ill try to make this short. my ex and i dated for about a year and a half. he broke up with me at the beginning of his senior year in college, not because he lost feelings but because he didnt know where he was going with life after college-pretty normal and he didt want to lead me on all year. he was very honest, he just cant settle into a commitment right now, which i understand. i didnt want the breakup, and ive been trying really hard all year to heal, and he has too. right now were "best friends", but bottom line it still hurts me. im separated myself at times to go on with life, which i have, but feelings still remain. im pretty sure he still has feelings, and is not shuting the door to possibilities, if the time is right. but im not depending on that. ive met other guys, no interest in them. im still open-minded to meeting new people, but its just a negatory right now, which im fine with being single.
im doing the best to move forward and taking care of myself, and i honestly do just want to be there for him, and so does he. my lfe is pretty much great, but my feelings havent changed...basically, i could handle him moving on, but ill be honest, yeah id be jealous if he dated someone soonish.
i dont really care for the "dont ever talk to him again" attitude and hate...i dont want that. bottom line, whether were together or not we still wish the best for one another.
has anyone gone through a similar confusing situation?
hes graduating and moving home in a month, i dont know how to handle the goodbye..to do it? not do it? any suggestions? i dont want to be dramatic about it. to sum up, im bummed and dont know how to do the "goodbye for now" .
would it be out of line to ask him if he just loves me as a friend? not as a lover anymore?
if its meant to be, itll be.....anyone had success on getting someone back eventually without being controlling?