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    Sending a sympathy card for the anniversary of a death?

    It's coming up on a 2 year anniversary of a friend's father's death... we are not really on speaking terms at this time, but I know it is a tough time of year for him... would it be inappropriate to send a note or sympathy card of some sorts letting him know something like "I know this is a tough time of year for you.. i'm here is you need to talk" or something of the sort?


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    You say you're not on speaking terms, is there any bad blood between you two? Like maybe, something he might not be past? If so, I'm not certain that would be a good idea right now, given that he's got a lot on his plate at the moment. Of course, that is ultimately up to you. I do think it's a very kind and thoughtful gesture that someone would appreciate deeply.

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    I think it is a nice gesture... are you wanting to get back on speaking terms again? Or does this have nothing to do with it

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    Quote Originally Posted by shikashika [Register to see the link]
    I think it is a nice gesture... are you wanting to get back on speaking terms again? Or does this have nothing to do with it
    It's more for the gesture, but partially wanting to open the door to speaking again... We were very close, and I know he doesn't feel he can talk to anyone about this, so I just want to let him know he can.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kuteknish [Register to see the link]
    It's more for the gesture, but partially wanting to open the door to speaking again... We were very close, and I know he doesn't feel he can talk to anyone about this, so I just want to let him know he can.
    Then I think you should do it!

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    I think it's a nice gesture, but if your intentions are to try to establish contact again, it would seem to be insincere, and he's likely to see right through it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by HeartGoesOn [Register to see the link]
    I think it's a nice gesture, but if your intentions are to try to establish contact again, it would seem to be insincere, and he's likely to see right through it.
    yea.. that's what i'm afraid of... i'll have to think it through.

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    When exactly is the anniversary? If there are still a couple weeks to go, do you think you could try to establish contact again now? And if it goes well, then send a note later about his dad. I would try to keep those points of contact separate.

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    the anniversary is at the beginning of april.. I suppose I can do that.. I just thought it would be good time together...

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    I think it is a nice gesture too.

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