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Thread: Went to the casino and lost alot! Now I feel worse and want to call her!!

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    Went to the casino and lost alot! Now I feel worse and want to call her!!

    I was doing OK and trying to make changes in my life which I am. Joined a couple of bible groups, went bowling and hanging out with friends. But I did not want to go home last night and be all alone in my bed after a date that was not so great.

    So I decided to go to that casino and play cards. I stayed up all night gambling and was ahead until one really big hand and lost a lot of money (2K) It was all in one hand that I played wrong. Now I have not slept, I can not sleep and feel horrible. I want to call my ex so bad to comfort me. I feel so weak now. I am NC but this is killing me!

    I really hate myself for playing that hand so bad, I should have won it but I messed up. I guess I was just too tired to think straight. I just want to find some sleeping pills and pass out for days. I don't know what to do with these feelings. I am so anxious and upset.

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    You should feel bad for gambling like that instead of anything else!

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    Yeah and then she's gonna call you a loser for losing that money.

    Bad idea.

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    Originally Posted by NoFXN
    You should feel bad for gambling like that instead of anything else!
    I don't understand your point of "instead of anything else" I already feel bad about it and feel foolish. I think i did it to just escape all the pain and have a distraction. I am really hurting right now so I guess you throwing more guilt on me just make me feel worse. Thanks

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    Originally Posted by rbsx
    Yeah and then she's gonna call you a loser for losing that money.

    Bad idea.
    I know it's a bad idea and I feel like a loser right now. I just came here hoping someone would understand. I guess I need a different forum for that. I hoped someone would understand. There is no one else I can tell and it is killing me to keep it inside.

    Am I the only one that has done destructive things to avoid the pain of a breakup?

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    I think that in some way you expecting to move on quicker than the time it will actually take to move on. Don't fight these feelings - work through them. Cry it out. Punch a pillow. Write a letter to get your feelings out. But do not contact her. You'll feel better tomorrow.

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    Originally Posted by Live-N-Learn
    I know it's a bad idea and I feel like a loser right now. I just came here hoping someone would understand. I guess I need a different forum for that. I hoped someone would understand. There is no one else I can tell and it is killing me to keep it inside.
    No, we understand, I used to have a gambling problem and I used to look to other people to make myself better.

    At the end of the day you have to cut out the things that make you look to others for support.

    We're not going to tell you though that it's all okay when it isn't.

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    Do not use gambling, drinking, or any other false diversion to hide your pain. Instead, deal with it no matter how painful it is, you will feel much better. I'm not going to lecture you, you feel bad enough. What I will say is that you learned a very valuable lesson and it only cost you 2k. Not that bad a deal in the long run. Don't run or hide from problems or pain, that NEVER works.

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    Originally Posted by dramallama
    I think that in some way you expecting to move on quicker than the time it will actually take to move on. Don't fight these feelings - work through them. Cry it out. Punch a pillow. Write a letter to get your feelings out. But do not contact her. You'll feel better tomorrow.
    Drama, I am really hurting and it sucks. I think going on a date and feeling so not right about it and not feeling like I could connect at all with the girl really through me for a loop. I miss her so much even though I know we will never be together again and that I may not get over her for a long time. I am really said right now.

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    I know it hurts. It's natural to hurt when you miss someone. But in one year's time would you rather feel better, or be stuck on the sidelines with her, scrambling for scraps? Either you deal with this pain now, or you delay it for later. It's better to face those emotions now, since you've come this far aleady.

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