Not really, but I suspect that's what my ex told my daughters.
The truth is, I left my ex after years of struggle, trying to work things out, etc. I left my 30 year marriage. I fully expected eventually to find someone around my age (52), empty nester like me, divorced or widowed. Purely by chance and not as a result of my search, I met a woman who happens to be 10 years younger than me. She's everything I could have hoped for and we have become deeply committed to each other. We are engaged but at our age and past experience we don't worry about the big M so much. We consider ourselves as committed as any married couple and we function as such. I do worry occasionally worry about the age diff as time goes on but my gf says it's just a number. She has 16 and 18 yr old sons but I've "been there, done that" and I stay out of the parenting issues, just offering advice when asked. She says I have been a positive influence on her sons. So much to say, I haven't just run off with a younger woman, free and clear.
One of the problems is, after more than 2 years, my daughters still will not meet my gf. They still invite me to visit and holiday, etc. but expect me to show up alone. I have been very patient and understanding, and have accepted every invite. I even held off proposing to my gf, feeling like my daughters need to accept her before we take that step. She is very respectful of them and has encouraged me to be patient. I have 2 sons who have reached out to us and accepted my gf.
But after 2 years, I feel like they're just being childish and stubborn in their refusal to have anything to do with her. We have moved forward with the engagement, letting all my siblings and my sons know. Since my daughters have told me they don't want to hear about my gf, I haven't told them, though I'm sure they've heard thru the grapevine by now.
Now the holidays are upon us, and I'm very conflicted about leaving my gf once again, to visit my daughter for T-day. I have already declined dinner but was considering stopping for dessert in the evening. But the more I think of it, the more angry and hurt I get. I have been very patient and put certain aspects of my life on hold waiting for them to face and overcome this issue. But I feel like they have taken advantage of my patience and kept me in this corner. I think its my turn to "have an issue" with their intolerance, and take a stand, decline to visit altogether and let them deal with it.
Anyone else with similar experience that would care to comment?