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    Legal Steps for Bullying?

    I moved in July and my son is at a new school this year. He has been the victim of some pretty intense bullying, including being punched in the face, smashed in the face with an ice ball and kicked while he was down. The latest incident happened last Friday, he was swarmed by 4 other boys and pushed and shoved and called nasty names. I have been to the school several times and had to take my son to emergency after one incident. The school has really been trying to protect him but it always seems to no avail. Has anyone taken legal steps against the parents of children who bully other children?

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    omg. i am so sorry. how has the school responded? have they punished the students involved?

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    They did punish them ,yes. However 2 weeks later they are at it again. As it stands now my son's EA is his "body guard" in the school yard because they won't leave him alone and punishment seems to have no affect on them. I am getting pretty angry. It is pretty bad that a child needs to have a body guard just to play outside. I can understand why he is terrified too, as 2 of the boys are bigger than my son's father.

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    I have no answer to your question, Victoria, but I am really sorry. In the workplace, there are such strict standards for harassment and inappropriate behavior. Adults feel (quite correctly) that they have the right to a safe and respectful workplace. And even as adults, if we're feeling bullied or harassed, it can lead to depression and serious medical consequences. But somehow, a lot of people figure that bullying is just a normal part of growing up.

    Your poor son. I wish I could throw snowballs at those nasty boys.

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    Originally Posted by under_my_amberella
    I have no answer to your question, Victoria, but I am really sorry. In the workplace, there are such strict standards for harassment and inappropriate behavior. Adults feel (quite correctly) that they have the right to a safe and respectful workplace. And even as adults, if we're feeling bullied or harassed, it can lead to depression and serious medical consequences. But somehow, a lot of people figure that bullying is just a normal part of growing up.

    Your poor son. I wish I could throw snowballs at those nasty boys.
    I am just beside myself about it. I have been to the school 4 times now. This time my husband came too and he is breathing fire and he is about ready to put some boot to backside.

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    I don't understand this - you should first tell the school that since they are responsible for your son's safety on school grounds and since 1) they have FAILED to send him home back unharmed and 2) the punishment 'solution' has not worked you are preparing to take legal action if they do not immediately expel all involved students. Do they have a parent association or something so you can possibly get the support of other parents?

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    Have you involved the police? At least around here they have zero tolerance, either the child will be expelled or have the police involved immediately.

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    It is not easy to get students expelled here unfortunately. There is a steps process before you come to expulsion and it takes a while and it seldom ever happens because every person has a right to an education.

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    How old are these kids if you don't mind me asking?

    I'm so sorry this is happening.. it's really, really sad when things have to get taken that far.

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    I went to a really rough school and my parents took me out of it and into parochial school for a year or two. I wasn't bullied in the same way your son was - it never got that bad, but there were problems with knives - not to me but in my class that made it a difficult learning environment. The small class sizes really helped me and more so that the adults there had zero tolerance. Before, I even contemplated dropping out and I was an A student. I think that there are a few things you should do if you can't pull him out - Teach him survival mechanisms and don't rely on just your own opinions. If fights tend to happen on the play ground - is he a loner? Or can he find safety in numbers with friends? Kids can't swarm and ambush a kid if he is in a group. Also, some schools have projects like a school paper, etc, that meet during recess or lunch and that would prevent him being in an unsupervised situation. This way, if he goes to another school or even if he graduates and gets a job, he will be able to avoid bullying wherever he goes. He can't always just remove other person. Also, if you know of other concerned parents, maybe you can approach the school with the proposal of volunteer recess monitors or hall monitors. Sometimes there just isn't the staff to student ratio to get a handle on anything.

    btw, punishing a kid really doesn't work well unless a concerned parent is at home, because if the parents think that the kid is just singling their kid out or "kids will be kids," the kid will continue to hurt others.

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