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    Last night I was thinking about some very valuable things I have done in my life.

    1. I went to and finished university

    2. I have had my own business

    3. I have worked for the cause of disadvantaged and poor children here and abroad, by fostering,mentoring and volunteering my time and money and resources

    4. I have worked caring for the elderly

    5. I have campaigned for human rights around the world.

    6. I have been the best mother I can be.

    7. I have served my country.

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    Last night at church they were asking for people to sing at the 5 pm Mass on Sunday which is our Mass. Gah, I love to sing and I am not too bad,and I really want to do it but I am too afraid to get up there.

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    Just do it!

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    I might, but I hate being looked at. It makes me cringe.


    I was talking last night to my husband's aunt about my son's past bullying issue and she had some suggestions for me. She said I would take it to the College of Teachers if I do not get satisfaction and take it to the Bishop because Catholic schools have the right to expel disruptive students and send them to the public system. And of course she agreed with my stance of calling the police. She said someone in her area had just successfully sued the board for allowing bullying and she would set me up with that person if my son continues to have problems.

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    Originally Posted by Victoria66
    I have often wondered why people think having children is selfish. To me it is entirely about love. You love someone enough to give them a child. You love the world enough to share your genetics and love with it. You love your child enough to give them life. Love is the only thing in my mind. I do not get it. How is that selfish?
    I was once told that i should never have children because I was too selfish. I was very self-absorbed, but not for the reasons that they thought. I couldn't see outside of myself for a long while (you know my story, and I'm sure understand why).

    I don't see how having a child is selfish. You sacrifice a lot to make a life for a child, and I too do it out of love. My baby girl means the world to me, and I would give my life for her. Not exactly selfish. Sure, she's biological rather than adopted, but sue me. I don't care what people think. I love her more than life.

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    Originally Posted by Sanesoul
    My baby girl means the world to me, and I would give my life for her. Not exactly selfish.
    Would you give her life to save the lives of two other children you've never met? Of course not. Selfishness means looking out for what's yours, including your own children. Children are just an extension of yourself. I would give my life for my daughter's in an instant, because if anything happened to her, she'd take me with her anyway.

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    Her life is not mine to give, nor would I ever give it. You are right about that. I just don't see it as selfishness. Maybe my thoughts on that word are different than some people, but it has very negative connotations to me, and I will never see raising my child in a negative way.

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    Originally Posted by Sanesoul
    I was once told that i should never have children because I was too selfish. I was very self-absorbed, but not for the reasons that they thought. I couldn't see outside of myself for a long while (you know my story, and I'm sure understand why).

    I don't see how having a child is selfish. You sacrifice a lot to make a life for a child, and I too do it out of love. My baby girl means the world to me, and I would give my life for her. Not exactly selfish. Sure, she's biological rather than adopted, but sue me. I don't care what people think. I love her more than life.
    Me too. I love my son SO much, and I have almost given my life away literally twice so he could have his. I am not sure you were selfish exactly, but more had a lot to work out. I do not see that as selfish at all. As you know too I had a lot to work out and in some sense still do. But that is not selfish, it is making yourself a better person.

    Yeah, that is what I think too, sue me, so I had my own kid. I think people just think that having a child,any child is the goal. Maybe for some it is. For me it is part of a relationship and it is part of a process. It is carrying on my own genetics and that of my family, it is carrying on the species.

    I think what REALLY irks me, is it is the same people who tell to adopt if you want kids are the same people who tell you to take your face out of their reproductive life, but they are more than happy what to tell you to do with yours.

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    Originally Posted by under_my_amberella
    Would you give her life to save the lives of two other children you've never met? Of course not. Selfishness means looking out for what's yours, including your own children. Children are just an extension of yourself. I would give my life for my daughter's in an instant, because if anything happened to her, she'd take me with her anyway.
    That is how I feel. If my son died, my life is over. Just put me in his casket I am done.

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    Originally Posted by Victoria66
    Just put me in his casket I am done.
    Yes, this.

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