    NC is definitely the way to go. He goes away on Friday. He works such long hours right now that he barely gets time to think about things. But he'll be forced to on holiday as he won't have things to keep him busy.

    Lol gettinmeback - I can't wait until I feel like that

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    Quote Originally Posted by LoveHurts89 [Register to see the link]
    NC is definitely the way to go. He goes away on Friday. He works such long hours right now that he barely gets time to think about things. But he'll be forced to on holiday as he won't have things to keep him busy.

    Lol gettinmeback - I can't wait until I feel like that


    I've heard sex with a smart a** American is great revenge.........................just telling you what I heard

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    Lol lol lol that made me laugh! You know, I think I heard that too.

    I love America, I went to New York and it was amazing x

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    Quote Originally Posted by LoveHurts89 [Register to see the link]
    Lol lol lol that made me laugh! You know, I think I heard that too.

    I love America, I went to New York and it was amazing x
    I've never been to Europe, I'm dying to make a trip one day though. Now that I'm gonna be single, I don't have to be anywhere at any certain time anymore, maybe it's time for me to make the trip.

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    Quote Originally Posted by gettinmeback56 [Register to see the link]
    I've heard sex with a smart a** American is great revenge.........................just telling you what I heard
    Hah! This is fabulous. If you want to drive it over the top, make sure he's from Jersey.

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