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    Maybe it is conflicting because it is hard to give the essence of someone in a few words.

    I did say in my first post that the latest incident was with 4 other boys though.

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    Originally Posted by Victoria66
    Maybe it is conflicting because it is hard to give the essence of someone in a few words.

    I did say in my first post that the latest incident was with 4 other boys though.
    By contradicting i was meaning how the situation seemed to change a little in later posts, i only stated the idea of going to a martial arts class because i saw this problem as something that will reoccur. If you are confident this is an isloated incident thats fine. As i said, im just want to help, as it stands it seems moving school would be the best option if it were me.

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    Yeah, ongoing bullying is a definite problem.

    I was literally emotionally tortured by other girls from the age of 6+. There was some sexual harassment going on too (again, girls only). I suffered through that crap for years. I eventually went to a school that just did NOT have bullying at all. I wish I went sooner because that recurrent bullying has affected my current relationships with women. It's probably why my best friend is male, my "circle of trust" in my life is all men, and I've kept many females at an arm's length because I'm scared. Not a good situation at all.

    I'd hate for anyone to end up like me in that regard.

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    Originally Posted by Fudgie
    Yeah, ongoing bullying is a definite problem.

    I was literally emotionally tortured by other girls from the age of 6+. There was some sexual harassment going on too (again, girls only). I suffered through that crap for years. I eventually went to a school that just did NOT have bullying at all. I wish I went sooner because that recurrent bullying has affected my current relationships with women. It's probably why my best friend is male, my "circle of trust" in my life is all men, and I've kept many females at an arm's length because I'm scared. Not a good situation at all.

    I'd hate for anyone to end up like me in that regard.
    I always had a problem making friends with the opposite sex, when i get friendly with a girl they always seem to think im hitting on them or i get the feeling they are hitting on me, orkward. You do well to make friends with guys and not have the whole 'tension' thing happen.

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    Originally Posted by Fudgie
    Yeah, ongoing bullying is a definite problem.

    I was literally emotionally tortured by other girls from the age of 6+. There was some sexual harassment going on too (again, girls only). I suffered through that crap for years. I eventually went to a school that just did NOT have bullying at all. I wish I went sooner because that recurrent bullying has affected my current relationships with women. It's probably why my best friend is male, my "circle of trust" in my life is all men, and I've kept many females at an arm's length because I'm scared. Not a good situation at all.

    I'd hate for anyone to end up like me in that regard.
    Yeah, I endured constant bullying as a child so it really hurts me to see it happen to my son. He has had some, but not really a lot until he came to this new area. I think some of it has to do with the fact he is new to area and because he is in grade 8 people have already formed friendship groups based on the kids they have known for years. Two, that he is a little different from the other kids as he has High Functioning Autism. So he acts a little different, has different interests, is not at the age level of the kids he is with is some regards. And three, he is pretty small. Kids notice anything different right away and some kids are ok with that and just leave people be, others have no social skills or were never taught any and have to pick on people. It is sad.

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    Most of my friends are guys. I've never had any problems whatsoever. For the most part, I'm treated just like everyone else (another guy for example). They can swear, burp, fart, tell off-colour jokes in front of me and I don't care. No tension at all. I feel very comfortable with them. on the other hand, I don't have many IRL female friends at all.

    The bad side is that right now, my best friend of 5-6 years (male, he's 1 year younger than me) has fallen MADLY crazy in love with me a month or so ago. It's not awkward though and we will still hang and talk like friends but now there are certain things we don't talk about like we used to (we used to talk a lot about sex in general) because I can tell he gets aroused when he talks to me about those things.

    I say give it a few months and he'll move on to someone else but we'll go back to normal.

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    Yeah my sister has autism. Luckily, she has aides and has been around in the area enough so people know her. She's REALLY sweet and people aren't really friends with her but stick up for her if people give her crap. Plus, my parents have it so they will pretty much have an official hanged if they know that bullying happens and no one stops it or punishes the bully.

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    Originally Posted by Fudgie
    Yeah my sister has autism. Luckily, she has aides and has been around in the area enough so people know her. She's REALLY sweet and people aren't really friends with her but stick up for her if people give her crap. Plus, my parents have it so they will pretty much have an official hanged if they know that bullying happens and no one stops it or punishes the bully.
    I am happy there are kids that stand up for him. My son has an EA too. In his other school he was there from 3 years old till last year. He had some initial troubles with being bullied, but the principal laid into the entire school and spelled it out to them very effectively that NO bullying would be tolerated. He was a very commanding man and people flinched with one look from him. In this school both the principal and vice principal are female and I think that might be part of the reason they are not being taken seriously by the students themselves that bully and the parents of these children. Not that it is right because they should respect authority from whom ever it comes from, but that is my guess for part of this problem.

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    When a guy a guy and a girl talk about sex its hard for it not to become orkward, if i were you dont bring that subject up with your friend again unless you want to hurt him. Sorry, going of subject here.

    back on topic.

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    I'm sorry but I'm disappointed by many kids these days. They just don't seem to respect authority. It seems like you have to pretty much threaten to hurt them or send them away to Juvie hall to get them to do ANYTHING. It's horrible. I'm glad the principal exercised his power and made them listen to him and knock it off.

    I have no issues with prinicipals being scary and commanding if it means that kids will be scared of them and not bully others and cause irreversable harm. Sad that it has to come to using scare tactics to make kids do the right thing, but hey, what else can you do?

    Again, I'm sorry you and your son have to go through this.

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