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    why do they keep texting me when I ignore it?

    Why do some men keep texting me when I ignore all their texts? I KNOW you will all say that I need to send him a rejection text, but I hate doing this because then that starts a whole argument. so I'd rather just ignore texts and messages from guys I am not interested in thinking they will take the hint. My question is why do they persistently text me over a long period when every time I ignore their messages?

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    This one guy I talked to on a dating site. I gave him my number and we talked on the phone. He wanted me to meet him at his house right away. I said no. I asked if we could meet in a public place and he said no because it's cold outside (!?). I thought this guy was a creep for suggesting that. He said he would call me again. He did the next day. I ignored it. Then he called again. Then over the NEXT FEW WEEKS he kept sending me text messages and calling me here and there. I ignored every single call and text. WHY doesn't he get the hint?

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    An old friend from college. We hooked up once but he really wasn't my type. I really couldn't stand him because he's such a negative person and complains all the time. So I wouldn't answer calls or texts. IT HAS BEEN 2 YEARS and he STILL texts and calls me!!!! And I have not answered a single call or text in 2 years so WHY is he still calling or texting?

    I myself would only call someone once or twice and if they don't answer then I give up, so why do they keep persisting???

    Now I know all of you will say that I need to give them a rejection message, but that's not exactly the point, my question is why do they still keep trying??

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    Because they are the type of men who want what they can't have....there are PLENTY of people like this. It's kinda pathetic, but they are out there. My suggestion is if you want it to stop then tell them to leave you alone. Who cares what they think?

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    yeah I know it's my fault because I have to tell them to stop and that i'm not interested. It's just that when I've done this they start an argument with me and I don't like drama so it's easier to ignore the text. most guys get the hint.. but there's always a few guys who will endlessly keep trying and it just amazes me!

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    One reason you keep on messaging/calling is because there could
    be many many reasons, other than that you're ignoring, that you're
    not answering. Say someone calls you, but you were at a meeting,
    so you don't answer. Then you might have been about to call them afterwards
    or text them, explaining that, but then you either forget or you get distracted.
    So then they call again and it continues.

    Of course, some people are just plain persistent. I think some want to show
    that they are dedicated if they keep calling, even if there are big intervals
    between calls/texts. One of my friends knew a guy, whom had been rude to
    her, but even a YEAR after she had told him no and didn't answer, he still
    would send her a text or two at some point. And eventhough she didn't like
    him, she did give him kudos for being persistent, which is a plus mind you.

    But really, this take a hint stuff and ignoring, is a pathetic way to go about
    it, if you haven't even had the courtesy to drop one line saying no sorry, forget it.
    Maybe if you did, less would keep texting/calling. There's easily a sense of ''not getting closure''
    if you just ignore out of the blue. Hence why you keep on trying to establish contact,
    so you can find out just exactly what the issue/reason was.

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    Hmmmm..better yet...tell the guy you WANT to get married within the next couple of months and have a baby...chances are they will leave skid marks....lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by ut804 [Register to see the link]
    yeah I know it's my fault because I have to tell them to stop and that i'm not interested. It's just that when I've done this they start an argument with me and I don't like drama so it's easier to ignore the text. most guys get the hint.. but there's always a few guys who will endlessly keep trying and it just amazes me!
    Even if they start an argument, after that, you can ignore them.
    So long as you have made it clear you're not interested and wont answer from
    now on and farewell.

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    Society rewards those who do not give up...it is the way of the American Dream!!

    "don't take no for an answer"
    "If at first you don't succeed, try, try again"
    "Live the dream"
    "the power of positive thinking"
    "you miss 100% of the shots you don't take"
    "never, ever give up"
    "Life has no limitations, except the ones you make"
    "Remember: Success is nothing but luck. Just ask any failure."
    "Whether you think you can or can't, you're right."
    "An obstacle is often a stepping stone."
    "Life is "trying things to see if they work"
    "Vision without action is daydreaming and action without vision is a nightmare."

    The list goes on and on. This kind of perseverance makes for successful salesmen, businessmen, inventors and especially politicians. America, capitalism and world domination was built on this kind of thinking. That dogged determination, that eternal hope in face of failure, that unshakeable conviction of ones destiny.
    Every star in hollywood, every top musician, every writer, every artists knows all abut being rejected a 1000 times before achieving their goals. They are successful becuase they did NOT accept failure.

    This message is broadcast everywhere, television, all media, self help books, biographies, education, counselling, authorities figures....right down to elementary schools.

    Is it a small wonder why men translate this kind thinking into the pursuit of women. Especially when for some women, playing hard to get is a sport to them...expecially when it pays off.

    The sad truth is if your not doing this, then someone is doing it to you....on a personal level, yesterday, I had a salesman follow me out to parking lot...right out to my car to try to finalize a sale. It could seem his eyes gleaming, like a tiger about to make a kill. He failed, I won...to fight it out another day

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    guy #1 - he sounds creepy, glad you didn't meet him. i think it is fair to block his number.

    guy #2 - you said he was a friend. maybe he still considers you a friend, even if you do not. there's no real nice way to say 'we're not friends anymore.' so i guess i would just slowly trail off contact with him.

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    i agree that "persistence pays off." while sometimes the girl is annoyed, sometimes, he finally wears her down. lol. i know several relationships where the man persued the woman for years before she finally relented, and now they are happily married.

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    Quote Originally Posted by annie24 [Register to see the link]
    i agree that "persistence pays off." while sometimes the girl is annoyed, sometimes, he finally wears her down. lol. i know several relationships where the man persued the woman for years before she finally relented, and now they are happily married.
    I suspect those relationships are anomalies. Relatively straight forward findings in social psychology suggest that in the vast majority of cases, persistence doesn't pay off when one party is not interested in the other.

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