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    Moved On, They Come Back?

    Okay, so I don't really have personal experience relating to this but I've heard this has happened many times before. Does an ex come back to you after you've completely moved on? I mean, it'd be great if she came back at this point because I've done so much self-improvment but I was wondering, do they come back after you've fully healed?

    Stories, experiences, any inside info?

    Any comments appreciated as usual, thank you.

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    I can give you my experience.

    1st ex: Over a year relationship, he ended it with me, we got back together on his terms, I ended it finally cos he was emotionally abusive. He got angry, asked for me back instantly. I declined. And I havent heard from him since then...almost three years.

    2nd ex: Over a year relationship. compulsive liar/dissapeared on me several times and I guess it was a mutual break up in the end. NEVER heard from him again.

    3rd ex: Just under a year. Ended on bad terms. he tried to get me back straight after but I was having none of it. havent heard since initial trying to get back together.

    So out of my long term relationships the guys seem to try and get me back straight away, and if they dont suceed, they disappear off the radar/give up.

    HOWEVEr out of short term relationships I've had, one was literally like a month, the other a week, both I ended as they were rebounds. They both literally stalk me now, constantly texting or trying to chat on facebook.

    Weird.

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    1st ex tried for years broke up with me, as soon as I had a new man he was wanting me back

    2nd together 9 months he has been trying 2 1/2 years to get me back he broke Up with me also

    3rd we are on a "break" so I'll let you know what happens. Initiated by him

    One short term relationship he dumped Me, I tried for a few days and we haven't talked since

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    I dated a girl for 3 years.. she shattered my heart to pieces. but i moved on. took about a year.. She just text me last week! we broke 4 years ago, so the answer to your question is maybe. sometimes they contact you to see how you are doing and sometimes to reconcile. she has not mentioned reconciliation but kind of funny to hear from her.

    generally i think girls move on for good, my opinion.

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    Girls do tend to move on for good don't they!

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    I once dumped a girl and she did everything wrong she could ever do and pushed me in the arms of someone else. later on we became friends and everything was good. 6 years later I visited her for a week. she already had a kid and broke up with her last boyfriend. we had some awesome days and lots of sex. it was like being in a timemachine. all the great memories came back though she totally moved on and changed a lot. yep, I started having big feelings for her again. just my head didnīt wanna handle the situation with the kid and the father being around all the time..

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    ex fiance dated for 3 years - got in arelationship 2 weeks after me never contacted

    next girl i dated for like 4 months she dumped me, 5 months later msg on facebook basically how shes been thinking of me blah blah, deleted dint reply

    last girl i dated, we broke up a year ago, yet still "talk on and off" but i doubt we will get back together.


    to me it all depends on how you treated them and how the relationships ended.

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    There is no one-size-fits-all answer to this. Sometimes they do, sometimes they don't.

    For me, personally, yes...about the time that I finally decided to go NC in order for me to heal and move on, he came back. We've been reconciled for 12 days now, after being apart for 6.5 months.

    I think honestly, it's probably just a coincidence when it does happen, because the vast majority of breakups never result in reconciliation.

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    It all depends on the situation.. It really does, and it's hard to say! Because I'm in the same boat as everyone.. HOpe hope hope..

    But, i guess i NEED to move on for my own sake, the ex has, why should i swallow in remorse because of the ex and her new bf! Liars and cheaters!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Oneironaut [Register to see the link]
    There is no one-size-fits-all answer to this. Sometimes they do, sometimes they don't.

    For me, personally, yes...about the time that I finally decided to go NC in order for me to heal and move on, he came back. We've been reconciled for 12 days now, after being apart for 6.5 months.

    I think honestly, it's probably just a coincidence when it does happen, because the vast majority of breakups never result in reconciliation.
    Did you not talk to him for 6.5 straight months?

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