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    why does it take him so long to cum?

    This guy im seeing lives about an hour from me so we don't have much time together as wed like. We just recently started having sex and I noticed that it takes him a long time to cum, like an hour. Not that I don't enjoy the hour its great but its just got me thinking. I heard that when men haven't had sex in a long time they usually cum a lot quicker. But we haven't had sex before and he hasn't had sex in like 6 months. Why does he last so long?? Like at first wouldn't he cum right away since its been so long?

    Maybe im being paranoid but I just keep thinking that maybe he has been sleeping with other women?? I asked him why it takes him a long time to cum if he hasn't had sex in so long and he said because he still jerks off but still I know its not the same feeling. Real sex us more intense.


    What do you think? Am I over reacting?

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    Some guys have trouble cumming. It's not a slight on you, it just means he has performance anxiety.

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    Antidepressants?

    Is it possible he is on medication? How old is he?

    I have run into this, and it was because of medication/alcohol. It seems to be pretty common problem. I have friends who have found this also.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sweetkisses22 [Register to see the link]
    he hasn't had sex in like 6 months
    Doesn't mean he hasn't had it with himself

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    I recently had this situation.
    Only the guy doesn't cum.
    I thought it was weird so I just flat out asked "Do you not cum or what?"
    I've never experienced this so I was super curious and all he said (rather calmly) was: "Meh. I just don't always cum."
    At first I was offended and whatever, but not I don't care, ha ha.
    If he doesn't come or takes too long that's not my problem, .
    I enjoy myself and do my best for him.
    If he's not satisfied iwth my efforts it'll end.

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    Takes me around an hour regardless of how often I have it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by gymratski [Register to see the link]
    I recently had this situation.
    Only the guy doesn't cum.
    I thought it was weird so I just flat out asked "Do you not cum or what?"
    I've never experienced this so I was super curious and all he said (rather calmly) was: "Meh. I just don't always cum."
    At first I was offended and whatever, but not I don't care, ha ha.
    If he doesn't come or takes too long that's not my problem, .I enjoy myself and do my best for him.
    If he's not satisfied iwth my efforts it'll end.
    Holy Double-Standard, Batman!

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    i always thought it was a problem if the guy came to fast, that would upset me...two thrusts and he's done.
    i am glad that my boyfriend can last long, we make love for a few hours! and i love it, he's the only one i have been with so i don't know what "normal"
    but we can try lots of positions during one session and i get to come multiple times,so to me that is a great thing, then usually when we are done i finish him off by hand, which he loves and so do i, and after he comes he loves it when i keep stroking him, allthough with a lighter touch obviously....
    would this mean that he is used to masturbating and therefore can't come inside me? maybe, but maybe he just loves it this way and so do i, it's intimate
    i think when we start comparing notes, people get insecure about how it should be but who decides what is normal and what not? as long as you both enjoy yourself and the time together, who cares what is supposed to or not supposed to be...

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    Some guys can control when they cum. Its all about knowing your body and knowing how to pace yourself.

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    I HATE guys who take forever. It only takes me 5 - 10 minutes to come a couple of times and then I am done. Marathons hold no interest for me and can make me very sore. Give me your Minutemen, kinda, and I am happy as a clam!

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