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    Question Is Fingering and Giving/Receiving Hand Jobs considered Sex?

    I was talking to this girl yesterday and I was shocked by what she told me next. She told me that “fingering and giving/receiving hand jobs are considered sex”, I would like to hear your two cents on this. Do you agree or disagree with this? If you do agree, is doing something like this during the second week of a relationship considered moving too fast? If you do agree with this, why do you agree and if you disagree with this, why do you disagree?

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    I think when you decide to partake in sexual acts with someone (handjobs, actual sex, fingering, oral, WHATEVER) is totally up to the people involved. I can't say. Personally, I like to wait a month or more before going beyond kissing and getting my breasts felt up, but that's just me. It will be different for everyone.

    And I disagree with the girl....I think intercourse = sex. All other acts are sexual, but if the penis isn't in the vagina, it's not sex. Just my opinion.

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    I think second week is rushing it, but I am on the boat that this is technically considered sex. There are orifices being mingled with lol.

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    I think technically a penis in a vagina is considered sexual intercourse.

    When they do lie detectors they always say 'sexual contact' for anything before actual 'sexual intercourse'

    So i believe its just 'sexual contact'

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    To me, sex is when you're actually having intercourse with the person.

    Sure, doing other things are considered sexual, but I would not say it's the same as fornication.

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    It depends on what the meaning of the word is is.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Fudgie [Register to see the link]
    I think when you decide to partake in sexual acts with someone (handjobs, actual sex, fingering, oral, WHATEVER) is totally up to the people involved. I can't say. Personally, I like to wait a month or more before going beyond kissing and getting my breasts felt up, but that's just me. It will be different for everyone.

    And I disagree with the girl....I think intercourse = sex. All other acts are sexual, but if the penis isn't in the vagina, it's not sex. Just my opinion.
    I agree with you here, though not with the second section... oral sex is sex.. hence the name. lol. I'm holding back on saying anything political.

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    Hi sweetpea03,

    Is giving/receiving hand jobs really oral sex though?

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    Quote Originally Posted by sweetpea03 [Register to see the link]
    I agree with you here, though not with the second section... oral sex is sex.. hence the name. lol. I'm holding back on saying anything political.

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    Quote Originally Posted by notgivingup [Register to see the link]
    Hi sweetpea03,

    Is giving/receiving hand jobs really oral sex though?

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    In my opinion, no, it would be considered mutual masturbation, in all technicality. But others may say that it is. That could be up for debate...

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    Quote Originally Posted by notgivingup [Register to see the link]
    Is giving/receiving hand jobs really oral sex though?

    There's no mouth involved, so no.

    All of the things listed in the first post are sexual activities, are sexual contact.

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