Ask For Advice
Results 1 to 7 of 7

Thread: Signs a guy wants more than fwb?

  1. #1
    lindyl
    Member
    Join Date
    Jul 2010
    Posts
    50

    Signs a guy wants more than fwb?

    What are some signs that a guy who is a fwb might want to turn what he has with you into a relationship?

  2. #2
    abitbroken
    Platinum Member
    Join Date
    Nov 2008
    Posts
    18,345
    Gender
    Female
    Thanked
    3309
    If you are looking for "signs" of him wanting you more, get out of the FWB arrangement because you are looking for/wanting more. Either have a conversation and be honest with him that you have feelings and live with the consequences of 1) he doesn't want the same thing and being willing to leave if he doesn't 2) him wanting a relationship with you 3) him not wanting one but using the idea that you like him to his advantage. FWB doesn't work if one person has feelings

  3. #3
    equinox
    Silver Member equinox's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2005
    Age
    30
    Posts
    440
    Gender
    Male
    Thanked
    1
    Friends with benefits is an "arrangement" I usually advice people against engaging in. It may seem harmless fun but sex is still sex and it carries all the risks as it would within a relationship with the added problem that one's "pillow friend" might be warming the sheets of more than one free spirit which brings STDs into the equation.

    Generally, however, if two people are sexually active together, they will form some manner of a bond. If the guy in question asks for a date with no sexual motive, it's a sign he could be taking a shining to you, if indeed you are in this situation.

  4. #4
    tinyguy

    Join Date
    Apr 2011
    Posts
    3
    1)He cares about your life in general. It's common for anyone to ask normal, daily life stuff, but if you ever get the feeling that he is asking a lot about you or even more so cares about the information you tell him, that is a sign.

    2)He does not like it when you talk about other guys, dating or such.

    3)He tries to encourage you not to date, see other guys or such.....''you should really stay home and paint this weekend''.

    4)does he want to do relationshipy things, like going out on a date to dinner and a movie. While even FWB do need to eat, and going to eat is normal, watch for going to more 'sit down' places to eat.

    5)Does he show a lot of respect for you..opening doors, holding things. While he might be just a nice good guy...it could be more.

  5. #5
    Day_Walker
    Platinum Member Day_Walker's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2004
    Location
    California
    Age
    35
    Posts
    7,329
    Gender
    Male
    Thanked
    2
    when he tells you he wants more than being friends with benefits

  6. #6
    lindyl
    Member
    Join Date
    Jul 2010
    Posts
    50
    These are some of the things he now does that he never used to,

    Instead of calling/texting late at night asking what I'm up to he calls other times just to say hello, see how I am etc
    We talk more, he listens to my grumbles and tells me more about what he's been doing
    He offered to take me shopping when my car was broke, he did this in person, then sent text a couple of days later reminding me if I needed a lift just to ask
    He remembers stuff I've told him weeks before
    He's quite happy to sit for hours watching tv/dvd's with me, still usually followed by sex
    He asked in a roundabout kind of way if I ever had any other male 'visitors' when I said I did not his reply was, 'that's a bit of a relief to hear that'?
    I know he's not seeing anyone else, wasn't sure at first if I'm honest!

    So its really a lot of little things he's now saying/doing that have me wondering, while I'm not against the idea its not something I'd considered before and I really just wanted some feedback before I say anything to him.

  7. #7
    abitbroken
    Platinum Member
    Join Date
    Nov 2008
    Posts
    18,345
    Gender
    Female
    Thanked
    3309
    I would just seriously talk to this guy about it so there are no mixed signals.

    BTW, if you are sitting and holding each other while watching movies and are sharing your feelings with him, you are doing more than FWB - you said you have not considered "more" but you are already giving him more. So get straight with yourself on what you want and if you don't want "more" - stop "hanging out", stop confiding in him, etc., and keep it to sexual encounters only. If you don't want more, you will have to be willing to break if off if he doesn't agree to keep it just sex. if you want more, then be honest and go for it.

  8.  

Top Threads
Trying to lose virginity but the pain is unbearable !!
Hi everyone! I have decided and to lose my virginity. My boyfriend and I have been trying to have sex two times now, but as soon as he tries to
Touching me while I sleep
Ok so I'll keep this simple, my boyfriend touches me while I "sleep". I use quotation marks because I sleep really lightly and anyone who touches me
I am having some embarrassing issues related to sex, i need some advice please!
So im a virgin. I am 19 but staying a virgin has been MY personal choice. It may sound lame to some but i have been perfectly content with my
Am I in the wrong here?
In bed this morning my boyfriend and I were sleepily fooling around and after obvious hints from me he initiated foreplay. I was enjoying it and
My girlfriend wants to give a BJ, but I don't want to disappoint
I'm 18 and a virgin. My girlfriend and I are planning to keep our Virginity until we are 21. But she still wants to have other kinds of sex. She
Featured Threads
I didnt know this was cheating until i saw how much it hurt him
So my boyfriend and I have been together 8 months. It's been pretty close to perfect over all until last weekend. We trusted each other before this
Interview Vibes
Hello, eNA! I have posted a few times about my career search - thank you all for the help! I've been having a lot more luck lately and have four
Ex from seven years ago married
My ex from seven years got married in November 2016 he began dating this girl eight months after dumping me.hiw have I found this out? By the
❌Did i just get stood up????❌
A few weeks ago this guy and i started texting. It was a pretty instant interest right from the start, on both ends. He kept telling me how
HELP My boyfriend blocked me after an argument
Almost 3 weeks ago me and my (EX) boyfriend that ive been seeing for about a year had a huge explosive and petty fight over him being selfish/ self
My wife has zero trust in me
So we have been married for about 8 months now, everything was fine prior to marriage. From the day we got married to today, it has been a living
21, in a relationship and sexually frustrated
I'm 21 (female) and I'm dating a 28 year old. Ive had my round of men before him so I know exactly what I like during sex and he's PERFECT. But what
Ask For Advice

Tags for this Thread

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •